To think wtf? Me and ex finished end of November & he's having Xmas dinner with a girl in a restaurant? Ahah

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I mean, he's a narcissist so therefore I believe he is almost definitely love bombing a girl right now, however the cheeky bugger😂😮😂 I'm offended but this is hilarious. Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF😂

Having Christmas meals out with a girl he's only just started speaking to? WTAF

He might have been speaking to her before you broke up? If he's that much of a narcissist, it wouldn’t be such a leap would it?

I get it OP! If you had posted that you’re dating after breaking up with someone 3 weeks ago you’d be told that you need to stay single for a while.

Funny how no one has asked if you have kids with him.

Because that doesn't matter.

Father or not he can have dinner without OPs permission.

Is it only me that would also be hurt by an ex moving on so quickly?

Also this isn't a coffee in Costa, it's Christmas- a time spent with your significant other/s

Why does it matter? Even if they did, I doubt he would rock up on Christmas day with her to see the kids or something.

Because if OP posted that she had broken up 3 weeks ago with a man she had kids with and was dating a man she would be roasted as a bad mother and told that she can’t date anyone until all her kids are adults.

Double standards are well and truly alive.

You sound very immature. Are you spying on him or something?

i know it feels awful! I broke up with an ex and he brought a woman to our work do (we worked together) and announced they were getting married two weeks after we broke up. I got tipped off and didn’t attend…turns out she later broke up with him. We are both married to other people and both marriages are going strong at 25+ years. Better things are out there for you!

if he’s really a narc be glad he’s not with you anymore. And forget him

Just think yourself lucky. If he is lovebombing her he is leaving you alone!

block and don’t engage or even look at what he is up to. Enjoy yourself and put him Firmly in the rear view.

It’s not immature to be upset they only broke up in November.

I would assume that he had someone on the go already or in mind at least.

And he clearly didn’t care that much as he’s moved on so quickly!

It’s only natural to feel this way don’t listen to those saying otherwise OP.

MN is so bizarre. News flash: In real life people get sad when their ex’s move on quickly and Christmas time can be lonely. These are common and understandable emotions.

You're well out of it, OP. Enjoy Xmas without the narcissist

And if he is a narcissist remember they literally cannot survive without supply!

Exactly!

Some men can’t be alone. She could be any old lump of lard in lipstick and a pretty frock.

Well, it’s Christmas, literally everywhere you go now is serving ‘Christmas dinner” so if he meets someone for dinner there’s a high chance it’ll be a Christmas dinner.

Why does it bother you though. He’s single. Is he supposed to spend the whole of Christmas crying into two day old pizza and pining for you?

I can understand you are jealous or upset, but it surely isn’t a surprise or anything to say “aha” about?

He is single, as are you. He’s moved on, and when you are ready, so will you.

@NiftyPeachDreamer I wouldn't judge anyone if they wanted to go for dinner with someone after 3 weeks. Who gives a shit as long as they aren't around the kids?

Only on Mumsnet would no one raise an eyebrow to a marriage ending in one month and someone dating again the following. Of course it's odd. Of course it would create an emotional response.

I don’t get the lack of empathy in the responses to be honest. You haven’t been broken up very long and regardless of what went wrong it’s hurtful to see someone move on so quickly. I see your point. I’m amazed all these other posters would be so unperturbed if it was them.

I think it’s the tone of the post that has caused the responses tbh. It’s not expressing upset about an ex moving on quickly. Saying things like I’m offended, it’s hilarious, cheeky bugger and putting a bunch of 😂 emojis.

He isn't doing anything wrong, going out for a meal doesn't indicate anything deep and meaningful, but can see why you're shocked, its hard to see an ex moving on even if splitting up was the right thing to do.

Having feelings about your ex moving on and spending part of a holiday you expected to be together with someone else is totally normal. That doesn’t mean anyone did anything wrong or that we shouldn’t be trying to work past any ugly feelings that come up instead of reveling in them.

If a woman posted on here that their bf had left in November and now they suddenly found themselves without Christmas plans and they didn’t want to sit at home alone, people would tell them to see if they knew anyone else without plans anywho wanted to have a nice meal instead of being lonely.

OP, I hope you’ve made other plans of your own so you’re not sitting at home alone on Christmas either. Block or mute your ex and focus on putting him behind you.

@Howisitnotobvious
The op doesn’t say he is her husband.