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Ageism,ignorance, intolerance. class bias on mumsnet re Waspi women

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CAJIE · 20/12/2024 00:27

I did not honestly expect any compensation though I might have hoped. Iwas aware of this change but did not have the chance to make extra provision for it.I do have a professional pension but will have to wait a while longer for the state pension which is extremely challenging.My plans were changed by covid and I doubt I will be employed again except possibly on poor and temporary contracts or gig economy.Secondary school supply on a daily basis has more or less gone.
However what appals me is the attitudes of many mumsnetters who assume that everyone has the abiity to understand pensions and that the Waspi women should have taken so called control of their situation.Maybe some could but there is a hell of a lot of class bias towards the women in lower paid jobs who perhaps were overwhelmed by struggling to survive and did not understand or read the news or the pension changes were not clearly explained to them.Pensions can be hard to understand and provoke anxiety.This appalling prejudice that all older people are rolling in it and this nice habit of some younger women to be sadly quite misogynistic and ageist towards women who are in poverty is very concerning.All sections of society should thrive even in older age and perhaps you younger women should be challenging society, housing costs, the whole ideology of owning a house and actually trying to build something new rather than bitching about what boomers have and their endless cruises etc.
.You are turning against your sex and the comments are cruel and harsh.You know nothing about these womens lives.
Starmer wants to punish older people and older women are always a good target.Your spite about all the things that boomers are supposed to have and you apparently dont is unpleasant.Women beware women.Very sad and against justice.

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Ginmonkeyagain · 20/12/2024 07:47

And you will get a pension. No one has taken tha away, just at an older age, like all of us. The money to find any compensation for a lower age for pensions can only come from one place. Current workers.

sHREDDIES19 · 20/12/2024 07:47

ClicketyClickPlusOne · 20/12/2024 00:59

I am in much the same boat and would you believe it? I voted Remain. And I am a life long Labour voter. And I spent my teens to my 30s actively campaigning for women’s rights and the equal pay etc that younger women rightfully benefit from.

Does that entitle me to an opinion, in your view?

Actually I have only a tiny private pension because I always worked in the charity sector, and before it was compulsory (I.e the majority of my working life) we got no employer’s contribution at all.

The gender pay gap was still huge for most of my working life, schools didn’t used to have nurseries , no free childcare hours.

I did know about the changes to the pension, but women as a class were less able to catch up then

But this thread is about the contempt and vitriol sloshed around MN for older people and especially older women.

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You make excellent points, some I hadn’t even thought about in the context of being a woman in society for this generation. It’s not just about whether these women knew about the impending changes, it’s about whether they had the ability to sufficiently prepare for those years and I think in many cases, the answer is no. I’m 46 by the way, and feel extremely fortunate to be a woman of my generation with many opportunities available to me. I don’t think the same applies to the waspi women.

KatRee · 20/12/2024 07:47

My mum was a single parent who struggled to work for many years due to childcare responsibilities and her mental health. Around maybe 15-20 years ago she was actually advised by an agency working for the government (I can't remember the name but was well-known at the time- a private company the government had outsourced some of the job centre's activities to, they were supposed to support people back to work) that she'd be able to claim state pension at 60. In fact she had to wait to 65. She actually questioned at the time what she was being told as she had heard about changes in the news, but they were adamant they were correct. So it's not even always a case or not being informed, but of being completely misadvised by representatives of the government themselves who should have been trusted to know

PoppysAunt · 20/12/2024 07:48

MidnightPatrol · 20/12/2024 07:46

@queenMab99 why wasn’t 11 years long enough to prepare?

Could these ladies not continue to work until 65, like men were expected to do?

Adults are now expected to work until 68 to claim their pensions. Should they be compensated too?

Perhaps the generation after that who will retire at 75 may feel bitter about the privilege of those who were able to retire at 68.

PoppysAunt · 20/12/2024 07:49

sHREDDIES19 · 20/12/2024 07:47

You make excellent points, some I hadn’t even thought about in the context of being a woman in society for this generation. It’s not just about whether these women knew about the impending changes, it’s about whether they had the ability to sufficiently prepare for those years and I think in many cases, the answer is no. I’m 46 by the way, and feel extremely fortunate to be a woman of my generation with many opportunities available to me. I don’t think the same applies to the waspi women.

When I went to university, 8% of women went.
Many didn't have that privilege and were in full time work from 16.

Gem359 · 20/12/2024 07:51

Whatafustercluck · 20/12/2024 07:19

I have huge sympathy with the WASPI women.

What I object to, however, is the increasingly infuriating narrative that everything is Starmer/ Labour's fault - after 5 months in charge.

Which government was it that brought in changes sooner than was expected and planned for? That's right - that amazing coalition of 2010.

