To think I'm not liable to pay this?

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I am panicking.

My exh moved out 4 years ago. About a year before that, he'd been made redundant. He did get a new job just before we broke up.

A couple of weeks ago I got a letter for him, this is unusual as he's changed everything to his new address, but anyway I gave it to him. He's told me that it was an invoice from his previous employer (the one he worked for before his 2020 redundancy) to say he'd been overpaid by £1000 and needs to repay it pronto. He's said that because we were together at the time and I kept some savings when he left, that I should pay half of it.

I've told him absolutely not but he's guilt tripping me and now I'm worried if I should morally give him something? I did have about 3k in savings but I've since spent it on house repairs and divorce costs. We are now divorced and the financial order came through a month ago. I've said the financial order means we can't claim off each other but he disagrees. It's a clean break order, I bought him out of the house and transferred him a LOT of money. He hasn't paid anything towards the divorce, he's never seen a solicitor, I paid for everything. He's also paid no regular child maintenance for a year because CMS says he doesn't have to.

I told him to use the money I transferred to him and he said absolutely not he's saving that for a new house. He's threatened to see a solicitor but I can't believe he will get anywhere. AIBU?

Tempting, but why shoot him down this early in the game? It would be much more fun to let it play out and then shoot him down later on 😈

He hasn't paid anything towards the divorce, he's never seen a solicitor, I paid for everything. He's also paid no regular child maintenance for a year because CMS says he doesn't have to.

This explains everything, OP. He thinks you're a mug and he will try and get money out of you for anything he can think of.

He's the one who had the job where he was overpaid, this is his problem.

(if this is even true)

He didn't pay anything towards the divorce.
Didn't pay for his child for a year.
Now wants you to pay his ongoing life costs.

Can't imagine why you divested yourself of this prince.

I suggest you pay for one last thing: postal forwarding service.

I mean this kindly op but the truth is you are being a bit of a mug because you believe him. We are here to help you wise up and be tougher 💪🏻😎

Don't engage in any discussion over it, just remind him about the clean break order. The whole point of that is that there is no claim on either party.

Just rinse and repeat the phrase the PP have suggested

Don't be a muppet. He's not even paid CMS ffs. Tell him to go see a solicitor.

You seriously owe him nothing by law, unless you feel there is a moral obligation, which I don't think you do. Please check if any loans have been taken against any of your assets asap.

What a cheeky bastard. If he texts you anything about it again, I'd just respond with laughing emojis. It's a joke and there's no way you're liable.

If he wants to take it to court, so be it. Make sure you keep all communications in case you need them.

Absolutely stand firm. You are not morally or legally obliged to pay it. The clean break order is what it says. Best of luck.

If he has had a letter from his employers it's important that he does not reply. This is because "For most debts, the time limit is 6 years since you last wrote to them or made a payment."

Any reply is opening up the situation. If it has been opened up, he can offfer them a tiny amount per month.

First post nails it.

To me, it was his job, the overpayment went to
him, so it is his responsibility to pay it back!

"ok let me know how you get on" on repeat.

You’re not liable for anything. Ignore the chancer entirely.

My ex tried this over something after our divorce and financial order was finalised ... I just replied "What part of full and final settlement do you not understand?" he never mentioned it again!

Of course he can’t claim anything off you.

Ignore. Let him bluster.

This is nonsense ^ Ignore

The short answer is no
the long answer is nooooooo

thats what clean break is for.

also can you not re visit the CM situation. Surely he should pay something towards his kids - they take money directly from my exh bank account as he refused to pay

He's trying it on hence the guilt tripping.

A hard No is required.

The recent thread where an OP's ex is being bonkers about access visits (when their son is an adult in his 20s who no longer lives at home) had a very good point about responses.

IIRC the OP responds to every lunatic text from her ex with "OK, let me know how it goes". Neutral acknowledgement. I'd recommend doing this in response to your Ex.

Well actually you can get a variation to a consent order. I took my ex back to court because he deducted £2000 for a loan that was in his name and I was awarded costs as well.
However, not in this case, it’s absolutely his liability

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Not even worth replying to.

You owe him nothing. Nothing. Nothing. And, as said above and learned on another thread, when he mentions a solicitor, the only response is 'ok' or 'let me know how that goes' and don't engage beyond that.

😂

My exact words would be "get to fuck" end of conversation 😂

This!