To think this is just rude on christmas Day

[Lucyy97]

To invite your daughter and grand daughter round then walk dog twice and spend over 2 and half hours upstairs in bed ?

There's a lot of viruses going around which leave you very tired
He may have eaten or drank a bit too much and needed a lie down (no guests but we've slept on and off all day)
The dog needed walking and presumably is used to a long walk

Maybe ask yourself why you've taken it so personally? Is there something you're worried about yourself or your relationship with him?

Do you two not talk to each other? Ask your mum to watch your DD downstairs and pop upstairs and ask him if he’s ok and what’s up.

I think he probably struggles with the level of stimulation having young kids around and is trying to avoid it. Doesn’t stop it being rude though, he could make a fucking effort

Me and my husband (who’s also 57!) had all the kids round yesterday. DH loves the kids and the grandkids, but gets overwhelmed so he often just sits in the room and happily zones out, or takes the dog for a walk, or usually he cooks but spends the full 2 hours in the kitchen. He is genuinely at his happiest when everyone is here, but he needs space sometimes so he can be present in chunks. I’m the opposite to a degree in that I throw myself into having everyone round, but then need a few hours silence after everyone leaves.

He could be unwell - has anyone checked on him?

Maybe by now he’s peopled out and christmased out and now he needs quiet time?

Maybe all is not well between your parents, OP?

Not all dogs need two walks a day if they're walked properly!

Yeah @Lucyy97 You're leaving a lot of context out here. We don't know anything about your parents. How they are normally etc. Bit of a guessing game!

Perhaps he's coming down with something? Loads of bugs about.

How's your mum been? Have you gone home again now? I'd prefer to be back in my own place under the circumstances, I must admit.

My late dad used to do this , had to be cajoled into even opening his presents and once lunch was over would go for a nap - he loved his family just not a very social person

You need to ask him directly. Dad you don’t seem yourself is everything okay?

If it's out of character I'd be concerned about him rather than accusing him of being rude.
What was your Mum's take on it?

Whose idea was it to have you round for Christmas? Maybe he's had a row with your mum and didn't want guests?

You seem more pissed off than concerned for him…

Is your dad OK - perhaps he is ill or anxious or depressed or just not coping well.

They've had a row. This is standard 'stay out of the way' behaviour.

Yep, I'd bet good money on this too. It's rude though.

Seems your relatives are very relaxed about Christmas day. I appreciate this because I hate being in strange houses for Christmas and do my own now

What's he normally like?

It may be a row but is anyone else thinking possible affair? Grumpy all day, not being involved, going for two dog walks, one of them very long. And being a misery because he has to be at home with the family and not with his AP.

I don't think it's an impossible stretch.

There we go then. Just chill. Some people don't christmas. It's not just him who invited you over your mum did too. May he's got stuff on his mind or yeah maybe you're pissing him off. Just leave him be.

Don't be so utterly ridiculous