To think wtf? Me and ex finished end of November & he's having Xmas dinner with a girl in a restaurant? Ahah

[twentytwentyfour2024]

I mean, he's a narcissist so therefore I believe he is almost definitely love bombing a girl right now, however the cheeky bugger😂😮😂 I'm offended but this is hilarious. Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF😂

That is fast.

How do you know?

It maybe seems a bit soon but this could be as simple as them having a chat on a date or text “so what are your plans for Xmas day,” “nothing” “oh I’m on my own too shall we go for dinner?” I went for a walk on Xmas day during lockdown with my now DH (we had not long started speaking) as neither of us could travel to family.

How do you know?
Stop stalking him, it’s really creepy.

😂😂😂

I'm going against the grain here but I think you're right to feel this way

3 weeks to find a girl willing to spend Xmas day with is fast work

Honestly responses on MN are so fucked up it beggars belief

I mean, he's a narcissist

Ah yes, MN never fails to deliver the armchair diagnosis.

He's not a narcissist. You’re just bitter and jealous.

Could be someone he has known for a while. Could be someone he works with. Could be just friends. They are eating a meal in a restaurant together, not picking out wedding rings or baby names. Have you never been to a restaurant with a friend?

How embarrassing for him 😂 clearly desperate and love bombing.

Doesn’t how fast he’s ‘moved on’ depend on whether he was married to the OP for twenty years or whether they started dating in September?

I mean it's okay to admit if you feel upset or jealous, I don't really buy that you find it 'hilarious' tbh. I mean you've started a thread on it so it's clearly bothered you which is understandable and fine.

I am surprised at the replies (well not that surprised since it’s Mumsnet) I would feel annoyed too OP, you have been broken up for a couple of weeks!

@twentytwentyfour2024 Most likely one of them booked it a couple/few months ago and had to pay a deposit.
if you’re really not over this guy, then at least he’s out for dinner because someone paid a deposit and they’re not planning a cosy meal for 2 at lunch. (Not that it’s cozy in real life, but you always imagine other people having Christmas like in the movies, whereas I’ve frequently ‘dressed’ for Christmas dinner in my apron!)

You sound like a 'pysco ex'

@twentytwentyfour2024 I didn’t mean he was cheating on you. I meant someone booked it and then had no one to go with. Not everyone has family to have Christmas with so it’s not unlikely it was a last minute are you free type of thing as I have a reservation.

It would be weirder if he was cooking her Xmas dinner. A restaurant meal with someone you've been seeing for a month doesn't seem that strange. Presuming neither have a preferred alternative.
If I were you I'd just pay no attention to what he's doing. At least he won't be banging on your door trying to get a free meal!

🤔 Broke up approx a month ago, so single man has date with a woman in a restaurant, I’m not sure of the issue 🤷‍♀️ He could have met her last week, they hit it off and decided to go on a dinner date, I did plenty of these in my single days.

Now if you’d been married or together a long time I’d probably be upset he’d moved on so quickly but the OP dosnt say how long they were together.

He's cheeky?

You're offended?

Do you have a surveillance vehicle with night vision goggles and covert microphones outside the restaurant to know what's happening here?

You're both single and free to do what you like. He just wasn't that into you

Butt out.

It's literally none of your business.

How do you know this?

Where’s the new eye roll reaction when you need it…

I’m with a narc, stuck for a while..be happy he has found new supply (yeah I know it hurts us humans) but you got rid of a monster, he’s her problem now.

And narcs move on at the click of a finger. He was already playing with supply whilst with you, no doubt about it, they’re the walking dead emotionally

The moment you split up, you had no right to be concerned about who he spends his time with. Why would you want him to spend Christmas alone?

My best advice is to get rid of him on all social media so you can't see what he's up to.

It's not surprising people get wound up so much these days - everything people are up to is rubbed in our faces across several different platforms. It's too much!

Nah, she sounds like a codependent who got trauma bonded to a narc ladies, this is a normal way to feel after an npd relationship. It’s not ‘normal’ love, it’s intense, an addiction.

Forget him, the parasite has removed itself and moved on to a new victim, it’s a blessing really

I’m sure you are through the physical withdrawals, now get through the mental ones. Forget he was ever born.

I'm with you OP, who spends Christmas with someone they've known 5 minutes? They must both be as desperate as each other!