Sister being a bitch because I have the flu

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I normally pick my nephews up from school a couple of times a week. Until recently I had a car and would get them then take them back home (too far for me to walk and crossing a busy duel carriageway)

Had to scrap my car and have occasionally walked to the school to get them - it's about a two mile round trip.

I came down the the flu (actual flu, not a cold - popped on a flu/Covid test) on Sat and have been feeling absolutely awful since. I've barely been out of bed!

She's was awful to me yesterday because I couldn't get them and has been nasty today too. Basically she thinks I'm putting on being ill or being soft/dramatic because she's had a cold and has still been going to work. I also have a chronic illness that makes me feel unwell so the flu on top has just made everything ten times worse.

Our mom is giving me a lift to the school tonight but aibu to tell sister to pack the attitude in?

She's still on probation so can't risk losing the job .

So she'd rather expose her children to flu, risk getting it herself via her children and then take time off sick?

Not when she is so ill. She should be resting not building up her steps!

IT’S NOT YOUR PROBLEM.

say that again!

Which is why I think it is “bang out of order” for her sister to be demanding she picks up the kids.

totally ridiculous .

and frankly I wouldn’t help again if my sibling was so unreasonable when I was unwell.

but when she is well a 2 mile round trip doesn’t require a car.

Frankly op this isn't your problem, it was very very kind of you to help out originally but obviously your sister has come to feel entitled to it, best to tell her you won't e doing it anymore at all under any circumstances.

Perhaps she'll be more appreciative to the next mug she ropes in for free childcare or she can pay it herself.

Did you read that the OP has flu?

I didn’t suggest she walks now. My comment Was in response to her saying that since she had scrapped her car the 2mile round trip was too far to walk on a normal day.

obviously her sister is -as I said - bang out of order

Is your sister separated from her children's father? Is that why he is refusing to help?

Does the children's school have an after-school club that they could go to? I understand that your sister's position is difficult, but you are doing her a massive favour collecting her children, so she is completely out of order with her behaviour towards you.

You’re being a bit of a mug op. Don’t look after some one else’s kids when you’re this poorly.

It’s irrelevant though. I skimmed over that bit because OP does not have to feel obliged to be her sisters childcare twice a week. Whether that be a 5 minutewalk or an hours walks

Jesus OP, why are you going to the school. If your mother's taking you then she can pick up.

Your only response to this specimen is "sort your own childcare out in future, you ungrateful cow'

Feel better.

It is for someone else’s kids. This is so funny. You’re saying she should go and pick someone’s else’s kids to get her (bullshit) NHS recommended steps in???? 😂😂😂😂 she could be a marathon runner for all you know!

Your sister is very rude.

I appreciate she is on probation at the moment but what happens if the kids are too ill for school ?
Would you be expected to step in ...and get the same abuse if you said you had plans

Having your nephews this afternoon will help in the short term, but what happens when they get your flu and then when she probably gets it off them?

As others have said you’re being a mug, say no.

I’m wondering if your mother is complicit in all this? She should be telling you to rest not taking you to get the kids!

NABG - which is bang out of order

When I’ve had flu I’ve been too ill to frig around on social media

I wasn't. I couldn't walk to the bathroom without help. I collapsed in the pouring icy rain, on my hands and knees in a torrent of freezing water rushing down the alleyway. But when I'd been rescued and had a sleep, I was in bed on FB and browsing Mumsnet. Confirmed influenza type A, still feeling like shit but I could use my eyes and thumbs.

It’s for the parents to sort out childcare - I’d use this as a cue to stop picking them up altogether. Your sister needs to pay a childminder and may be able to claim part of the cost via universal credit.

If you have flu, why isn’t your mother doing the childcare for your sister? Given that she’s driving you to the school anyway…

I would have just said that I was unable to help. You need to stand up to her or she will continue to bully you.

Even when you have made a full recovery from flu, you can refuse to collect your sister kids from school becaus of her attitude to you whilst you were ill was astonishingly abrupt, callous and cruel. You did not ask for flu, it just happened so if you decide not to colect them again and your sister will have to collect her own kids from school.

Don't stand for any nonsense, she's taking advantage of you.

MumonabikeE5
when she is well a 2 mile round trip doesn’t require a car.

She says "I also have a chronic illness that makes me feel unwell". Maybe a two-mile walk is always a bit much for her, or will be until she stops having a chronic illness, regardless of her currently having 'flu as well.

I had flu that developed into pleurisy and pneumonia. Almost died, blue-lighted to hospital where I spend a month, and I could still use my phone and social media. I was actually shocked I was so ill! I mean, I couldn't make it up the stairs, or walk more than a few steps without almost passing out, but yep social media not an problem!

Yes but you shouldn't be doing it. It's not your problem. It's your sister's! You are letting her (and your Mum) walk all over you!!!

Why cant your Mum cancel her appointment and look after her GC. Not ideal, but better than them coming to yours.

If the dc come to yours, they may well catch the flu from you and then your DSis will really be up a gum tree trying to work when her dc are home sick from school