To wonder why nobody has wild lives on an anonymous forum?

[Lavenderfarmcottage]

Warning: overseas and have drank a few glasses of rose’

This is an anonymous forum, nobody knows who you are you can even name change…

Why do we rarely see truly shameful or wild
confessions on here ?

Its always threads something like, ‘I googled my ex boyfriend and fantasised over his executive lifestyle, is this considered cheating ?’

Or ‘my husband doesn’t contribute to bills and I have a credit card debt that I used for paying them. Am I a terrible human and wife ?’

‘I drink 2.5 glasses of wine a night and have 3
Children under 6 and a cheating husband that thinks it’s my problem to care for them. How will I beg him to forgive me for being a terrible wife and alcoholic’

Theres no posts that say ‘I hooked up with my wealthy neighbour who lives in an Edwardian pile and I have no regrets, should I ? ’

’my Husband and I went swinging and I liked it..’

’I’ve been cheating on my my husband with my Spanish neihjnour’

Is everyone on MN a saint ?

If I'd had a wild life, and in some respects I have, I wouldn't feel the need to tell a load of strangers about it. Anonymous is neither here nor there.

I agree somewhat, certain threads make me feel quite prudish! I'm not sure if it's MN or British attitudes in general.

With the press picking things up and risk of doxxing, plus data breaches (there was one relatively recently).

There was a thread a few months ago where the OP just mentioned threesomes in a conversation and her friends BF became inappropriate, it was deleted because the pile-on was really quite nasty.

Ditto any thread that's "aibu to think my coworker is cute even though I would never cheat," people literally advise divorce AND a job change just to be sure. Maybe it's just virtue signalling, or overcompensation, ha!

Not going to elaborate but just making it clear that it's my life that's been wild...not my behaviour.

I really don't get this fascination some people have with telling everyone about everything, everywhere, all the time. I value my privacy.

Why do we rarely see truly shameful or wild
confessions on here ?

Because Mumsnet does not have publicly visible stats that show how much attention posts get. No likes, no reposts. No followers.

If I had a wild life I wouldn't be on MN.

LOL because this forum is very judgmental so you would automatically get pages of people piling on calling you a terrible parent and human

Everyone on mums net is boring?

I also think.. the people out there having outrageous fun are too exciting and interesting to bother posting about it on an internet forum. Besides what would happen anyway? They’d just get judged by a bunch of anonymous pearl-clutching strangers! Can’t really see the appeal tbh

Most people have a wild moment or even a few wild years/times. Even if only by their own standards.

But the demographics of this board don’t really lend themselves to wildness. Obviously MN isn’t only for mums but the average poster is a middle aged woman with children.

By definition most middle aged women with children don’t have the time or the bandwidth or money to do anything truly wild and moreover anything like this would land them in hot water with social services.

So if people do have jail time / a former drug habit / have split up families it’s likely to be in the past and not relevant to their current circumstances.

I had some fairly wild times in my 20s and early 30s. They feel a long time ago and don’t really impact on my current life so I can’t see much reason to post about them.

Agree that people who are having too much fun never post on SM
i always used to say there was no pictures of our parties cause they weren’t boring!
Boring events are plastered all over insta!

I feel it's shame because if someone admits to being the other woman / man or have taken illegal drugs or had a threesome or led a life of low level crime , they are generally flamed .
I've not done any of these things myself, but I wouldn't be the first for a pile on. Many would though and some threads can be brutal without much in the way of empathy.

I agree @the80sweregreat.

Mumsnet is definitely not the place to reveal any type of deviation, however fleeting or trivial, lest you be soundly shredded and condemned.

It's probably harder to have a wild time once in a while these days because of social media too
Waking up to your drunken antics on there must be mortifying, it was bad enough with people judging you when we didn't have it !

Your thread was a good example. I was accused of being you because I didn't join the pile on.

There have definitely been threads about swinging and threesomes. You're just not looking in the right bits of MN.

The advice from all the managers were very boring but made me laugh though.

There's a sex board on MN? 😳Me and my pearls had no idea! I've been on here for over ten years!

it was a battle to get one as in the past people kept using relationships board for it, then the pearl clutches' kept getting the threads pulled as in not on my board etc

It's where all the pervy blokes congregate.

I had a totally wild life until my late 50's with bikers but I'm 62 now and don't really want to be grandma bad ass.
I just want a quiet life now. I really could not confess to the half the things I've done in my life. Most of them being dangerous and stupid.

so by that logic all women are saints and none are into sex or kinks etc