To not want to drop my hours when DS starts school?

[mindyourfingersplease]

But I think I’ll have to.

I am currently part time with two days off a week. I’d like to keep this as I have a younger child.

My younger child’s nursery starts at 730. I’d have to drop her then at this time. Then get to DS school for beakfast club to start at 8. This gives me twenty five minutes to get to work myself, through heavy morning traffic. DH can’t help: he leaves for work at 7.

I think typing that out has made me realise I’ll have to drop my hours.

What about a childminder for both? I have looked after plenty of siblings and it works well as there's only one drop off and one collection for parents.

but twenty five mins through morning traffic

means nothing to us! how late do you reckon you’ll be?

do you like your job?

There aren’t any - plus DD is settled at nursery and I’d be reluctant to change that.

It’s too tight. I have to start on time. I can’t just be five or ten minutes late.

how are you so sure there is not a single childminder at the school that your son hasn’t even started at yet?

If you start at 830 can you ask to start at 9? And then work later? I'm assuming DH does some pick ups

Because I’ve looked. Why so antagonistic?

yes
but even if at major cost to family finances?

if you’re not working, she wouldn’t need to go anyway!

because you’re being silly

you child hasn’t even started at the school yet and you’ve concluded that absolutely no one uses a childminder in the entire school 😆

Can DH request flexible working?

I know he has to leave work for 7 but is there no slack for him either

To be clear here:

I am currently part time with two days off a week what hours are you working and is it 3 days a week? Or 5?

Well does your dh have any flexibility with his start times? What do other people in your workplace do?

i’m going to take a punt that you don’t like your job and don’t want to work there and you’re trying to build a decent case as to why you have to jack it in to present to your husband

because saying your daughter has settled at the nursery… think about it.., if you jack in the job so your daughter stays at the nursery - then she won’t need to go anyway!

And when you say drop your hours what does that look like?

Also, a childminder wouldn't have to be for your dd. Round here you can find child minders who offer before/after school care only.

That’s not silly.

There are three childminders within ten miles of me.

One is only preschool children, and the other two are attached to other, bigger schools I am not in the catchment area of (and don’t really like anyway tbh but that’s by the by.)

We can’t really have DH change his hours. He earns more unfortunately which is why it falls on me!

If he earns more then he might earn enough to shorten his days by an hour surely? If it means you can earn more and increase your hours.

Are you sure you can’t drop off at nursery later?

Has he asked though for example to start later and finish later for example or work from home some days - DH earns more than me but also has flexibility that we have used over the years

bwcause dropping hours loses money and should only be when other options have been exhausted

@SaagAloopa what I mean is that if DH dropped his hours we’d lose more than if I did. It’s a pain but pragmatically I get it. When both my children are at school I can work three days spread across five so finishing an hour later and starting an hour earlier, but after school isn’t too bad, it’s just the mornings.

What are your hours, what are your DH's hours?

If DH starts at 7am, does that mean he can do pick up from nursery/after school club?

If so then can you just move your shift to start 15-30 minutes later to allow you to do drop off?

We made it work by DH working 7-3 and me working 10-6 x 5 days a week, I did wake up/breakfast/dressed and drop off, he did pick up, dinner, bath

But what about your career??

How do you mean sorry? I would definitely be late then, as I would have to drop DS at 8 then go on to nursery. I think I’m going to have to drop at least half a day - I’d just prefer not to!