Panto in an hour, guess what my husband is doing ?

[haretodaygonelater]

Pulling up the patio as the slabs are uneven! I mean yeah it needs done, but today!!

Yup, you can't spell 'pantomimes' without 'pants'!

When we were just leaving to visit his mum after her mastectomy my husband decided to wash the car (I forbade him)

This is my dhs attitude to tidying. I will remove all the books/dvds/cds from their alloted place and reorganise them according to some arcane classification system known only to the ancients. Not actually putting things away and cleaning. And yes I know why he does it.

Tuesday I needed to run a couple of errands. I’d heard Dd ask her dad to play with her and heard some mumbling in reply. I go out to my car and there he is vacuuming it.
said I need to go out and to go play with DD and got sighs and huffs in return. 😤 wtf?

a friend hosted us for a celebration one year and was going to join us for a show beforehand. instead of getting ready and helping her with it her OH decides that would be the perfect time to clean up the spare room, she missed the show and had to prepare everything herself. As if any of us were going to be wandering around their house while we were there. That was an awful, on edge occasion which should have been a lovely day.

No idea, but seeing it written everywhere recently irritates me too, for some reason.

Or that he is making your job a bit easier...
Remember Brookside....

This kind of thing was a running joke at university - "Got a big deadline?" was asked on finding any housemate over-doing the washing-up or housework.

Panto, patio, they sound so similar...
Regarding avoidance, I once stripped the wallpaper and repainted the ceiling in a bathroom to skip my turn at dishes

Oh my gps your husband is me- Christmas Eve, all gifts to be wrapped and I started cleaning the attic. It had been bugging me forever and I just started laying into it🙈

Tell him it will be uneven when he goes under it.

I work with a lot of Scottish people and they say/write it so I assumed its regional.

I'm enforcing a DIY ban for the month of December starting from 2025. We are down to one shower at the moment as, in a house of 5, DH decided to clean the shower last week, for the first time in 9 years. He got some new brush attachments for his drill and he wanted to try them out. He took the shower door off to clean it properly and dropped it, smashing it. Spent 300 quid on a whole new door enclosure as you can't just get a replacement door. Spent 100 quid on another tool attachment to cut tiles and when installing the new enclosure, eventually realised it doesn't fit. 400 quid down and less a shower. Another year it was the downstairs toilet. Lots of utubes, google searches, runs to the DIY store and rolls his eyes if I suggest getting a professional in. He actually told me a plumber wouldn't fit a shower enclosure. WTF. It's been an expensive month and he's just dropped 400 on nothing and will need to drop similar again to get another new enclosure. I wouldn't mind but that bathroom is on the revamp list so it's all going to be ripped out so any money spent on it is a loss but we need a second shower and it's the only electric shower in the house. He's not getting a penny from me for it.

Think it's a man thing. Not my hubby but my dad the morning of my wedding decided he had to purchase a rocking bench for their deck - dragging my mum to the local garden centre. When they got back he proceeded to put it together, not only that he dragged me into getting involved (I had my makeup, hair and bail on at this point). When my wedding transport turned up, he still hasn't had a shower or got dressed. Normally it's the bride that makes the bridal party late not the father of the bride 🤣🤣

You sure that's why he's taking up the slabs?????

My son and I went out riding this morning. We had to ride through a small housing estate. Honestly, every other house had a man with a jet wash outside! Car cleaning, bike cleaning, patio cleaning... Bet all the women are inside cursing them for not helping clean the house 😂

I remember someone recommended this story on MN years ago when I had just had my baby and I think of it often.

@haretodaygonelater - how long are you now going to be without a patio?

To his credit, my DH (who has ADHD) did realise yesterday he'd started declogging the drains ten minutes before we were due at my brother's and duly stopped.

Classic male avoidance of doing something they don’t want to.

Reminds me of this Rosie made a thing cartoon. Which may or may look like a previous Christmas morning in our house, minus the trip to Bethlehem 🙄

I'd rather dig a patio than go the panto, tell your DH 1) he has my deepest sympathies but also 2) to get his arse in gear, his DC are waiting

😂Would the dishes not have been easier?

This is why there was no room at the inn. He'd left it too late and they were all full.

How inconsiderate...😤
I hate that men just
Will he be sleeping on the sofa tonight?? Oh no he won't (oh yes he will 😈)

So this is why I find MN invaluable, because to me this behaviour is not acceptable once, let alone over many years, and I don't see the humour in it? So it's interesting for me to see how people handle it, as reader, I divorced mine. Obvs he did other shit as well, but to me this is weaponised incompetence.