Husband has wrapped Christmas presents so badly I’ve had to throw the paper away

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I have some Christmas presents needing to be wrapped. My DH has not wrapped presents before. I just heard him in the bedroom with the wrapping paper and tape.

Hes wrapped my mums Christmas present so badly I’ve I’ve had to rip the paper off and throw it away. I’m so annoyed as there wasn’t much Christmas wrapping paper left and I was planning on wrapping them neatly.

Just had to have a vent! He’s now annoyed at my becuase I got annoyed at him!

Why are you micro managing your husband? You were rude and controlling

Yes, it's the thought that counts. And wrapping a present like a disgruntled toddler says you can't be arsed and resent the effort. Just do a decent job of it, like everybody else.

About the only present I can really remember the wrapping paper from is the last Christmas present my Grandfather gave my grandmother. He was very old, eyesight was limited, he shook most of the time. And the wrapping looked like the paper had been screwed up, scrunched any which way, and held together with half a roll of selotape. It was the most beautifully wrapped present I've ever seen, because it was wrapped with love.
You have created this problem for yourself

@SnowyIcySnow 😢beautiful story, I may have something in my eye...

Have you rtft? There are a lot of people on here who struggle to wrap presents. So not everyone can at all

Yes, but they are wrapping to the best of their ability. Unlike the op's DH, would couldn't be arsed.

I'm fond of a gift bag instead of paper, they get reuses

He probably did this in purpose though.

Yes, gift bags are great and get reused many times!

According to various posters claiming it's weaponised incompetence then yes. But that's just a guess. OP hasn't come back so we have no idea if he actually did it badly or she just has ridiculously high standards or he did it a bit badly but only because he doesn't think it's that important (like me) rather than deliberately half-arsing it.

Are you always this controlling, OP?

You can't say that without seeing the presents. I'm as intolerant as any good Mumsnetter to weaponised incompetence from men, but some things matter and others really don't and I've seen a lot of comments on here about what some people consider to be a badly wrapped gift that are ridiculously picky.

I can't imagine being so uptight that I'd get annoyed by how a gift was wrapped by someone else. As pretty much everyone else has said, it really doesn't matter.

It also doesn't equate to weaponised incompetence. My dad wrapped my gifts every year when he was able and there was no way of knowing if things were square, in boxes etc as he'd just ball paper around them and use probably half a role of tape to secure.

How do you know he wasn't wrapping to the best of his ability? Why do you choose to believe that of the posters on this thread but not him?

Regardless, there's no such thing as "doing your best" for wrapping presents. It's an incredibly unimportant thing.

You're comparing a man with disabilities to the op's dh?

I would get those reusable wrapping bags from Amazon, pop present in, tie top, job done

Surely the ops expectation that he would do a decent job of it is relational to his manual dexterity and general competence at doing other tasks in his life?

It's your assumption that the op is an arse that is the leap.

It's not important to you, to others, it is.

Then I suggest they wrap the presents and don't ask me to do it.

Where have I said OP is an arse? I said she might have ridiculously high standards that he hasn't met but his wrapping may be well within what most of us would consider perfectly acceptable.

He may well have done the decent job you mention as far as others are concerned.

Same, I've used masking tape when I couldn't find sellotape. Over the years I've used birthday wrapping paper when I didn't have any Christmas wrapping paper and vice versa. Apart from a little giggle, nobody actually cares.

Well setting a standard beyond a person's capability would make you an arse. And ripping up a decently wrapped parcel to do it again would make you an arse. So, yes, the implication in your suggestions is that the op is an arse.

That's horrid behaviour. You say he hasn't done it before, then yell at, and belittle him, yet wonder why he is annoyed.

But why did you take it all on?

Funny enough I've never needed a partner to ask me to do any wrapping before. I have just made that epic decision off my own back. Like most females do.

Tin foil, a’la Smithy from Gavin & Stacey…. actually quite genius!