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Aibu to think wombs, virgin or otherwise, are not abhorent?

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PencilsInSpace · 25/12/2024 01:43

Just got back from midnight service where we sang o come all ye faithful which praises christ for not abhoring the virgin womb.

I'm an atheist but culturally Christian and have sung those lyrics throughout my childhood without a second thought but they're awful aren't they?

Is a belief in the abhorrence of wombs central to Christianity or is it time to bin that verse, just as that verse from all things bright and beautiful about everyone staying in their place was binned?

OP posts:
borntobequiet · 25/12/2024 09:31

The “how silently” bit is about the gift of faith brought about by believing in Christ, not about the process of birth.

YABU for all the reasons given by others, and for taking so long to notice that the language used in hymns and carols is rather strange.

RedRosesPinkLilies · 25/12/2024 09:32

@PencilsInSpace stick to your beliefs next year and don’t go to Church.

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/12/2024 09:33

Pomegranatecarnage · 25/12/2024 01:53

I also sing in a church choir and dislike this line! There’s lots of misogynistic stuff like this. Like « how silently the wondrous gift is given »- who gives birth in silence?

Women in some cultures women do but I don't think that's what it means. It means without fanfare.

Treaclewell · 25/12/2024 09:36

I watched the carols from Kings last night and was struck by how very male they all were. At least they did use women for the readings. I wanted.after the annunciation a loud female Gospel version of the Magnificat - Trump and Musk hear what God has in mind for you! They had a very peculiar poem after the most highly flavoured gravy carol (ruined by my sisters school) which seemed to suggest that the conception was more normal than it is supposed to have been. Made me squirm.
All the good tidings are for men.
I came to my own interpretion of the abhorring line. The writer is pointing out to his fellows that God does not find wombs abhorrent, unlike his male creatures who are all niminy piminy fussy and ick about them

Treaclewell · 25/12/2024 09:46

And 'O little town of Bethlehem' I can't sing enthusiastically now since I found myself thinking a parody. 'Along thy deep and sleepless streets the tanks go crawling by. And red the snipers' laser lights pick out their targets ............' you get the idea.

kindlyensure · 25/12/2024 09:48

I like the 'How Silently' line because it's followed by 'So God imparts to human hearts, the blessings of his Heaven'. Which suggests a kind of quiet wonder. Like the stillness of God coming into your heart. I've never thought of it as a giving birth line.

I suppose 'abhor' could be like purity and careful treatment of the virgin's womb as a sacred space. As in, Jesus has been gently 'placed there' by God and has not arrived through thrusting or any other such violent means.

Although the womb is probs pretty abhorred after she has given birth, tbf

Sossijiz · 25/12/2024 09:50

I was picking apart the lyrics of Good King Wenceslas yesterday (is he not a bit up himself to know that his footprints are heat-giving?).

I wouldn't expect too much from the sort of idiot who goes on an overnight trek with an underage employee without a proper risk assessment.

BlackCatsForever · 25/12/2024 09:51

It’s not the fact that she’s a virgin or a woman - it’s the fact that she is human and Christ is divine.

FiveFoxes · 25/12/2024 09:52

TempestStormAndWine · 25/12/2024 05:58

I love swungen, too! And some of the iffy rhymes that sort of work written down but not when sung. Hence my new username in fact ("...the blessed babe to find" rhyming with "tempest, storm and wind" in God Rest Ye Merry)

@TempestStormAndWine - Apparently wind used to be pronounced to rhyme with find. Then there was a great vowel shift and people pronounced it differently!
www.classicfm.com/discover-music/occasions/christmas/god-rest-ye-merry-gentlemen-lyrics-meaning/

FictionalCharacter · 25/12/2024 09:56

WaitingforStrike · 25/12/2024 01:55

See I would have thought that meant without fanfare, it wasn't a king being born with trumpets and everyone celebrating.

That's exactly what it means IMO. It doesn't mean Mary gave birth in silence!

"He abhors not" doesn't mean wombs are abhorrent either. That isn't suggested at all. As a PP said, it means he didn't avoid coming to Earth as a human baby, birthed by a human woman like all other humans. As a deity he could have arrived in a much more grand mystical fashion, not been born in a stable to poor people!

I'm no fan of hymns and carols, but I think people are interpreting this wrongly. They're written in a style from the past using words not often used in the present day, and you can't interpret them literally or according to modern use of language.

Elsvieta · 25/12/2024 09:56

It means God became human in the person of Christ, I.e. he didn't think he was above being in a normal human body (and getting there the same way we all do). The "abhors not" thing just means he didn't think he, a divine being, was above becoming just like the rest of us. So just making the central point of Christian theology - nothing misogynist in it.

AdviceAdvice123 · 25/12/2024 10:14

I don’t disagree OP, but carols are based on Christianity (in its various forms) and Church doctrine. I’d suggest that if you find the wording of carols offensive, then you should perhaps be questioning the institution in which you are participating!

