to think dh should not put dd (7) in a taxi and send her to school alone because he can't be bothered taking her there himself?

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Usually I take dd to school every morning but I'm sick at the moment and insisted on dh driving her there before going to work for a change. School here starts at 8 and he isn't an early riser, usually doesn't leave before 9ish, so on the whole I do it by train which is about 45 minutes. By car it is much faster of course.

So anyway they go off about 20 to 8 and I hear nothing more till I pick her up from school and she says he found a taxi outside in the street, put her in and she was sent off to school alone. He must have taken the car straight to work after placing her in the taxi.

He didn't order the taxi, didn't note the registration number or anything, so if the taxi had not for some reason delivered her safely to school, what then?

So am I being U or is this is ok?

YANBU. I wouldn't be happy about that.

Why didn't he take her himself? He couldn't get up in time?

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I'm surprised the taxi driver took the job.

I can understand him not wanting to get out of bed but if he was already up and with her, then wtf wouldn't he take her all the way?

What is his reason for doing this?

Have you heard your dh's side of the story yet?

I wouldn't do it and I'm considered lax in my parental treatment to most on MN - I let my dc walk to and from school alone from the age of 8 as there are no roads to cross!

Yes with a booked in advance mini cab/taxi but not just some random taxi! Is she used to going in taxi's - don't think my dc have ever been in one.

YANBU

Oh, Lord - this is another one of those

How much did it cost?

YANBU

Holy moly, that is appalling! How did your DD feel about it? Obviously it was a big deal for her if she told you straight away.

I haven't heard from him yet. I am not sure what to say about it when he gets in. She is only 7 what if there had been a crash or something? I can't believe he did that.

so she's 7 and nobody saw her into school (how sad)

I hope it was a black cab otherwise he's a total pillock

at the moment he's just a selfish, uncaring twat

I would never do this to a 7 year old

What side of the story could justify putting a 7yr old child in a taxi he found on the street?

The arse.

YANBU.

Have you spoken to him yet? Was dd scared or anything? My dd is 6.5 & I can't imagine her being OK with being put in an unknown car & told to go with the driver.

I'm not sure what to say to him about it. I am quite shocked he thought it safe to do this. I suppose he wasn't thinking through what could have gone wrong..

No, offhand don't know what it cost

I don't think she was scared but she didn't like it

He really didn't think it through did he. He was just looking for the easiest option for himself, absolutely no thought at all for his dd. I would be very angry.

YANBU

however, Twiglett, what's wrong with a 7yr old going into school on their own??? DS1 does this regularly, we leave the house at the same time, I go down the street with DS2 and DS3, and he goes up and into the first school gate(I don't watch him go in). Sometimes if I'm running late I see him out the front door and just watch him disappear out of our gate........doesn't appear to be doing him any harm......

I have a 7 yo dd and I would be livid. If he had pre-booked one after discussing with me I'd be OK (I think) but would not be happy that he changed arrangements without informing me and sent her off with a stranger. Don't think dd would have gone tbh.

I would want a seriously good reason for it - like "I was being abducted by the mafia for immediate termination so I put her in the cab" (or something equally life threatening).

I would be careful how you approach the conversation though, as it turned out ok then he may well try to make out you are being a worry-wort about nothing etc etc.

IMO this shows such a lack of child sense that I would be vary cautious about leaving him in charge again in a hurry!

I just wouldn't place her in a car with a man I don't know from Adam and send her off. Just thinking the worst here for the moment, you know? The school wouldn't even have called if she hadn't arrived, they would have assumed she was off ill or soemthing. First I would have known of it was when I went to pick her up and she had not been there.

I think it's sad FAQ .. I think they're still little and deserve to know you're there .. that's all

of course kids can be thrown into school .. a number of the kids are at DS (also 7) .. car drives up, kids get sent in .. I think it's sad ... poor wee mites

FAQ - difference is that he knows you are shortly behind him if he encounters any problems, and that he's used to route etc, where as OPs DD seems to have been put into a new situation on a whim, rather than as part of a natural progression

well it was DS1 (after once or twice when DS3 was tiny and I simply wasn't ready to leave the house) who asked if he could go on his own....

I'm afraid I can't look at my 7 1/2yr old and see him as a "poor wee mite" because he's gaining a little independence and walking to school on his own