To not let my sister bring her own meat on Christmas day!

[FelizNavidadAmiga]

First off, we are a strictly vegan household for moral reasons. I invited my sister for Christmas lunch as she is recently divorced and has nowhere else to go. I usually put on a magnificent spread with roast vegetables, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, falafel, home made hummus etc. My sister has just sent me a message saying she's going to bring her own chicken to cook. AIBU to say no way! I don't want chicken cooking in my nice clean vegan oven! Plus the smell makes me feel ill 🤢 I don't want to upset her as she's very sensitive at the moment but surely she can do without chicken for 1 day.

Agree with this, the food sounds lovely but its not a celebration meal, where is the fancy and unusual and not every day centrepiece?

Roast veg, tagine, stuffed peppers, vine leaves, houmous, falafel etc, all very every day, work day evening type food here.

Anyway no she shouldnt bring a chicken but do put on something that is a real celebration

Noooo

I think there’s a few nutmeg free Christmas puddings around. The free from Morrisons pud seems to be ok.

ameded sorry it’s got alcohol. I know I’ve bought alcohol nutmeg free pure somewhere as I also needed them, I don’t drink anymore.

What foods do you count as “carbs” or “high carbs” out of interest?

She maybe can't 'do without animal flesh forever'. She has no right to inflict meat on the OP's house, I certainly agree with that. However, it is inaccurate to say that everyone can live without meat. I would become very ill very fast if I tried to go vegan.

I don’t think it’s very festive either and that’s not being mean. I think mostly as I’d only eat the falafel and hummus, if I was the sister though I wouldn’t expect to roast a chicken in a vegan household.

Not yet read the whole thread but as much as I love eating chicken, pork, lamb etc I also love vegetarian and vegan food and always have a few meat free days in the week.

Cauliflower korma is delicious! Especially with tiger loaf packed with pesto and mozzarella (and it can be made vegan!) with a side orange, avocado and spinach salad.

Anyway, all that is to say is that it doesn't hurt to go without meat for one day!

Your dinner sounds amazing, tell your sister to stay home and I'll take her place.

She sounds bonkers!

Why does she need to have chicken - that all sounds lovely, and even if she doesn’t like some of it, there must be somethings she likes?

In fact, can I come to yours please?

YANBU
Frankly it's v rude of her

Good for you. But your tastes aren't everyone's tastes. I really don't enjoy it, not does it enjoy me and having stomach cramps all day isn't nice for anyone.

so OP tells sister "no chicken, this is what we're eating"

and sister can either say "ok thanks, see you at x time" or "urgh no i will stay alone on the day"

I don’t think the sister has actually insisted on bringing meat.

She’s just said that she’ll bring her own meat to cook, knowing that OP is vegan and wouldn’t buy/cook any.

She’s probably assuming it will be a tradition roast but without the meat.

I’m sure if OP said no or to bring precooked meat, then she’d be ok with it.

I think the sister thinks she’s doing a good thing.

I agree that the dinner sounds lovely.

Whilst I would prefer a traditional spread, if I was alone at Christmas I'd go to a relative serving that without taking meat along over eating on her own. Suggest she either doesn't come or has a ham sandwich in the car.

It’s a little extreme. I am vegetarian but we do a turkey for everyone else. Could she bring it cooked??

Just reply 'we don't cook or eat meat in the house, we are a vegan household sorry!' It's very rude to offer to bring a chicken over to a vegan household. It's the hosts choice what they serve for Christmas dinner, and she has the choice to eat a chicken dinner in her own home later that evening, or go elsewhere, or eat your food.

We do offer meat alongside veggie dishes at home at Christmas, but all the veggie people are fine with that situation, you are not, it's your home and your family.

There are no medical conditions that require the eating of meat.

I had a hard time not crying last Christmas when I discovered the allergen free roast meal had been presented on a platter covered in one of my allergens for decoration. Not only did that mean I left the host’s home hungry, I was hungry during what is supposed to be a festive, special meal and it was really miserable.

the first thing I would do is talk to your sister and ask her why she wants to bring chicken. Does she have dietary restrictions you might not know about. Is she worried about indigestion from the planned menu?

if she is just insisting on meat for meats sake, then she has to make a decision. It might be worth it to her to eat her meal elsewhere and that should be acceptable. Some people look forward to Christmas dinner all year, though perhaps she can find a solution like visiting with you and having a roast on Christmas Eve. If there is some underlying issue she is trying to mitigate, then work with her and come up with a solution.

@Tbry24 I really have searched everywhere for the last couple of years. The only alcohol free puddings I found that were nutmeg free contained mixed spice, and almost all mixed spice blends include nutmeg. I managed to track down some mixed spice which didn't include nutmeg for the puddings I made, but there was no way of knowing if the mixed spice blend used in the ready made puddings were nutmeg free.

You don't know my body. You have no right to tell me that I shouldn't eat meat.

She didn't.

@LostTheMarble you can't drink Bailey's it's not vegan

I didn't.

I'm stating the fact that there are no medical conditions that require the eating of meat.

Promoting this myth is harmful to all the vegans who have been there, done that, and endured wives' tales, ignorance and pressurization from healthcare professionals.

Maybe she just wants to contribute something - so she offers to bring what she would eat and what you would not like to cook.
Could you ask her to roast the chicken before arriving, if that is not offensive to you?
Ask her to bring serving plate and tongs too. If she wraps it in foil well and then towels inside an eski it will be warm for lunch - unless she lives hours away.

She should also premake bread sauce and gravy.

If meat is absolutely not happening then suggest she brings another, meat free, dish that she enjoys - prawns, baked salmon, macaroni cheese, tomato, mushroom and onion pie, nibbles, a pavlova. She probably just wants to help.

How has this not come up before? Are you new to veganism?