To think this was rather rude?

[dragonmama13]

So this happened a few hours ago and has me upset till now.

My husband and I were waiting for the bus at the bus stop with two buggies (for 2 and half year old and 2 months old). There were a handful of people ahead of us at the bus stop when we got there. My toddler was being cranky as it was cold and raining. Two busses got cancelled and by the time the third one came, the stop was extremely crowded. When the bus finally arrived, it stopped right ahead of us and the driver signalled us to get on. We were too distracted trying to calm down our toddler to let the passengers ahead of us get on first. An old man at the stop loudly called us "mannerless cunts". This is the first time
I have heard such a language being directed at me. We were so taken aback that couldn't even respond. I am very non confrontational and husband knows this so he kept quiet as well (against his will, he says). We never jump queues, but this was one of those moment in time things where it just happened. The bus was nearly empty so everyone got to sit.

I am still quite upset about the whole thing. For what it's worth I have always let families with little children get ahead of me in queues when traveling alone, so just don't understand why people won't extend the same grace. Does anyone have similar experiences? How did you handle it?

I always thought the etiquette was to let elderly people on first? The ones likely to have arthritis / bad backs etc so that they can get to the designated seats…..

I have 3 kids so I know it can be stressful getting on a bus but I have always let old people on the bus first and think this is the example to show my kids as well.

I'm London so the buggies etc go on via the middle doors anyway and then come up front to tap in.

So no one would be rude in that situation for "pushing in"

You were rude, and so was the man. I wouldn't give it a second thought...

I am more surprised that you managed to get on with not one, but two buggies after previous buses had been cancelled. You'd have no chance round here

You were rude. He was also rude.

Not really sure why this has bothered you so much, to be honest.

Im a frequent user of the bus with a baby and a pram and it never ceases to amaze me how rude and aggressive the elderly can be when it comes to getting on the bus. Especially taking up the bays for prams and wheelchairs with their bloody shopping trolleys and refusing to move them. The drivers where I live are brilliant and will be very firm and constructive in making sure trolleys are folded down as the pistachios shouldn't be obstructing exiting the bus. I've been called some awful things because I'm an inconvenience with my pram. I can't bit my tongue when they all push in so now I have no qualms in doing it myself, especially if the regular offenders are waiting at the bus stop. I'm not even bothered about sitting down, it's just the fact they want to be able to put their trolleys somewhere so will push in to make sure that pushchairs don't get on first that bothers me

I accidentally queue jump too on occasion OP - it's because I get stressed when there is a lot going on around me, my social awareness is poor, and I am just generally somehow not good at knowing where i need to stand....

It happened to me today in Boots. As soon as I realised I apologised and the older woman I had done it to accepted and we had a little politeness stand off over who would now go first.

If she had called me a mannerless cunt, I think she would have been over reacting!

Everyone makes mistakes. Maybe this guy is struggling with his mental health, or in pain, or having a really bad day.

But he just shouldn't have said this.

Try not to dwell on it though. It's no reflection on your actual worth as a human being.

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I think we've all done this at some point in our lives when we're distracted.