Panto in an hour, guess what my husband is doing ?

[haretodaygonelater]

Pulling up the patio as the slabs are uneven! I mean yeah it needs done, but today!!

Presumably for the same reasons women sabotage their partners work/efforts/plans?

Alternatively your mother was a drama lama riddled with anxiety and had to be there two hours early whereas your dad actually had an appreciation of time and knew you didn’t need to rush and was just being thorough.

Sorry to let the side down but my husband still laughs about the time I decided to make a massive batch of pickle two hours before we were due to go to the theatre 😬

Nope. Infact imagining that scenario makes me laugh.

I remember walking into church behind a bride because my Dad needed to clean the car before we set off.

My DH is definitely partial to a 35 minute poo and the need to pressure wash the patio 30 minutes before guests arrive.

They are socialised into some of this shite but honestly some of it must to be chemical.

I would wash ten cars and clean twenty toilets To avoid the ironing. I send most of it out 😁

My DH had me painting the lounge wall a couple of days before Christmas Eve despite needing to write cards, wrap presents and clean the whole house.

Exactly. The indulgent comments about how it's a man thing and bloke priorities are slightly depressing. I would bet most if not all of these men hold down jobs, capably, and are more than well aware of priorities there.

The default whereby the woman is automatically the house manager, and the man 'helps' is how this begins. There's no way I'd be tearing around doing everything eg preparing for his family to visit, while he arses around with fecking fairy lights.

Make 2025 the year that you all stop this nonsense.

My now ex decided to sand down our oak worktops in the kitchen on Christmas Eve when I’d popped out to get a few last min bits. He KNEW I was going to start prepping for Christmas dinner when I got back. We were hosting HIS family the next day, a total of 15 people for dinner. Not only did it mean I had to prep everything hunched over a miniscule coffee table, he also didn’t use the bag on the sander, so there was wood dust everywhere in the kitchen, all over the table I’d already set, the decorations, flowers etc. I had to clean up after doing all the prep as he ducked off down the pub when I voiced my displeasure.

I would like to say that was the last straw and that I left his abusive arse then. It took another six years unfortunately.

Omg who are these panto haters?! Literally my favourite festive outing 😂

@haretodaygonelater I'd much rather re lay a patio... any day

This sounds like something I'd do tbf 🤣 does he have ADHD?

Unless he's preparing a final resting place for his wife!

The afternoon before our children's baptisms he decided that the hideous, very thick and expensive, wallpaper on the chimney breast of our newish house needed changing. We went out and bought too much and when we returned home he started stripping the old paper which luckily came off easily and left a good lining paper, he then decided to be fun Dad/Uncle and told them they could draw on the lining paper with felt tips as he prepared the stuff for hanging the new paper. The following morning I went to admire the new wall to find that the felt pen had leeched through the new paper! Luckily we managed to strip it all and, having bought too much, repapered it, finishing ten minutes before we had to leave for Church. Our guests were none the wiser until the children told everyone!

Just remembered the year when expecting 12 people to Christmas lunch he decided to put the washing machine on in the morning. It was only when I came to lift the turkey out of the oven that I realised that he had helpfully put all three oven gloves in there! (Why does this site not like the word turkey? It gets underlined in red every time.)

My exH's motto was 'The house is on fire,I'll go and decorate the bathroom'. 😂

I’ve just come back from a Panto, husbands were outside smoking weed and vaping while Wives and children inside before curtain up. A few I am sure were high on drugs too. So patio slabs I’d let that one pass.

What’s with all the panto haters here? I love the panto and still go with my kids every year they are 17 and 22 this year and both love it too 😃

Oh no he isn’t…

My DD and her DP took their nieces and nephews to Panto, she called at the intermission, when I asked how it was going, her reply was 'it's fuckin awful but the kids are having a ball' 😀

I may be naive but in DH's case I think it is some kind of anxious behaviour rather than done deliberately to get out of things

In general I have always worked and been the higher earner, we have shared things fairly equally re: chores etc and he manages communication, plans and presents for his own family and I do mine but give him a deadline and a number of things to get done and he gets into a flap and defaults to doing things that he knows/ likes doing/ is confident on even if they are low priority stuff.

He is self employed in a field I know nothing about so he may do this at work too for all I know just I am not there to see it.

The last time we went on holiday, my husband decided to change a tap in the kitchen about 30 minutes before we left.
I was surprised at the change from his normal decision to do a major clear out of the garage.
OP I totally empathise…..

On the we moved house my husband decided a picture needed re-framing and disappeared for 3 hours.

The grammar is all wrong though. I'm no expert but surely, 'it needs needs to be done' or 'it was done'. Looked it up:
The word done is never a verb all by itself. A true party animal, this verb form insists on being accompanied by helping verbs. In grammarspeak, which you do NOT have to learn, done is a past participle of the verb to do. Naked, shivering, totally alone participles, such as done, never function as verbs.
From Grammar for dummies (that would be me)

My dad once came in to my room while I was away and colour coordinated my entire (large) bookcase. 😱it was so out of character I thought it was the ghost, but it was just a hardcore bit of procrastination.