To think infertile couples should have priority

[Lil44]

I’m incredibly grateful to have been able to have my own family. However reading about the latest celeb who already has children adopting a baby makes me feel incredibly sad for infertile couples who are waiting to be able to adopt a much wanted baby. I kind of always assumed such (obviously suitable) couples had priority, seems not??

I think I know the celebrity story you're referring to. They adopted in the US which is a completely different system. If it's the person I'm thinking of she announced she is now pregnant. This is something that UK adoption agencies specifically warn against and you wouldn't be approved to adopt in the UK if you were still actively trying to get pregnant.

And also if you had two very young children and had been together a matter of months before the first child was conceived. The adopted child is also a different race to all the other family members which isn’t necessarily bad but combined with all the other things it might be an issue as he grows up. Particularly as he will now miss out on the much needed stability in his first year, as another newborn will be along soon and take up the parents’ attention.

Less access to abortion (especially now)
Bible belt areas where some women don't want abortions for religious reasons.
Less welfare support for single mothers.

This, people who are infertile are not by default the best people to adopt, and being a good biological parent doesn’t mean you have what it takes to be a good adoptive one either.

I expect you're right

And TBH the idea of celebrity couples adopting babies because birth mother can't afford to raise them is chilling