Which government was it that knew full well prison spaces were maxed out and failed to act? That's right, the wonderful Tory government of the past 14 years.

Who broke our NHS? Our schools? Bankrupted our councils and brought us years of 'austerity' for no gain? And let's not forget the Great Brexit Experiment.

Starmer and Labour have been left with a shit legacy, and are finally making all the unpopular decisions that a succession of spineless Tory PMs were too power greedy to face. Leadership isn't a popularity contest, where you give people what they ask for, no matter what the cost. It's about making hard decisions, despite how unpopular it makes you, for the greater good of everyone. The UK cannot afford £10bn. Want someone to blame? Try Cameron and Clegg.

Yes but there were a lot of things they have found money for - like a pay rise of 15% over 3 years for train drivers who are already highly paid and can be on £60,000 within a few years.

The average annual increase planned in Labour's budget was larger than every spending review since 1998 except for 2002.

Women are bottom of the pile though when it comes to this government it seems, not sure they even know what one is.

People on here seem to despise the elderly, sure that they're all secretly loaded. My mum is working 2 jobs in her 70's to keep the 2 bed house she's lived in all her life.

If you knew about the pension changes then no need to claim for the money, but people should stop saying that it shouldn't be paid out just because they knew.

It's for the people who didn't know.

Seymour5 · 20/12/2024 07:52

PoppysAunt · 20/12/2024 07:27

This. I was told at one interview that they were going to employ a man rather than me because I might get pregnant. That was not uncommon. It was a given that men got preference for promotion and higher status jobs.

That happened to me, working in a nationalised industry in the 80s. I already had children, but the man ‘had a family to support’. I was just working for fun of course!

I have mixed feelings about the WASPI women, not everyone was savvy about future changes. I’m older and like many of my age got a reduced state pension at 60. SAHMs weren’t given NI credits back then, we were supposed to rely on our DHs. That didn't always work out too well either. I understand, as with the Winter Fuel Allowance the reasoning that the well off don’t need these payments. However, the cut off being Pension Credit is too low. Often those just above that level earned no more, but tried to make provision for their old age, and have been penalised. If everyone got a decent state pension, then those add ons would not be needed.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 20/12/2024 07:55

Amplepie · 20/12/2024 07:30

I'm shocked by the vitriol I've seen against older women who didn't know about the changes. I think it's part of the usual viciousness on Mumsnet towards the less well-off or fortunate.

The complete lack of grasping simple facts such as how difficult it is to keep up with government changes to rules if you're semi-literate, working three jobs, sleep-deprived, homeless, etc. etc. is beyond belief.

Most boomers I know had desperately difficult lives in poverty, homeless as single parents, and are struggling as pensioners now. I don't know where this myth of rich elderly people on cruises comes from.

I would assume that the most vulnerable women who might not have been capable of maintaining a basic understanding of current affairs etc will be entitled to pension credits in any case, and possibly other benefits as well. So the impact of this might not be as great in any case.

For the vast majority of women, it must surely have been common knowledge.

Zigster · 20/12/2024 07:55

queenMab99 · 20/12/2024 07:39

Being able to retire at 60 was the one thing which was favourable to women as opposed to men. In a world which was and still is in many ways, rigged against us, it was important, and we paid our pension contributions for 40 years in the knowledge that we would be able to retire at 60. We were informed, but 11 years is not long enough to rearrange either expectations or finances, around something which has seemed to be set in stone, and I, for one could not quite believe it. Then it was moved again from 65 to 66. Since then there have been many shocking changes for those of us who were born in the 50s, like no longer being able to access an NHS dentist, and rescue by ambulance/A&E becoming uncertain in our times of need, not to mention leaving our hard won place in the EU.
We didn't have it easy financially, as many seem to think in the 70s and 80s but we thought it was worth the struggle, as we thought we were paying into a system which would care for us in our old age and subsequent ill health. So yes, we did expect compensation for the loss of something we foolishly thought we had paid for, and found to our cost that it had been a very big scam!

The changes to State Pension Age were announced in 1993 when the “WASPI” were aged at most 43. Where do you get 11 years’ notice from?

Your 40 years of “knowledge” that you would be able to retire at age 60 wasn’t actually knowledge but ignorance. And I think that’s what’s so frustrating about this for many of us - surely the sexism comes from those who say they were just poor, stupid women and couldn’t possibly know about important financial things that affected them.

Look at the six test cases the Ombudsman considered. One retired “irreversibly” at age 47, another was expecting the State pension to pay for her Buy-To-Let property, … . Any wonder the public are pretty unsympathetic to the cause?

Jellycatspyjamas · 20/12/2024 07:56

It's for the people who didn't know.

