To think this was rather rude?

[dragonmama13]

So this happened a few hours ago and has me upset till now.

My husband and I were waiting for the bus at the bus stop with two buggies (for 2 and half year old and 2 months old). There were a handful of people ahead of us at the bus stop when we got there. My toddler was being cranky as it was cold and raining. Two busses got cancelled and by the time the third one came, the stop was extremely crowded. When the bus finally arrived, it stopped right ahead of us and the driver signalled us to get on. We were too distracted trying to calm down our toddler to let the passengers ahead of us get on first. An old man at the stop loudly called us "mannerless cunts". This is the first time
I have heard such a language being directed at me. We were so taken aback that couldn't even respond. I am very non confrontational and husband knows this so he kept quiet as well (against his will, he says). We never jump queues, but this was one of those moment in time things where it just happened. The bus was nearly empty so everyone got to sit.

I am still quite upset about the whole thing. For what it's worth I have always let families with little children get ahead of me in queues when traveling alone, so just don't understand why people won't extend the same grace. Does anyone have similar experiences? How did you handle it?

So someone said the c word to you, which hasn’t happened before and now you’re fretting over it. Nicely… get over to, if that’s the worst encounter you have, you are a very very fortunate individual.

YABU. C**t is not a nice word but you jumped the que and you sound a bit entitled.

It wasn't an accident. It was unthinking, pushy and rude. And "mannerless".

But there's no excuse for that sort of language.

I'm sorry but how did the OP 'jump the queue" when she says they were signalled to get on?
Why is everyone saying she queue jumped?

Reading comprehension a dying art - it's right there in the OP.

"We were too distracted trying to calm down our toddler to let the passengers ahead of us get on first."

@TiramisuCheesecake but she says the driver signalled to them (her and her husband) to get on.
That's how I read it.

I remember a thread on here that claimed that when using a bus stop you need to memorise the order in which the other people at the stop got there so you all know what order to get on. Wasn't convinced myself, it's not something I'd be able to do.

I think the rudeness from both you and the man cancelled each other out tbh. His language was bad, but your queue jumping and sense of entitlement was as well. I would just chalk this one up to experience and move on now. No one has covered themselves in glory but it's nothing you can do anything about at this point. Just try to be conscious of others when you're queueing in the future.

I'm sorry this happened. Hearing that kind of language when you're with your small children is even worse. He sounds like a demented old man. Regarding the confrontation side of things, I don't know - sometimes it is better to stay quiet than have some loony kick off at your response. It's about self-preservation more than getting a word in.

Well you were pretty rude. Especially when there were elderly people who had been waiting longer than you and you had two buggies to mess about with fitting in. I'd have thought the same if I'd seen you tbh. Probably wouldn't have said it but doubt he was the only one thinking it. Your kid being cranky is really your problem, no one else's priority.

What on earth is all this queue jumping nonsense about? Does no one let prams on first?! The driver indicated you should get on, OP; you did nothing wrong.

Tbh when I read the post it sounded like there was a huge queue you just walked obliviously by but if there was only 2 in front of you and the driver asked you to get on I don’t think that’s rude. The driver could have just let the 2 on then get you on as there’d be plenty of room for you still with only 2 in front but he obviously had his reasons for getting you on first. I’m not sure why the old man was so vile towards you some people are just that way

No because then everyone has to squeeze past the pram handles and keep jostling them. If there's two they will stick out, there's no avoiding it because they won't both fit sideways. Most drivers say prams on last. More practical.

Probably because a) queues are generally first there, first in queue, 2nd there, 2nd in queue etc. And b) brits are militant queuers.

So even though the driver may have beckoned them, it's the other people in the queue, specifically this rude bloke, who felt that not sticking to grtting on the bus in the order of arrival was queue jumping.

If the bus driver had called out "pushchairs first please" then the people in the queue would probably not have felt the same.

Queues have more rules than dining with royalty.

Some people get more cross about not obeying queue etiquette than they would if they came home and found their partner at the kitchen table, hard at it with the vicar.

That man is a miserable old bastard who probably has a lonely life because he's a massive cunt to all around him, so there is that

She already said that??

I’d have assumed the driver wanted the buggies on first. Try to let it go - this was a mean old man who was abusive to you.

@Balloonhearts where I live it's generally the opposite.
Prams on first so they can park in the space. If they go on last they can't get down the aisle because people/overflowing bags/granny trollies are in the way.

You didn't queue jump. Drivers often request buggies to get on first which he did in this case. The man was rude not you. Please don't worry about this any further though.

Are we not allowed to ask something to check we understand?

You were rude, he was rude. Call it a draw and forget about it.

This is England. You do not jump a queue! Remember what happened to Phil and Holly 😅

Ha! He should try getting on public transport in Italy!!! He'd have a shock.