Xmas meal

[Ljjov]

So my brother is very kindly hosting us and my parents over for Xmas. They are vegetarian, we are. In this case, they will have a nut roast as the main alternative to a turkey. The snag is that my immediate family are all allergic to nuts. DH thinks it's rude of them to have it as the main - am less bothered. Am sure my brother doesnt see it as rude - they just arent as bothered about allergies. DH and DDs allergies are severe enough that if they accidentally ingested nuts- they will need an epipen.

I think your family are being awful. I assume they would be fine if someone served them meat - they might just not be bothered about preferences?!

I sort of see it both ways.

My DS is anaphylactic to dairy, so almost every meal time he sits down and there's something on the table he's allergic to.

This Xmas, there'll be cheesy cauliflower and one of the stuffings has got milk.

Two desserts; vegan cream and pudding, dairy cream and Xmas cake.

There will be chocolates all around.

He's at very little to no risk as we're all aware and manage the cross contamination. It's not at all difficult.

Having said the above, nuts are far easier to avoid. If he only had a nut allergy (he does have a cashew and hazelnut one actually!) I'd probably be a bit put out at the choice of main being a nut roast. There are so many other options, so just no need.

@Georgyporky

Dangerous misinformation. Any anaphylactic allergy is equally as dangerous.

Sadly, more children die from milk anaphylaxis than nut in the UK each year.

Seriously??

I agree with what you're saying but this little girl's own parents literally do not give a shit!

The OP says "DH thinks it's rude of them to have it as the main - am less bothered."

And they both have a disgustingly cavalier attitude towards their daughter's safety.

Wildly rude and dangerous.

My DD has epipens for a peanut allergy. We're pretty relaxed about may contains etc, but a home kitchen in Christmas Day would be a cross contamination nightmare.

You absolutely should have a row with him about it. Christ.

Epipen = risk of anaphylaxis = potential for a fatal reaction.