To swap miserable DH for a Yorkshire terrier.

[Pippyls67]

He is truly miserable. Barely speaks to me. Plenty to say to other people - just never me. Typical grumpy old man. I have a dog already. My only source of affection. Kids have left and moved on. Very friendly, dog mad existing dog and I would really really really love a Yorkshire terrier. DH has threatened to move out if I do. Can’t bear anymore dog hair or smells, he says. Ok. So it’s him or the dog. I’m seriously considering the dog. Am I being mad? Will I regret this? Also, can a Yorkshire terrier help at all with the bills? No probably not. It’s all such a dilemma. We’ve been married for 350 years. Actually 35, but you know what I mean.

Why is this even a question. Seriously? How many people are doing this.

You're essentially asking 'Shall I be miserable and live with someone who no longer makes me happy, or not.'

It shouldn't be this difficult. We get one life.

If finances are really problematic, see what you can get with your half if you go north.

Tbf I'd swap most people I know for a decent Yorkshire pud 😃

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Sticking plaster? More like lancing a boil. The OP wants to improve her life, not the moribund marriage.

The only thing wrong with the OPs plan is that personally I think she needs a dachshund to see him off.

Dog

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Definitely swap!

Sounds horrible. Believe me, grumpy old man will get grumpier. Another one who thinks he can treat you any way he wants and you'll never leave. I'm beginning to think we need an annual renewal on these marriages, and free cancellation when they turn into Victor Meldrew.

Definitely get rid of the husband! And get as many dogs as you want/can afford/have time for. Mine is half Yorkie, half JR and is the cutest and best girl in the entire world, so I'm biased, but either way, ditch the husband.

I keep losing friends to cancer in their 50s. Life is too short. Start planning the rest of YOUR life.

Best trade ever. Get the Yorkie.

I know you're being jokey, but if he's that miserable then yes, end the relationship. Work out how your finances work as a single woman, where you'll live etc. Then in the fullness of time think about another dog.

You might need to work and be out of the house. A home where a relationship break up is going on is not really an ideal unstressed dog welcoming environment. And there are plenty of rehoming ads for dogs after relationship breakdown.

Hmmm.
'It's me or the dog' ultimatum situation.
The dog wins. Every time.
It does sound as though you're looking to cut your losses and leave your slightly stale husband anyway, so dog or no dog, I'd be making plans to make that happen.

Work out the finances

Ducks in a row etc

Get the dog

Wait to see what H does

File for divorce

Dogs are SO much better than people, especially miserable ones.
They are always happy, love you unconditionally and live life for the moment.
Definitely ditch the grumpy old man OP.

Normally I would say get the dog, but Yorkies can be irritable and yappy themselves. Are you sure you wouldn't be trading one problem for another?

Dog every time. You already know they bring so much joy into your life.

Don't spend your remaining years with a miserable man. Life is short and precious.

Get the dog (and I am not a huge dog person either but I can appreciate the appeal)

grumpy old men are just joy thieves

Definitely swap the miserable old git but consider a Bichon Frise - happiest little dogs ever!

If you don't like your husband it should be about getting a divorce not getting a dog.

And think very carefully what is going to happen when the assets including the house are shared out between you, because the likelyhood is your standard of living is going to take a dive.

You deserve some joy and affection - get the dog OP! In the meantime - the dog house has a Christmas special on 4OD!

Personally I would swap for a Border Terrier

Not my favourite breed but 100% go for it if it makes the miserable H move out.

It's going to be easier to house train the dog than the husband.

No brainer.

🦴 for your new housemate.

The question is really do you want to waste any more of your life living with someone who brings nothing to your life except money . Start planning to split , get everything in order and then do it .

Get the dog, always chose the dog!

Just move out and get a new life with a dog.