To call things off because of the way he dresses?

[revenp]

I work in a healthcare so wear a uniform, man I've been on a couple of dates on often works in my department and is always in scrubs.

The way he dresses, really gives me the ick. I was so attracted to him before, but now I've seen him outside of work in his own clothes j barely am.

We haven't slept together yet.

Should I just get over this? I don't know how!

Women look horrific in skinny jeans too.

Any man who wears skinny jeans should be shot, never mind dumped 😂

You have an opinion that is valid, it is not for you, perfectly reasonable not to continue meeting.

Tight pants and trousers can reduce fertility perhaps this is the point?

It would have put me off in my twenties and now in my fifties!

I have rejected a man because of clothes before. Style can say a lot. And I am sure I have been rejected too based on looks. Which is fine.

At the initial attraction stage, people can be as particular as they wish!

He's just not matching your vibe. Fine to decide it's not working for you whatever the reason.

Skinny jeans and Ted Baker. Hmmm...not great is it. The flouro boxers I wouldn't mind. I quite like men in tight novelty pants with stupid patterns. I got my bloke a tiny pair with kittens and disco balls all over it. Insisting it was erotic. To me it was!
But if he's physically attractive and nice then surely you could overlook it somewhat. Then if you get closer, gently guide him into something a bit cooler? Though many people would not want someone trying to change their style. I know I wouldn't appreciate it.

I would if he is really nice.
If it goes anywhere, you can easily start to introduce new things to him 😁

Btw, you’re not shallow, a lot of guys just don’t have a clue.

I had this with a work colleague. Fancied him inside of work (uniform role or smart office wear on some occasions).

Went out with him a few times but I just couldn't get on with his clothing... a favourite of mine was a cream, knitted, short sleeve jumper which was skin tight.

He wasn't exactly "ripped" either, so in this tight, short sleeve jumper you could see his "moobs" wobbling around as we walked down the street.

I know I sound like a b*tch but I just couldn't get past it.

I still see him in work sometimes and in the uniform I think "mmm I do fancy you". But then I remember what he wears outside of work and snap out of it.

Honestly...I wouldnt go there.
I once got the ick over socks/shoes combo.

I hate this style of shirt with the panels. I would never date someone who wore this.

No I wouldn't say that. Just attractiveness and compatibility means when it's a click you honestly will acquire a lens that doesn't see it.

I think when we like someone but there's something we subconsciously notice we place the reason in a non personal issue. It's not a bad thing better to disconnect before someone gets their feelings hurt.

Like this OP?

If he's a hospital worker, maybe that's why he wears them?! 😂

@Dotto
I think your predictive text meant virile!

Skinny jeans I might overlook. Skinny jeans with no socks would push me over the edge.

Very true. I know quite a lot of young, objectively attractive men who wear these, but as soon as I see them a switch in my brain shifts and all I can see is my golf loving DFIL. (It's irrelevant either way because I'm decades too old for any of them, so they really wouldn't care about my opinion).

So... if you'd met him on an app, and had a first date out of work, you wouldn't have fancied him? There's your answer.

Style changes over time, I wouldn't walk away from a relationship with someone who was a good person, kind, funny, shared interests/values etc, because of the jeans and trainers he wore. If image on a man is important to you, you'll date men who also see aesthetics as important, enjoy that as you age and if you have kids and they destroy your body, how an image focused man might react to that.

I once dumped an inoffensive architect I'd usually met wearing a suit because he showed up for a date wearing one of those beige jackets of the type Kim Jong-Il used to wear. I still remember drinking a martini with dawning horror.

He's probably not bothered about
His attire and it's something a woman can change over time ... unlike how he us as a person.

I call that a 'Chandler from Friends' shirt.

Skinny jeans and knee high boots look good on some women.

I hear you, @revenp . How old is he?

No you’re not shallow , clothes matter.

If you didn’t already know him and he’d turned up on a first date wearing that outfit, would you have wanted a second?

I’ve gone on dates and what they wear has put me off but style is very important to me. If someone isn’t interested in clothes, we probably won’t be compatible.

You're entitled not to date who you don't want to date for whatever reason. Does it matter if it's shallow or not?

But on the flip side, I'd thank my lucky stars if my potential date ditched me just for the sole reason of not liking the jeans I wear. Saves trouble for the future.

What he wears wouldn't bother me, if the jeans are just slim-fitting and not completely sprayed on. Trainers and boxers - fine. So what if they're ted baker, would adidas be better? Nike? Hoka? New balance? Does it matter so much?

But yea, dump and do both of you a favour.