Except it’s not, because they’d be making a payment to every woman in that age bracket, whether they knew or not, whether they need it or not.

queenMab99 · 20/12/2024 07:56

I am 73 and didn't vote for brexit, but the people who did, weren't doing it for spite, they were tricked by the same ruling classes who have been manipulating our lives in their favour for hundreds of years.
Only briefly after WW2 was there a government which worked to improve the lives of ordinary people. Since about 2010, things have been changing and it is shocking to those of us brought up in the 50s.

ExitViaGiftShop · 20/12/2024 07:57

nepkoztarsasag · 20/12/2024 00:41

How did you vote in the Brexit referendum as a matter of interest?

What is the relevance of this question? Is it so that you can decide whether the OP is deserving of sympathy or not, depending on their answer?

Caselgarcia · 20/12/2024 07:57

I'm have 7 years to go until retirement but having not married but having DC, for the last 20 years I've been aware of how much I have put away for my private pension and have checked my contributions for the state pension. I am totally on top of when and how much I will get.
My mother on the other hand 'left all that' to my father to sort. She has no private pension, a reduced state pension and is reliant on his income. She sees him as provider and never took an interest in planning for her retirement. Although she was able to retire at 60, she hadn't involved herself in financial planning at all. Many of her friends were like this too.

Einaldilastcup · 20/12/2024 08:00

I agree. I’m 45 so not affected but the general mood to it is horrible - but that’s how this country is getting. Horrible

Shwish · 20/12/2024 08:02

PoppysAunt · 20/12/2024 07:48

Perhaps the generation after that who will retire at 75 may feel bitter about the privilege of those who were able to retire at 68.

Yes I expect they will. But are those who are being made to retire at 68 asking for the younger ones to pay them.compensation out of their taxes?

ChampagneLassie · 20/12/2024 08:02

khaitai · 20/12/2024 06:22

Quotes from a UK Parliament Select Committee:

"The economy has become skewed in favour of baby boomers (born 1946-1964) and against millennials (born 1980 - 1995) . Unless governments adapt to these changed circumstances the intergenerational contract that underpins the welfare state is under threat."

"The most recent UK Generational Accounts, published in 2011, estimated the intergenerational budget imbalance to be £7.6 trillion in aggregate terms."

"The 2011 UK Generational Accounts set out future contributions and withdrawals by age group. Without any changes in policy, children currently aged 0–4 would on average contribute around £70,000 more in taxes than they enjoyed in services and benefits. People currently aged 65–69 would on average have a net withdrawal of more than £220,000 over the remainder of their lifetimes."

Personally I'm even more annoyed when older people refuse to accept these simple facts and try to accuse me of ageism or misogyny or sour grapes.

I'm a left wing voter and I don't believe anyone should be in poverty, regardless of age. If there are pensioners who can't afford to put the heating on then that's absolutely wrong and I'm happy to pay my taxes to support them. But a blanket payment to 300,000 women, many of whom are very wealthy? Absolutely not.

Came here to say something like this, you’ve nailed it better than I could.

InformEducateEntertain · 20/12/2024 08:03

It's quite common to 'other' different generations and make them a scapegoat for current issues. It is just disappointing that this is women against women. Playing straight into the arms of the patriarchal narrative that governs our lives. Still.

losingweightandgainingconfidence · 20/12/2024 08:03

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CapercailleP · 20/12/2024 08:04

nepkoztarsasag · 20/12/2024 00:41

How did you vote in the Brexit referendum as a matter of interest?

Oh for heaven's sake.

OP made an interesting, impassioned argument and that's your response?

notprincehamlet · 20/12/2024 08:04

Same with equal pay claims where women who've been underpaid for years are blamed for bankrupting local authorities etc. Women, especially older women, don't deserve justice, and discrimination against and contempt for them is perfectly acceptable. It's warped.

Shwish · 20/12/2024 08:05

PoppysAunt · 20/12/2024 07:49

When I went to university, 8% of women went.
Many didn't have that privilege and were in full time work from 16.

And it really isn't a "privilege" now you're expected to have a degree just to do an admin type job. A degree that will cost you thousands of pounds and you'll be paying back over your whole working life!
But without one nobody will employ you!

Porcuporpoise · 20/12/2024 08:05

Starmer wants to punish older people

Does he? I though what he was doing was trying to rebalance the burden of supporting the state ao it doesn't just sit on the shoulders of the young?

I'm still wondering why it's considered fair that younger women should work til 67 or 68 to compensate women who wanted to retire at 60 so maybe explain that to me.

Commonsense22 · 20/12/2024 08:07

I think it's hard to feel sympathy because the current generation will have work until mid 70s and will have no state pension so to speak of.

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MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 20/12/2024 08:09

If people were campaigning for compensation for women with specific barriers that might have made them unaware of the changes, e.g. learning difficulties etc, then I would have sympathy. Otherwise, I think it's entirely reasonable to expect that the general population should have known.

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