Online dating red flag?

[Soniastrumpet1984]

OK. I may well just be very jaded and picky buy what do you think of this

Chatting for couple of days. All normal. But he's very keen on me sending photos. Now there's photos on my profile, I've shared one so far - very normal type (he was in the crowd at a rugby match I was in a warm coffee shop)
But since then, any chat will be 'send me a pic' for eg last night he said he was having a night in with his daughter, I said oh oovely enjoy it, it's my work party , and straight away he said "any pics of you dressed up?"
Is this a bad sign, or am I just middle aged and have rage at all men? Totally OK with being told I need to chill out a bit as I do feel that Internet dating has confused my boundaries

Yes bad sign, block

Why do you think that? Genuinely interested

Because he's setting off your this is not brilliant radar already

It could be one of 2 things. He’s either leading up to asking for more sexual pics (you should monitor this, like what kind of images is he asking for), or it’s more innocent and he just wants insight into your life. Either way I personally wouldn’t like it, especially if you’ve only been chatting for a few days.
Can you gently say ‘I’m not one for sending lots of pics to someone I’m not in a relationship with tbh’?

If he wants to know what you look like dressed up, then he should invite you somewhere that you would dress up for.

Although he could just be asking for a picture of you before your work do so that he can tell you how lovely you look.

I had this with the dishy Dentist as we call him and it has completely stalled any sort of relationship because I do not walk around looking like I am Date ready at all times
And once he’s madly in love with me, I won’t have any issue with him seeing me with a bobble hat and a latte in hand but that’s really not how I want things to start off.
So after two years of back-and-forth messaging and following each other on Insta, whatever we still haven’t had a date because of him

Sorry I was interrupted! Yeah, you're already picking up on vibes that he's not quite right, and asking for pics is so... creepy. Don't second guess your boundaries, Ever! That's how you end up with one of the picks you read about on mumsnet lol. Onwards and upwards and good luck

He sounds like a creep. Won't be long before he asks for one of you in bed or just out of the shower.

There's just something about it that is annoying even if it never gets to him asking for more intimate ones.

It seems quite a personal thing to ask of someone you’ve not met yet.

I wouldn’t want some random having loads of pictures of me.

It could be innocent but I understand why it’s making you uncomfortable.

Have you got plans to meet?

Seems odd. I would not send photos and see what happens

He's checking if you used filters on your profile

yeah I hate when men do this too, it comes across as so desperate and creepy. Like he wants to size you up and assess you. More interested in how you look than getting to know you as a person.

Yes, it could be this.

Also, were there full length shots of you on your profile? I was asked this and realised that mine didn't include any - I think he wanted to see what my figure was like!

Oh god get rid. I had this with someone once. We'd already met but I was so pissed off with the 'more pics' request (plus the word 'pics' gives me the ick). I happened to be in a reptile house with my son when he sent one of his texts so I sent him a photo of a lizard and that was the end of that 😆

I’ve been burned with out of date photos on a profile in the past, as many people have, so, being charitable, it could it be he’s fishing for recent photos. However, when internet dating, I was not interested in chatting online and went straight for the date. Even with the best, most recent photos, the chemistry has to be there and you only get that if you meet.

I’d never send nudes, even if you meet. In fact, I couldn’t be bothered with anyone who asked for regular selfies.

Could be a few things.

He could be a very visual communicator, used to use apps like Snapchat, and enjoys sharing pics.

He could have been caught out by people using very old pics, or messaged by scammers, so wants to see recent pics.

He could be trying to ease his way into asking for nudes.

He's judging you already. Get rid.

Is this a bad sign
Yes.

or am I just middle aged and have rage at all men?
Possibly also yes, but you might have good reason.

even if it never gets to him asking for more intimate ones.
But it will.

Do the 'more pics' men ever send pics?

He has sent some pics

He will ask you I suspect. Then you'll be spammed with dick pics why men think we want to see those is beyond me

Of what or shouldn’t we ask?

Just day to day, here's me having a coffee, here's me bored at work

Yes I strongly suspect that’s what my dishy Dentist wants as well but, I’m just not comfortable with it mainly because I look like shit when I’m sat bored at work or sat having a coffee.