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DH complaining about my Christmas Dinner

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TuffasOldBoots · 26/12/2024 05:12

Primarily the beef! Which wasn’t good - tough as old boots he said. Reminded him of a shoe etc.

DH worked Christmas Day, home at 2. We have small children and I spend the morning/afternoon running between the kitchen and the living room cooking/playing with the kids/opening presents/building toys and cleaning and cooking a big Christmas dinner.

Main was a huge turkey crown which was beautiful, everyone enjoyed it. All fresh veg, homemade cauliflower cheese, Yorkshires, all the trimmings etc. Beef was an extra (small joint) but not the main event. Texted DH in the morning-help! I’ve never cooked beef before (I eat mostly a vegetarian diet) how long does he want me to cook it for? Just guess! Was his reply!

Served up the dinner and he moaned and moaned about how the beef was like an old boot and he could barely cut through it.

It was very tough-told him to leave it and just eat the turkey.

To make it worse - his family came over in the evening and they asked how our dinner was and all he could mention was the beef being like old boots and our kids laughed along. His Mum then offered to teach me how to cook beef. Grr! He also commented on how much I had spent on the turkey this year-it was expensive but I was alone with the children and had to wait for DH to be home so I could shop for it, not much left and spend a lot more than usual.

Felt like I was in the kitchen for several hours prepping, cooking and cleaning. I was exhausted when he came home. AIBU? I was v.embarrassed when he mentioned it in front of his family and it sounded like the whole of my dinner was shit when it was only one of many other dishes.

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BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 10:55

But the issue isn't that she did not google. The issue is that he left her to do everything and then fucking moaned- including to his parents. Like she was a housemaid who fell short.

beetr00 · 26/12/2024 10:56

not the point of your thread @TuffasOldBoots but Tesco customer services are excellent.

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Tortielady · 26/12/2024 10:57

He's a miserable ingrate @TuffasOldBoots . Tell him that you are not his mother, nor are you Delia Smith and you are not running the kitchens at The Ivy and if he wants something different to what's on offer in future, he can buy and cook it himself. Next year, do something pre-made for yourself and your DC (eg. M&S have lovely little goat's cheese tartlets) and let your DH fend for himself.

WeregoingtoIbiza · 26/12/2024 11:01

For those struggling to cook beef, my best joints have been cooked in the air fryer.

For a roasting joint just over 1kgs, put the grill for 20 mins then add the beef. Cook on grill for 25 minutes then leave to rest in the air fryer for 25 minutes without opening.

We had a Tesco roasting joint and this method has never let me down.

That aside, your DH should be more appreciative of all your hard work. Let him cook next time to see how difficult it is to do such a big dinner.

YourAzureHiker · 26/12/2024 11:07

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Twiglets1 · 26/12/2024 11:08

Itsalwaysfools · 26/12/2024 08:18

Goodness, what a terrible consequence for this poor man....

I mean personally I wouldn’t put up with shit like that from anyone but I doubt OP is about to LTB so I’m not gonna bother suggesting it.

BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 11:12

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and again the point is not that she did not google. The point is her husband is a misogynistic arse.

(I'm going to cut and paste this so I can post every time someone says something about how she failed at doing everything and being everything)

Quitelikeit · 26/12/2024 11:12

You needed a slow cooker and in that for 6 hours

BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 11:12

and again the point is...

nup, can't be bothered.

SunriseCat · 26/12/2024 11:13

BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 11:12

and again the point is...

nup, can't be bothered.

How is it that so many posters are focusing on the beef cooking specifics 🤦🏻‍♀️

DarkDarkNight · 26/12/2024 11:14

What a fucking arse, you managed to pull a whole Christmas dinner together while also supervising 2 small children and trying to be there while they opened presents and played with their toys. He should have said oh well the beef isn’t great but the turkey was delicious. As you l said it was an extra to go with the turkey, not the only meat.

Humiliating you in front of family was dickhead behaviour. I’m sure he’ll do a better job when he cooks the whole dinner while looking after the kids next year 🫠

Im not much of a cook but know some people put beef in the slow cooker. Any time I’ve attempted it in the oven it’s been tough so you’re not alone.

YourAzureHiker · 26/12/2024 11:15

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Nanny0gg · 26/12/2024 11:18

Tel12 · 26/12/2024 06:12

It was cheap and you get what you pay for. However it doesn't excuse your husband's response. Tell him it's his turn next year.

Next year?

If that's his general attitude he can find somewhere else to eat his Christmas dinner.

YourAzureHiker · 26/12/2024 11:18

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BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 11:20

I am not peculiar at all. The people who focus on fucking cooking instructions when it is abundantly clear that the OP has much bigger issues on her plate are just rather spectacularly missing the point.

And you are extremely rude.

YourAzureHiker · 26/12/2024 11:22

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jeaux90 · 26/12/2024 11:22

@BugsyMaroon I'm with you!

DH is a misogynist asshole and the OP should be divorcing the useless pig.

RandomMess · 26/12/2024 11:22

Next year if you are still with your rude ungrateful H then find a deli counter that sells freshly roasted beef, turkey etc and buy cooked slices.

It would be better still for you to go out for several hours and it's his turn to cook.

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Twiglets1 · 26/12/2024 11:22

BugsyMaroon · 26/12/2024 11:20

I am not peculiar at all. The people who focus on fucking cooking instructions when it is abundantly clear that the OP has much bigger issues on her plate are just rather spectacularly missing the point.

And you are extremely rude.

I agree with you Bugsy but for your own sanity I advise leaving this thread now, as I’m doing.

viques · 26/12/2024 11:24

MumChp · 26/12/2024 05:17

Next year you leave home and he fix Christmas dinner and entertain the children.

I wouldn’t wait until Christmas, plan something for Easter Sunday, (include his family) , then isolate yourself in your bedroom with a particularly infectious brand of Covid.

Not to mention Mother’s Day. Ditto. Or any random Sunday when he says he fancies a big roast dinner.

Easipeelerie · 26/12/2024 11:24

Forget the beef. It’s just one examplele of how unkind he is. He sounds capable of great cruelty and selfishness. I’d LTB, not least because he so casually got the family involved in mocking you rather than having them celebrate you.

YourAzureHiker · 26/12/2024 11:27

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TuffasOldBoots · 26/12/2024 11:32

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Huh?? 🤔 That wasn’t me?? Link to thread please!

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C8H10N4O2 · 26/12/2024 11:33

Notcopingbutstillstanding · 26/12/2024 06:03

You need to lose your shit, like I did three Christmases ago. I did bite my tongue till everyone had gone.
I'd produced 13 dishes for
nine people: all the usual suspects - and good vegetarian options for some family members. Working with an oven the size of a Rubik's cube.
After he'd heaped his plate, my H sat down, and over everyone else's "wow, this looks amazing" etc, leaned toward me, and said ...."did I miss the bread sauce?"
How I didn't Frisbee his plate, I don't know.
He'd been a grumpy git that Christmas and it was definitely passive aggressive, I know him.
Anyway. He's never pulled a trick like that again.

Yes this.

He's being an arse, you need to tell him he is being an arse and that he can cook his own bloody dinner next year if yours isn't up to his high standards. You managed the DC whilst cooking the whole shebang and he is whinging because an "extra" wasn't to his liking. Sod that for a lark.