For wanting to make me and my bf our own personal photo year advent calendar after reciving one from his brother and wife and 2 dogs?

[Laylalie]

I MEAN YEAR CALENDAR

Ive been thinking about making one for 3-4 weeks ago but now my bf and i recived as chritsmas gift from his brother and wife an year calendar with pictures of them and their dogs and names and birthdays and anniversarys, even the dogs birtdhays, My birthday is not written there neither me and my bfs 3 anniversary either, only his birtdhay and some other people i have no idea who are and my bfs other siblings anniversary, but not my bfs sister or his mom or grandparents(his sister not sibling of my bfs brother). Ok anyways. Nice pictures of them and the dogs buuuut feels a bit off hanging a year calendar of someone elses adventures, would have come better of as a chritsmas card. My bf dosn’t know i had this planned either.. so there for i don’t want to come out as mean or rude or that i didnt like their gift.. the chocolates where nice tho, But the year calendar seems so impersonal to me. We don’t live togheter yet but will on february next year. My bf only see his brother on family birtdhays and barely talk on socials. So they don’t visit each other.

@jannier fr. i think there is a fine limit in what personalized gifts to give people. Like why would i want to see pictures of them every month and be reminded that auntie clara has bday that we don’t even know🤣 and that fido is turning 3 years old! Like sre we supposed to send gift or send congratz idk prob not lol but a bitt tacky

I’m willing to bet it was a buy one get one free or half price etc

Id make your own one, who wants a calendar of someone else and their dogs 🤣

@fashionqueen0123 probs i guess🤣 since those things aren’t that cheap. I rather have one of our fishes than others dogs n people🤣

Twee and vomit inducing.

I expect they got a whole set made up and gave them to all their family members. I had a friend who did one every year for her parents, in laws, grandparents on both sides etc (in addition to a proper gift.)

They were really cheap per calendar once she’d done the layout - under a fiver each.

@Turophilic yea probs. But my opinion they could have saved that little ounce of money🤣 the chocolates where more than good enough. I made our own know that we will be setting up next to his brothers🤣

You’re not wrong!

It would have just been something his wife made to give to all the family, hence the family birthdays. If you don't live together it would be random to include your birthday, and noone celebrates a dating anniversary except for the couple. Just make your own calendar.

You're upset because they haven't included the date of you and your boyfriend's 3-yr anniversary?that's just bonkers, particularly as you bf barely has any relationship with these people.

It isn't January 1st yet, so why would it be hung yet?

Yes. If you aren’t willing to commit to your boyfriend and marry him then you would only be a girlfriend, regardless of how long you had been together. Not officially part of the family and only extended certain invites as a courtesy.

Ignore their calendar and make your own if you want to, OP. But just for yourselves- as you say nobody else will want a copy and you might offend someone by leaving out their birthday.

Yeah I make these calendars each year and it always comes up at the end asking if you want a second one and I always think who would want a calendar of us 🤣

It's not January yet

i make one for my dm and bil
but didnt get round to it this year
she will be disappointed

Your boyfriend should message them saying ‘thanks for the calendar but Layla’s birthday is missing from it. How am I supposed to remember when her birthday is now?’

Are they basically saying they expect presents for them and their children but won’t be getting you anything? Sounds like a deliberate snub.

Surely it's just a (weird) thing they make and give you everyone. It's not about you. Don't read anything into it or take it down personally. And fgs don't make your own. No family needs two self obsessed weirdo couples giving their unwanted gifts to all.

Weird and rubbish present for sure, but I don’t see why it’s much an issue for you.

You and your boyfriend don’t live together do you? If he chooses to use this calendar more fool him, if he doesn’t - smart move. At least it’s not going to be up in your house though which is the main thing surely.

I think also where his family went wrong is pretending this was also a gift to you. It was clearly only a gift to their brother and you hadn’t been considered which is fine since you’re not married and don’t live together - but they shouldn’t have tried to shoehorn you into it.

If you want to get your own calendar made for you and your boyfriend of course there’s nothing wrong with that And I doubt anyone will be offended.

The way I read it was OPs proposed calendar would just be for her and her boyfriend, not something they give us presents.

Or have I misunderstood?

Came to say this.

We just got one printed for our wedding photos (for ourself as a test), and we got to put on all the special dates and photos... then it was so cheap to add a 2nd, 3rd, 10th, the more you order, the cheaper it becomes.

I don’t even have pictures in our own hours of our own kids. I look at their faces every day.

I would bin the gift and let your actions speak. I’m past the point of caring about what others think and acting in a way that cares about their feelings more than mine.

i would very quietly bin it and move on. I would 100% NOT give the same shit gift back to them

@pinkdelight im making one for only us lol

@Sleybels it just be for us. Im not that tacky to give it to other people🤣. But i rather have our own with our own picturers and adventures, instead of someone elses. I don’t really care for other people pets or when they got it. Married or not who cares about other peoples anniversarys

How incredibly naff