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Assisted Dying

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Nordione1 · 29/11/2024 18:05

I dont know what section to put this in. Im more upset about the vote for it than I thought I'd be. I feel like we have crossed a rubicon somehow.

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fassbender · 30/11/2024 17:02

I'm someone with progressive multiple sclerosis and my plan has always been to go to Dignitas if I feel it is needed.

I have lived with MS for over 30 years and am only in my mid 40s. If things are bad for me now (which they are), how much worse will it be if I make it to 80 years?!

I personally feel like it needs to go further but, as others have said, there needs to be safeguards and palliative care needs a shake up too.

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:09

Dramatic · 30/11/2024 16:15

And how long does this suffering go on? Months? Because if it's a few minutes then it really doesn't compare to the prolonged suffering some posters have described their loved ones having to endure.

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

IKEAJesus · 30/11/2024 17:15

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:09

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

What impact will the months of suffering have?

CandiedPrincess · 30/11/2024 17:19

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:09

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

Relief. Peace. Gratitude.

Startinganew32 · 30/11/2024 17:20

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:09

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

Sorry where are you getting this information from? Because if it’s from US executions then bullshit. It’s absolutely possible to tailor the medication so that the death is quick and painless.

TheOnionEyes · 30/11/2024 17:21

SemperIdem · 29/11/2024 18:14

What is it that is upsetting you? I am interested in this perspective, I suppose because mine differs.

I do personally think this is a positive thing - the suffering that is associated with some terminal illnesses is so dreadful, I think it is right that those who are suffering are given the right to choose.

Yes, the suffering and the duration of it that can go on for many, many years is just so utterly sad. However, I am also interested in hearing the other side. I would like to hear and learn as much aspects about it as possible, as I'm sure there are factors that I haven't considered.

It just seems to me that we only hear half the story and when we realise exactly what it is that is involved, or will be taking place, we no longer agree. It's not quite what we had the impression of or what people thought they were signing up for. Reminds me a tad of Brexit.

ErrolTheDragon · 30/11/2024 17:22

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

Versus the impact of observing months of suffering and then quite possibly still traumatic at the end.

Not that loved ones have to observe a death anyway. Many dying people seem to not want this - it's quite commonly observed that a lot of deaths occur when the watching relative has had to leave the room.

VestaTilley · 30/11/2024 17:23

Agree. I’m devastated, and feel sick to be honest.

A 5 hour debate and a private members bill for something of this seriousness is a disgrace. We spend longer discussing bus service regulation and the plight of bees.

I’m terrified by AD anyway - people will be coerced, people will do it when they don’t truly want to - no safety features could ever guard against it. But to do it this way is, frankly, diabolical.

A truly dark day for our country.

Dreammalildream · 30/11/2024 17:39

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:09

What impact will those few minutes have on the loved one observing them?

How selfish. It's not about the loved ones, it's about the person who is suffering.

BMW6 · 30/11/2024 17:45

VestaTilley · 30/11/2024 17:23

Agree. I’m devastated, and feel sick to be honest.

A 5 hour debate and a private members bill for something of this seriousness is a disgrace. We spend longer discussing bus service regulation and the plight of bees.

I’m terrified by AD anyway - people will be coerced, people will do it when they don’t truly want to - no safety features could ever guard against it. But to do it this way is, frankly, diabolical.

A truly dark day for our country.

WTF are you on about? The 5 hour debate was the tiniest tip of the iceberg of debate and thought over YEARS and YEARS!

Unless you are a time traveller from the future you have no idea about the rest of your scaremongering nonsense.

Ill informed hyperbole.

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:52

CandiedPrincess · 30/11/2024 17:19

Relief. Peace. Gratitude.

I was referring specifically to the potentially distressing symptoms that may be experienced.

Shoutinglagerlagerlager · 30/11/2024 17:55

I’m against it and think the focus should be on making improvements to palliative care so people are not suffering in pain.

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:56

Dreammalildream · 30/11/2024 17:39

How selfish. It's not about the loved ones, it's about the person who is suffering.

And yet we have heard from multiple people who argue that having to watch somebody suffering and it’s subsequent impact on THEM is enough reason to push forward with euthanasia. So is it about the person or their loved ones? Because if it’s about the loved ones, then it brings us full circle to the fears about people feeling pressured to agree to euthanasia in order to spare their loved ones from witnesses their dying.

CandyMaker · 30/11/2024 18:02

Already Esther Rantzen has been advised in a radio interview that if her family helped her kill herself, she is not going to be prosecuted.

