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To not want to spend 5 days with his parents?

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CranberryHedgehog · 19/12/2024 11:02

I've got the 25th to the 29th Dec off and DP has decided he wants us to spend every single day with his family. My family live too far away so we're seeing them the following weekend. I love his family but 5 days straight is a long time. We live just around the corner and he says he feels obligated to spend every day with them as we're so close. We'll obviously be coming home to sleep but apart from that it sounds like he wants to be there all the time.

AIBU to just want a day / evening to ourselves? Also how on earth do I get out of spending the entire time with them?

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Havingaswimmoose · 26/12/2024 16:41

CranberryHedgehog · 19/12/2024 13:10

Thanks so much all. I'm going to have a chat with him this evening after he's finished work. It's difficult as my family are not super close, we love spending Christmas together but we'd be sick of each other within a few days. His family are super close and spend loads of time together when they can and I do appreciate different families have different dynamics.

I've already put my foot down about next year. He's literally never spent a Christmas without at least seeing them on Boxing Day. We've agreed next year we're not rushing back from my folks and we'll see his parents on the 27th or 28th.

He is better than he used to be and I think part of it is that I need to be more vocal too about actually no this doesn't work for me.

To answer a PP question, no kids yet. We're planning to TTC next year but obviously I do want to iron out the issues first.

I'm a bit late to this thread.

It matters not one jot what his family do or yours.

'Super close family'? Irrelevant.
You and he should have have formed an adult life without them.
You do not follow in their footsteps, you make your own way now.

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CranberryHedgehog · 26/12/2024 17:29

arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2024 09:10

There's nothing anyone can do or say to help you op.

You don't have to go.

You are choosing to for whatever bizarre reason, ignoring the unanimous response from everyone telling you just don't go, then not enjoying it.

Which you knew you wouldn't.

So this is all pointless.

Carry on being joined at the hip and miserable. Up to you.

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Except it went from the original plan being 5 days straight to dropping to most of yesterday plus part of today and then the party tomorrow thanks to this thread. So not pointless as if it wasn't for this thread I probably wouldn't have put my foot down about the weekend and tomorrow outside of the party. We've got the whole weekend to ourselves. Tbh the only reason we went round today is because his sibling and nieces came round which was lovely.

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