My parents are elderly and both have health issues.
To get to them, takes a minimum of 12 hours for me as the journey includes ferry crossing. I have 2 brothers, both within 3 hours of parents.
last year, mum was poorly a couple of times, I managed to get over, stayed a few days and took Dad to hospital, did his meals etc.
Unfortunately, Dad is now in hospital. Brothers are alternately attending and looking after Mum. Obviously it’s near to Xmas and so more stressful in that that my brothers plans are having to be changed etc.
i am phoning every day, and video calling both parents but I get guilt trips as I can’t be there to do ‘my bit’ - I am working and I have checked ferry but they are all fully booked until early January!
aibu to let brothers deal with it all? I can’t get there!