AIBU to still be mortified about an embarrassing moment at a friend's house?

[RealAquaCat]

Hi!
About a month ago I got invited to a work colleagues home with some other colleagues for some food and drinks. I was so happy to be invited as I’ve recently moved to a new area and have cliqued well with these colleagues and it’s nice to have made some new friends!
Anyway as we’re chatting, I accidentally swiped my wine glass which was next to me (I was sitting on the floor) - cue the wine glass shattering into a million pieces and wine everywhere 🙈 luckily it was white wine, at least. Some of the food had to be thrown away because of the wine and glass shards, and we all cleaned up together.
I still feel absolutely mortified! It was just a quiet gathering, and I feel like I’ve made an absolute tool of myself and like a drunk mess (I wasn’t even that drunk!)
Of course I apologised a million times and offered to replace the wine glass, and no one has treated me any differently, but it is still haunting me 😩

Is my embarrassing moment really that bad and that embarrassing? When will it stop plaguing my mind?! 😂

I'm sure your friends aren't bothered by the event...try to move on

These things happen. Don’t beat yourself up about it.

Not that embarrassing! If you’d have been absolutely steaming drunk and making a fool
of yourself yes, but this was obviously an accident. I’m sure your colleagues never even think about!

Forget it! Everyone has done something like this so let it go. I guarantee no one else is thinking about it as much as you are. Move on. It’s ok xx

It’s one of those things that will literally have been a passing moment for everyone else there. Honestly push it out of your mind. Nobody will have thought anything of it after it was over!

They will just be grateful it was you, not them who did it! Put it out of your mind.

Some years ago, at a friend's house I witnessed a poor lass knock over her glass of red wine all over host's husbands computer that had been left on the coffee table and then followed this by inadvertently standing on the dogs paws in her efforts to get up quickly to get a cloth, and she only wanted to reach over to get a crisp... 🙂We're all still super close friends years later and I'd forgotten about it until I read your post. I must give her a call....😆😂Accidents happen, life goes on. Try not to give yourself too hard a time about this.

I think we'd all feel slightly embarrassed if it were us, but I also think most of us would not think any less of the person who had the accident either. Try to move on.

Oh, I did that a couple of years ago with a 'new' friend, only it was red wine and a cream carpet... She's now a much better friend!

Oh let it go! You probably wanted to make a good impression because you're new but accidents happen and this sounds so forgettable.

My friend came to stay with me for a night at a holiday home.

we drank a bit too much (my fault!) and she managed to swipe a full glass of red wine on to the cream/beige carpet right in the middle of the room!

she was really upset and mortified the next day. I (who was the one who would have needed to pay the damages) was not bothered as accidents happen!
she wasn’t being irresponsible just like you weren’t.
it was just one of those things.
she still talks about it to this day even though iv told her it was fine AND it was my fault for opening the new bottle which tipped us into too drunk!

luckily for me I managed to blot the worst of it out with kitchen roll and went out and found a carpet cleaner from a local home bargains that worked like magic! Honestly I was amazed as a couple of days later I couldn’t even tell exactly where it the spill had been!

the whole point of this is to show you that the person who did it (if they have decent morals) often feels worse than the person who owns whatever it happens to.
when they tell you and behave like it’s fine then believe them! Accidents happen!

I have seen/heard worse with work colleagues at house parties. It's usually the talk of the morning then forgotten about. It's all part of the socialising. You were sorry and sincere so I doubt it would be an issue. Go easy on yourself :)

Water is great in getting red wine out of a carpet

God, that wouldn't even register as a blip on my embarrassmentometer - I've made a tit of myself in so many worse ways!

They sound like good friends and keepers.

Accidents happen. They accepts your apology. Helped you clean up. And moved on.

My partner smashed a wine glass by accident at my parents house when he was meeting them for the first time. I acted shocked and told him it was a family heirloom (it wasnt, it was a 60p glass from Asda). He was mortified. My mum told me not to be so mean. She wasn't arsed one bit because accidents happen and wine glasses are cheap.
Stop overthinking. The only one bothered is you 😊

I wouldn’t give that a second thought if that happened in my house.

She probably tells the story at other meet ups. It’s impressive shattering a glass without dropping it!

Absolutely wouldn't even bat an eyelid if one of my friends did this in my house, accidents happen

Try to think of something embarrassing another person has done. You can't, can you? That's because you're the only one disgracing yourself, no one else has ever had anything embarrassing happen to them.

You'll never be invited round again ;)

OP think about it if it was someone else at the gathering who had spilt the wine/glass would you be thinking they should be embarrassed? I wouldn't! It's just one of those things don't even worry about it, I do much more embarrassing things alllll the time

I think we’ve all knocked a glass over from time to time. I do it on quite a regular basis as I tend to gesticulate while talking. But, equally, I’ve had my fair share of people soaking my lap in the pub or spilling drinks/smashing glasses at my place.

While it may have been embarrassing at the time, your colleagues will think nothing of it. No need to worry.

Salt also can get it out, if you pour it directly on it. It’s good for blood too.

All you need is time between the incident and some good events to dim down the embarrassment. Plan another night together and don’t keep bringing it up. Good luck.

I host quite a lot, this has happened loads of times in my house and I couldn't even name one of the people that caused a breakage. It takes 2 minutes to clear it up and check nobody needs a plaster, then it's all forgotten. Honestly op, don't give it another thought.

Er....it will stop plague you when you let it. Presuming you generally of sound mind... You do realise it's pretty irrational to be stuck onit?
Try boot other foot it
.had u hosted,guest accident glass break, other than the faff requiring it cleared up would u give it another Thot.
On scale of embarrassing things when socialise with colleagues outta hours your nowhere near the basic entry level. Not too drunk to recall,pee pants,vomit,declare love or shag Barry from accounts.