For wanting to make me and my bf our own personal photo year advent calendar after reciving one from his brother and wife and 2 dogs?

[Laylalie]

I MEAN YEAR CALENDAR

Ive been thinking about making one for 3-4 weeks ago but now my bf and i recived as chritsmas gift from his brother and wife an year calendar with pictures of them and their dogs and names and birthdays and anniversarys, even the dogs birtdhays, My birthday is not written there neither me and my bfs 3 anniversary either, only his birtdhay and some other people i have no idea who are and my bfs other siblings anniversary, but not my bfs sister or his mom or grandparents(his sister not sibling of my bfs brother). Ok anyways. Nice pictures of them and the dogs buuuut feels a bit off hanging a year calendar of someone elses adventures, would have come better of as a chritsmas card. My bf dosn’t know i had this planned either.. so there for i don’t want to come out as mean or rude or that i didnt like their gift.. the chocolates where nice tho, But the year calendar seems so impersonal to me. We don’t live togheter yet but will on february next year. My bf only see his brother on family birtdhays and barely talk on socials. So they don’t visit each other.

Those calendars are top cringe unless you're a grandparent.

Don't overthink it.

It was really a last minute gift for him, very ' kind ' of them to put your name on it too as you don't live together at the present time.

Shame you only thought about making your own calendar, too late now.

maybe you will make one yourself next year for the two of you.

as doing it now will just make you look petty/childish.

What a strange present

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon why so? I dont need calendar of them and their dogs every year. And be reminded of all their other families we dont even know.Who knows what happens by 2026 maybe he is not alive or me anymore (a bit dramatic i know) buuut its a whole year. I rather see pictures of us and our adventures than someone elses. Also he barely sees his brother and the wife. Prob 4-5 times a year we see them

@poemsandwine fr, i dont even think my own siblings would want a calendar with pictures of only us🤣 i get that they are very in love with their new labrador pup but we don’t need pictures of it just because they are all over the pup and other dog

it just be for us. Im not that tacky to give it to other people🤣

Yeah that’s how I’d read it 😆

I know - it’s more than enough to remember birthdays, I don’t even try to remember other people’s anniversaries! And I don’t care about their pets birthdays at all 😂

I really doubt they expect you to hang it up to be fair! It was probably a thing they were making for others and they just decided to include your boyfriend too. And if they do expect that they’re probably very self absorbed and will just need to deal with the disappointment 😅

@Sleybels yea thinking of it anniversarys are more for the own couple to remember they’re day they got togheter for them to do something special so i don’t really know why i or we need to know or what we have to do with their anniversary or the other siblings anniversaryes to remember like why. Because no one cares about when people get togheter🤣 but i will 100% write it down on our own even if not married. Because if we have one with only other people and their day then we might aswell have our own special one for us. Hell yea i want to be included in my own one when it gonna hang in the wall for a year!🤣
but said it was a (gift) from the dogs. I don’t think the other sibling got one since they allerady make with their own kids on

Crap gift, just forget about it

But I think it would be weird if they DID include your birthday and the date you and your boyfriend got together, to be honest. It doesn't sound like you know his family, and it sounds like a very new relationship so why would they?

How old are you OP? I'm in my mid 20s and I don't know many people at all who refer to specific "anniversaries" with boyfriends or girlfriends, it seems a little childish if I'm totally honest (sorry)

On behalf of grandparents, we don't necessarily want it either.

Really weird of someone to gift a calendar of others people’s pictures to someone else. Self important much?! But I don’t think you can really say anything until you’re living together. Once you are, pop it down and put another up just casually saying how bizarre it is to have other people’s pictures up. If you’re lucky, he might think that himself and just not bother putting it up at all.

Its a pretty rubbish gift. I wonder if they we’re doing one for someone else and there was a multi buy offer on. It’s not really a gift off you. Putting your name on was a token acknowledgement of your presence so they didn’t seem rude or have to get you a gift.

Maybe it's just me but I would find being gifted that calendar fucking hilarious. DH and I would hang it in the kitchen and make a solemn point of acknowledging the dogs' birthdays every year.

Yours with your dating anniversary would be even funnier.

What Narcs!

If doing that for whole family surely you would include others not just themselves.

People are strange.

@coffeeandteav fr like i want to feel included 🤣 i uNderstand if we where only dating less than a year or sthm but soon 3 whole years🤣 i not that interested to see pictures of his brother and wife and their dogs every month for a whole year lol Neither do i care about their other families and dogs birthdays. I haven’t writed their birtdhay or anniversarys on mine, mostly bcs now or idk it will stay at my place or maybe i bring it and he wants to hang it up to.

Thing is that they should have rather just put my bfs name on the gift than both of us. Since that gift had nothing to do with me. We got 2 gifts from them for both of us. 1 where chocholates and then the calendar. We really didn’t need the calendar tbh. I also feel is a bit impersonal to write someone names on a gift tag that has nothing to do with the reciver. Like «yea here is a calendar of us and our dogs, even tough we have you on facebook we don’t bother with your birtdhay, but here is the days of our dogs birtdhay!» like im a supposed to care or congrats their dogs and remember their day it weird