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Original poster

to think that the girl my dh kissed should not stand gawping at me in the playground?

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:02

i just need a little rant-none of friends are about and im wound up!!
i posted (as moljam)last year saying about my dh kissing a 16 year old girl.she started being where ever i was and generally doing my head in.dh and i had lots to work though but work through it we did!anyway-today she was in the playground at pick up time again.today i must be looking fab as she couldnt stop starring(maybe i had something on my face).is it unreasonable to want to pick up my dc without a stupid little girl who likes other peoples husbands/partners who are much older than her to stare?

sorry rant over

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FAQ · 29/04/2008 16:04

maybe she thought you were going to go over and deck her one.......so was keeping an eye on you so she could leg it if needs be

beansprout · 29/04/2008 16:04

I would meet her gaze and stand and stare back.

Why is she there?

ROSEgarden · 29/04/2008 16:05

dont know what happend but the fact shes 16 says a lot, shes a stupid kid who thinks staring at you will make you quiver..ignore her, call her a ahome wrecker in front of her mates or go up to her and her what her problem is..if shes just staring then she hasnt the balls to say something..silly little girl!

FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:06

Sounds like the kind of thing an immature teenage girl would do. What was your husband doing kissing her in the first place?

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:06

no idea .she goes with her older friend who has a child in reception.

im really not violent-hence whinging on here!

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binkleandflip · 29/04/2008 16:06

ignore her. she's history

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:06

FreddysTeddy-being a knob.he says he was very drunk.no excuse.

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FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:07

Hold your head high and ignore her. She's an idiot (so is your DH btw, sorry).

notjustmom · 29/04/2008 16:08

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binkleandflip · 29/04/2008 16:09

dont lower yourself to staring, god, youre the adult here remember

TurkeyLurkey · 29/04/2008 16:10

Go over to her and ask her if she was trying to get your attention and wanted you as you'd noticed her staring (takes balls and ultra confident manner....).

That should stop her.

notjustmom · 29/04/2008 16:10

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:12

FreddysTeddy-dont apologise i know he is.it was the hardest biggest thing at the time but i decided to take him back.we had to work extra hard-its still not perfect but its getting better and i think i made the right decision .that is until i get stalked by this girl.people have said its because she wants me to twat her one or scream and shout at her so i end up looking dumb.but im not like that

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binkleandflip · 29/04/2008 16:12

the girl is 16. Slag or not the dh is as much to blame.

She is a teenager doing teenage stuff ie staring etc

Dont lower yourself to acknowledge her. It only gives her power.

FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:13

Why is she a "slag"?

Did she know your DH was married when she kissed him? Even if she doesn't does it really warrant that kind of name-calling?

binkleandflip · 29/04/2008 16:14

ask notjustmom - she was the one who called it her.

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:14

notjustmom- i did at the time.i made sure everyone knew.we live in a small place and short of putting posters up saying what theyd both done i made sure people knew.made me feel better at the time.plus its not just my dh.she seems to like other peoples dh and dps.

TurkeyLurkey-that sounds great!

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notjustmom · 29/04/2008 16:15

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FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:15

Sorry Cheesesarnie - parts of last post re: namecalling were directed to notjustmom, not you.

Sounds awful for you, I'm so sorry. Just try to hold your head up high and don't give her the reaction she's looking for, she will get bored.

FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:15

Binkle, I was asking notjustmom, just wasn't very clear.

binkleandflip · 29/04/2008 16:17

I dont agree with the term and name-calling either. Its totally non-productive. The only way to gain power of the situation is to IGNORE. IGNORE. IGNORE.

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:18

lol i was trying to work out if id called her a slag!
yes she knew were married and have children.plus i was with him at the time.

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cheesesarnie · 29/04/2008 16:19

i have been ignoring.i dont want to confront her etc as,as people have said shes a 16 year old girl doing what they do and im not lowering myself.i just wanted to rant.

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notjustmom · 29/04/2008 16:20

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FreddysTeddy · 29/04/2008 16:20

My friend is a dog trainer and something she told me in reference to dog training is:

"ignoring unwanted behaviour is the highest form of dominance"

I like to practice this with people too. She's behaving like this because she wants to get a rise out of you, if you don't give it to her you've beaten her.