To think MIL is being extremely rude

[glousy]

This year my kids are all elsewhere for Christmas, one is working, one is on a gap year in Australia and one is with her boyfriend.
We offered to come up to MILs and make her dinner and save her travelling, but she is being bloody well rude.

First - she invited 3 of DHs cousins and 2 kids to join us, so I've gone from making dinner for 3 to cooking for 8.
Second - last night we put some Christmas music on (think wizzard and wham) and she complained they couldn't sing, it wasn't real music and got out her little MP3 player, put her earphones in and sung loudly over it
Third - She got up at 6 am and opened all her presents while everyone else was still asleep. She's since complained non stop about one of the gifts
Fourth - I planned to make dinner for 3, she's now complained endlessly so I'm having to make it for 2 when no one else will be hungry yet.

AIBU to think she's been bloody rude? She's in her 80s but I don't think that's an excuse!!

You should have stepped back when she invited the other family members, you were going so that she wouldn't be alone, she invited extra company

She sounds awful. I would go home and leave them all to it.

Jesus that sounds awful!

What does your DH say? Why didn't you say no to the extra guests? Just curious. It's your house and your resources after all.

Yes she is rude. Has she always been like that?
Pity you didn't think of developing diplomatic covid when you hears about the other guests she invited!

It’s MIL’s house

She sounds awful OP.

Sorry we are at MILs this year, but I'm doing the cooking etc.

She didn't tell us until we arrived on Monday and said it very casually.

I've never hosted her at Christmas before usually DHs brother does Christmas but he's been away on holiday the last few years - starting to see why!

I'd honestly leave, OP. You and your husband go home, make some nice food or have a cheese board and have some wine together. Leave her whiney arse with the other family members to deal with.

I'd tell her why you're leaving too. Don't forget OP this is YOUR Christmas, just as much as hers.

I do think DH should be telling her to wind her neck in, though.

Definitely rude. Plus selfish, immature and obnoxious. Make sure you do zero cleaning up -you made dinner after all

What’s the present she’s bitching about?

Is it small enough to be frisbee’d out of a window?

I just want to know what present she is complaining about #nosey

Mine is also being rude and in her 80s, maybe they don't care by then?

I have all the food ready made but she is in the kitchen cooking it from scratch and on the phone to her daughter about me not being 'very ambitious' with the cooking

I'm just smiling politely and telling her 'how thoughtful but you don't need to cook' through gritted teeth.

Just rope in the extra guests to help with the prep/cooking. Give everyone a job.

The getting up early and opening her presents sounds well odd - the rest I can get (though inviting the extra guests without telling you is so rude - had you bought the food)? Your DH needed to have said something.

Go an wake her son up and tell him his mum needs him in the kitchen.

My mother being odd with presents and wanted jydt to open all of hers straight away at Christmas was with hindsight an early dementia sign.

A dressing gown ... she doesn't like the colour 😅

Ooooo, get her to put it on and pretend she’s Scrooge!!

I think all you can do is laugh this one off and vow not to repeat this next year.

She is so bad - it’s a joke!

I can imagine how awful it feels to be there with her so maybe just go about your business and ignore her as best you can.

Leave as soon as you can and then focus on having a lovely New Year.

I’m autistic and have ADHD - it doesn’t cause me to be rude to people.

I was referring to her getting up at 6am and opening presents alone and listening to music on her own with earphones in. Sorry I didn’t mean to cause offence

The dressing gown of Christmas doom 😂

Hold tight OP it will soon be over and you’ll be home 💐

I’m sure you didn’t mean to be, but this is pretty offensive. ‘Some sort of spectrum?’ 🤨

MIL just sounds like an arse to me.

I mean I'm ND, she doesn't sound ND at all to me, she just sounds rude and miserable.