Should I leave my six week old baby to go out?

[Bookworm05]

Before I got pregnant, I booked some concert tickets for me, mum and sister. The concert is this weekend but I now have a six week old baby. I've always said I won't be able to go to the concert as I felt it was too soon to leave my partner with baby and toddler. When baby was first born and I said I wouldn't go, partner insisted I should go and he would be fine. Baby is breastfed but has been taking expressed milk in a bottle from my partner every three days or so. In the last week baby has developed a bottle aversion and screams through feeds, hardly taking any milk. My partner is stressing out about this and says he feels like a failure. It has made him really emotional and he won't really talk about it which I find hard. He has since said that he feels the concert has been a looming pressure hanging over us.

My family live an hour away and my partner, toddler and baby would need to stay at my family's house so that I can feed baby right before I leave and as soon as I get home. I would love to go to the concert but it has been a tricky week in our house. Toddler has got a bad cold, baby has been cluster feeding and partner is emotional. I'd love a break for a few hours but AIBU?

Your partner neds to man up!

This! I was going to say the same thing. Baby in your sling as you dance along. Honestly the baby is so young it will be sleeping on you. And master the art of breast feeding from your carrier it’s the best solution to all sorts of everyday predicaments! I have walked round M&S feeding mine and no one was any the wiser 🤭

I exclusively breast fed, and my son refused to take a bottle until he was 6 months! Just before we found out I was pregnant, we'd booked tickets to see a band that I have loved since a teenager but never had the chance to see live. The concert was local, so we didn't need to travel far. The concert was 6 weeks after my son was born! At that point I didn't know my breast fed baby was going to refuse bottles - so I left a bottle of expressed milk with my Mum and we went to the concert. Arrived just in time for the band to come on stage (we missed the support act deliberately) and once finished raced home. My son, woke as I walked through the door and I was able to feed him. I would go to the concert, if you're able to stay with family, so your partner has help with the baby and toddler, that might make him feel better.

Go!

When my eldest was 2 months old, I went to the F1, which was a 90 mins drive each way. Over 2 days. Expressed first thing before we left, and each night. My son fussed with a bottle, but my parents managed to get him to have some. Was a very exhausting weekend, but I don’t regret going.

Your choice but this sounds very ott

OP, go if you want. Between your family you'll make it work.

6 weeks? No. The baby is more important than a concert.

I would go and either take baby in a sling with ear defenders or leave baby with DH and try cup feeding.

Neither of mine would take a bottle at 6 weeks old but they would cup feed really well, (we used the bottle lids as they were sterilised). Even if you don't go the concert it might be worth trying cup feeding to help your frazzled partner.