AgileGreenSeal · 25/12/2024 10:16

RubyRobin1 · 25/12/2024 09:01

@AgileGreenSeal thank you 😊. I don’t imagine it to be how it’s depicted in modern culture.
Bethlehem was always on my bucket list…

I do agree that you were spot on about His arrival being humble. An obscure house in a little town without fanfare (except to the most humble of all its inhabitants, the shepherds).

Even when the Magi were looking for Him they went to the palace. Only those who knew the Micah 5:2 prophecy knew where He was.

But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah, though you are small among the clans of Judah, out of you will come for me one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are from of old, from ancient times.”

AgileGreenSeal · 25/12/2024 10:17

Elsvieta · 25/12/2024 09:56

It means God became human in the person of Christ, I.e. he didn't think he was above being in a normal human body (and getting there the same way we all do). The "abhors not" thing just means he didn't think he, a divine being, was above becoming just like the rest of us. So just making the central point of Christian theology - nothing misogynist in it.

Good point, well made 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

FearOfTheDucks · 25/12/2024 10:18

I think a lot of these lines have some figurative meaning.

The one I'm curious about is the three ships sailing into landlocked Bethlehem. The three wise men? But they didn't get there on Christmas Day.

girljulian · 25/12/2024 10:19

FictionalCharacter · 25/12/2024 09:56

That's exactly what it means IMO. It doesn't mean Mary gave birth in silence!

"He abhors not" doesn't mean wombs are abhorrent either. That isn't suggested at all. As a PP said, it means he didn't avoid coming to Earth as a human baby, birthed by a human woman like all other humans. As a deity he could have arrived in a much more grand mystical fashion, not been born in a stable to poor people!

I'm no fan of hymns and carols, but I think people are interpreting this wrongly. They're written in a style from the past using words not often used in the present day, and you can't interpret them literally or according to modern use of language.

Exactly. It’s like holding up a big sign saying “I don’t understand linguistic change and refuse to try”

TheKeatingFive · 25/12/2024 10:20

FearOfTheDucks · 25/12/2024 10:18

I think a lot of these lines have some figurative meaning.

The one I'm curious about is the three ships sailing into landlocked Bethlehem. The three wise men? But they didn't get there on Christmas Day.

I don't think that carol has anything to do with Bethlehem though

Accidentallyrude · 25/12/2024 10:24

I always interpreted the three ships as being a sort of medieval vision perhaps, on Christmas day he saw them sailing or floating with Christ and Mary inside. That's how I like to think of it.

Though on googling, I learn they were apparently the three ships transporting the remains of the Magi to Cologne cathedral, so there you go.

TempestStormAndWine · 25/12/2024 10:44

FiveFoxes · 25/12/2024 09:52

@TempestStormAndWine - Apparently wind used to be pronounced to rhyme with find. Then there was a great vowel shift and people pronounced it differently!
www.classicfm.com/discover-music/occasions/christmas/god-rest-ye-merry-gentlemen-lyrics-meaning/

I didn't know that, thank you!

RubyRobin1 · 25/12/2024 11:15

@AgileGreenSeal do you study the Bible? I try to study parts. The second coming of Christ will be amazing (for those who get to witness it) I am of the belief that everyone will realise what is happening, whether believers or not.

Thank you for this thread OP. It makes for an interesting read.

BellissimoGecko · 25/12/2024 11:21

DappledThings · 25/12/2024 01:48

It's just pointing out that generally babies abhor, meaning avoid, and therefore don't appear in, the womb of a virgin. It's just reinforcing the message of Mary's miraculous conception. Nowt to do with wombs being generally abhorrent.

This.

BellissimoGecko · 25/12/2024 11:22

PencilsInSpace · 25/12/2024 01:49

Also the next line is 'very god' - what kind of a shite lyric is that?

It means 'real God'. Nothing wrong with it.

WaitingforStrike · 25/12/2024 11:55

ShiteRider · 25/12/2024 09:12

They had all sorts turning up in the stable didn’t they? I don’t think it means that.

Wise men and shepherds. Not the types you'd normally get at the birth of a kind, no!

AgileGreenSeal · 25/12/2024 12:04

RubyRobin1 · 25/12/2024 11:15

@AgileGreenSeal do you study the Bible? I try to study parts. The second coming of Christ will be amazing (for those who get to witness it) I am of the belief that everyone will realise what is happening, whether believers or not.

Thank you for this thread OP. It makes for an interesting read.

Yes, 👏🏻 I do.
It’s fascinating to see things starting to come together. I’m particularly focussed on Turkey as that’s a region that features prominently in prophecy.
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burtontothistaylor · 25/12/2024 12:08

PencilsInSpace · 25/12/2024 01:49

Also the next line is 'very god' - what kind of a shite lyric is that?

„very” as in „true” God - begotten not created. Verily, English is a weird language. 😁

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