DH weed habit

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DH smokes weed daily. It has went from the odd one with his friends to all day long in the last 10 years. He will drive and work after smoking then complains about not getting promoted. Complains he has no money for things but spends 100s a month on this I'm sure . I've been reading old posts and naively didn't realise how big an issue it is. I am sick of thinking I smell of weed or worrying my clothes do, I have to wash my hair at the work showers every morning so I can go in feeling clean. Asked him to cut down, not to do it in the house etc but it doesn't change. I think he has mood swings due to this habit/addiction whatever you want to call it. WWYD.

YABU for still being with him. He’s a drug driver.

He’s a drug addict. What do you expect from this thread? Most people would not stay with a drug addict. I hope you don’t have kids. Drug driving is despicable. You are condoning it too.

Do you have kids ? I would ask him to seriously quit. Cutting down won't work .
It sounds like you have put up with it long enough

That's a one way ticket to dumpsville. Sorry OP. 💐

Just leave him, he won't change, his whole world is about his habit, he doesn't care about anything or anyone else.

I used to live like this - seriously get rid ASAP! You will be so pleased once you do, no more worrying about his actions.

Was he using weed before you married him?

Ultimatum time, he gives it up or he goes.
It's no quality relationship living like this, I can't imagine having to shower at work to escape the smell, you shouldn't be doing this.

My friend’s son was killed by a man driving under the influence of weed. How can you stay with him?

Don't waste time with ultimatums, threats or demands. You just have to leave. You have no other choice.

Wow this would be over for me. Tbh I wouldn’t go on a second date with someone who I even suspected was reckless with drink or drugs. I say that not to sound arrogant but because you seem quite laid back about how ‘normal’ using weed on a daily basis is.

I think it is prolific atm. I walk the my dog a couple of times a day and live in an OK area (please don't flame me for this! ) and I am surprised by how many people openly smoke it walking on the street it is definitely a problem.

He's an addict. You leave.

I'd never date someone that smoked week, the smell alone is enough to put me off.

As for being married to a weed smoker and knowing they drive daily while under the influence, putting lives at risk due to his absolute selfishness is something that I could never sit by and watch.

You condone the killings in Mexico and stabbing of black teenage boys if you tolerate this. In other words you are condoning indirect racism.

Stop blaming the OP for his drug taking!

Why do you have wash your hair in work?

also I would hate this and yes it’s very hard to come off without being angry and moody and even paranoid

WWYD? Id leave him.

Grim, why are you still with him?

Presumably because her house stinks of it so her hair does as well.

I have no problem with people smoking weed, but smoking in the house? Come on. At least make him go outside.

Also it's not indirect racism the issues parroted by increasing desperate anti drugs campaigners can all be resolved by legalisation. If you actually cared about those issues you would be campaigning to legalise it.

@AnAnotherparkingthread smoking it outside, I assume you mean in the garden or suchlike?

So very antisocial because, if you live nearby and have your windows open (yes, even in December), then the smoke and stink wafts into your neighbours homes, which is even more vile.

If I know he has been smoking before he an is due to drive us somewhere I will insist I drive instead. I hadn't realised how bad it had gotten until recently. I've tried to get him to stop and to also stop smoking in the house but to no avail - he would spend his entire evening outside smoking and he's paranoid someone will smell it and report him. I don't take weed smoking lightly either, he's the only person I know who smokes like this and I don't smoke at all.

He's selfmedicating with weed and is addicted to it so his main relationship is with weed, not you. If he refuses to cut down or give up then YOU have to decide whether you want to spend the rest of your life with a stoner or not. If you have DC do you want them to follow his example and live that life?

I don’t have any respect for people who do this. Sorry! And I don’t think you should be putting up with that either.