Sharptonguedwoman · 30/11/2024 18:04

Nordione1 · 29/11/2024 18:19

A parent was put on the Liverpool pathway for a week. I know it's not the same as someone committing suicide by taking a tablet but it was the worst thing you can imagine and I still feel guilt. The nurses knew my parent was going to die but they had no private rooms so he was on a ward. Liquids were withheld to hasten his death but a nurse left a waterjug next to his bed which he was too weak to reach so it was torture. I have no faith that the NHS will be able to carry out assisted dying in a humane way. They don't have the resources. It might not be at home with family round your bedside. It might just be a pill on a ward and you'll be desperate enough to take it.

The state should not be killing innocent people no matter how much they want to die. I didn't realise I thought this way actually but I really really do. It's a personal reaction I think ..there's no easy right or wrong answer.

That is awful. I am so sorry.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 30/11/2024 18:04

CandyMaker · 30/11/2024 18:02

Already Esther Rantzen has been advised in a radio interview that if her family helped her kill herself, she is not going to be prosecuted.

How will she be prosecuted if she’s dead?

Dreammalildream · 30/11/2024 18:05

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:56

And yet we have heard from multiple people who argue that having to watch somebody suffering and it’s subsequent impact on THEM is enough reason to push forward with euthanasia. So is it about the person or their loved ones? Because if it’s about the loved ones, then it brings us full circle to the fears about people feeling pressured to agree to euthanasia in order to spare their loved ones from witnesses their dying.

It's about the person.

You're the one who asked what about the loved ones. Those who have said they want AD because they watched someone die in horrible pain, have said that they support it because that's what the person who died wanted. OR because having seen a person die like that, they want the option for themselves to not to.

Sharptonguedwoman · 30/11/2024 18:06

Shoutinglagerlagerlager · 30/11/2024 17:55

I’m against it and think the focus should be on making improvements to palliative care so people are not suffering in pain.

I am absolutely no expert but I wonder if the quantity of drugs needed to remove pain would hasten someone's death? Hence the problem.

CandyMaker · 30/11/2024 18:09

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 30/11/2024 18:04

How will she be prosecuted if she’s dead?

Sorry, her family will not be prosecuted for assisting a suicide.

CandiedPrincess · 30/11/2024 18:10

ThisAquaCrow · 30/11/2024 17:52

I was referring specifically to the potentially distressing symptoms that may be experienced.

And as a potential 'loved one' I was telling you the impact it would have. Doesn't need to be distressing. Distressing is watching your loved one waste away, suffering, rotting.

Littlemissgobby · 30/11/2024 18:11

Henry Riley a journalist for lbc radio has written a piece in the independent how there are more mps as a percentage with religious views then non mps. He also states that many are not being honest about the role of their faith in this decision

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 30/11/2024 18:11

CandyMaker · 30/11/2024 18:09

Sorry, her family will not be prosecuted for assisting a suicide.

Oh ok.

Even the most hardened CPS counsel might struggle otherwise!

Africa2004 · 30/11/2024 18:18

godmum56 · 30/11/2024 16:58

not under the proposed legislation. The person themselves would have to make the request and would need to be adjudged competent to do so.

That’s what I was trying to say….

BMW6 · 30/11/2024 18:19

Sharptonguedwoman · 30/11/2024 18:06

I am absolutely no expert but I wonder if the quantity of drugs needed to remove pain would hasten someone's death? Hence the problem.

This was always a problem. Towards the end of life the amount of, say, morphine required to alleviate pain would end the life.

Pre Shipman I am confident that some doctors would administer the dose in full knowledge that it would end life but relieve pain. It happened to King George V (the late Queens grandfather) but sadly in that case it was to ensure the Kings death was announced in the "right" morming papers. Nevertheless the King was dying so I have no issue with it - the end justified the means in my opinion.

But sometimes painkillers - even morphine - don't kill the pain. The dying person is in agony and cannot be relieved of it. What then?

Littlemissgobby · 30/11/2024 18:20

BMW6 · 30/11/2024 18:19

This was always a problem. Towards the end of life the amount of, say, morphine required to alleviate pain would end the life.

Pre Shipman I am confident that some doctors would administer the dose in full knowledge that it would end life but relieve pain. It happened to King George V (the late Queens grandfather) but sadly in that case it was to ensure the Kings death was announced in the "right" morming papers. Nevertheless the King was dying so I have no issue with it - the end justified the means in my opinion.

But sometimes painkillers - even morphine - don't kill the pain. The dying person is in agony and cannot be relieved of it. What then?

I think I discussed this a few pages back on this post because this is exactly what David Davies said in his argument need to state to legalise this to get everything down on paper so that it protects doctors. He mentioned that about Harold shipman

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