Hi ladies, just wondering what your thoughts are regarding my situation. I've never been a manager before and probably don't understand the stresses that come with that, so perhaps I'm being unfair.
Around 7 months ago the company I work for merged with another company (American company bought us, both based in the UK) and as a result there were many leavers and voluntary redundancies. My manager and team (excluding myself and 1 other person) found other jobs so we now have a new team who were all employed by the other company.
It's been difficult to say the least, especially since my colleague (from the old team) went on maternity leave just as we transitioned, so I basically had to go through the change, settle into the new team by myself. She is due back in Feb. They are still reviewing our contracts as we were TUPE'd over and we will probably receive an update next year. For context, my company were all remote and they were hybrid. They all live fairly close to the head office and we all live in different parts of the country and never had a main base (our home address is our main base)
Anyway, I'm really struggling to gel with my new manager and in all honesty I find his management style a bit odd. I was very close to my old manager as were the rest of the team. He was very caring and always supported us (in work and with any personal issues). He always checked in to make sure we were ok, supported us, took an interest in us. He was a fantastic manager. We spoke most days, even if it was just to check in (never micromanaged us in any way) but he really cared about us and made sure we were a priority.
My new manager is nothing like that. I barely speak to him, sometimes going weeks (think the longest was 3). He never checks in, only messages me or the team when he needs us to action something. He’s ignored my emails on a few occasions, it’s difficult to get any support from him. Luckily I can manage my own workload and don’t need support that often but still. I think I’ve spoken to him roughly 6-7 times since May and some of those meetings were mandatory. I don’t think he even knows much about me, he’s certainly never taken an interest. I recently met up with the team (had to travel 4 hours) and was quite nervous as this was the first time meeting them in person. I thought he might have checked in the day before to see if I was ok travelling there but nothing. He barely spoke to me on the day and never bothered to ask if I got home safely when we left. He’s like that with everyone though, so I don’t think it’s personal. He’s just clearly not very close to the team. The rest of them don’t seem to be care, but clearly that’s what their use to. I’m able to compare and I don’t think it’s normal.
I’m not sure why it bothers me so much, obviously it’s great that he doesn’t micromanage but I also don’t think it’s normal to not speak to your team for weeks on end.
Sorry this is long, but AIBU?