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Did anybody see the Panaroma about binge drinking last night?

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Orangelight23 · 26/11/2024 13:02

Real eye opener for me. Women in their 30s being diagnosed with liver disease. I must admit I have myself been drawn into wine culture and drinking wine to relax.

It's made me have a real think about my alcohol intake to be honest.

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coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 17:32

Grandmasswagbag · 26/11/2024 17:29

Liver disease is not going to happen if you go over your weekly limit by a small amount I would say. Who said the weekly limit was safe anyway, maybe it could be higher and it is being used as a control mechanism by medics and health gurus

I told the Dr I drank 2 bottles of wine per week and they were happy with that. So slightly over the limit. (it's often more tbh but I neglected to mention that). I will do dry Jan again and think I'll carry it on after Jan to give my liver a real recovery. DM has drunk a bottle of wine per day for most of her adult life and is 70. Liver function still fine. So I do think a large part is luck and genetics..not saying it's a good thing btw!

I definitely agree genetics plays a part - unfortunately, you generally don't know if you're one of the lucky ones until it's too late.

ForRealTurtle · 26/11/2024 17:32

@30percent because they drink more than they say.

Didimum · 26/11/2024 17:34

HangryBeaker · 26/11/2024 16:42

They stay in! That's the problem... It's not at all difficult to get through half a bottle each 5+ times a week with your other half. Until recently that was us. Now we have limited it to weekends only and I'm sure we are still drinking at least 1.5 bottles a week each Friday night to Sunday lunchtime.

I don’t think it’s difficult to drink this amount (I would struggle to do this but that’s neither here nor there as to what others do), but I find it surprising that those people don’t think this is a problematic volume of drinking.

My father died of alcohol-induced disease so perhaps my view of it is skewed.

Grandmasswagbag · 26/11/2024 17:35

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 17:32

I definitely agree genetics plays a part - unfortunately, you generally don't know if you're one of the lucky ones until it's too late.

It did make me wonder how much the journalist was really drinking. And she mentioned she was in a band in her 20s and I wondered about drug taking too. I know one young lady with severe liver damage but she was drinking a bottle of vod per day.

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:36

Delatron · 26/11/2024 15:26

Yes I was listening to the radio programme on this after the show. Everyone is different (genetics I guess) some people can tolerate large amounts of alcohol and be fine others get disease at low levels.

The problem I guess is you don’t know which one you are. The only thing you can do I think, is to have a liver function tests or imaging done of your liver if you’re worried.

My Dad drinks every day (I’ve told him this is not healthy). His liver function tests come back fine.

It’s not quite as clear cut as we think. But obviously staying within the guidelines and having plenty of days off alcohol in a row is the healthiest strategy.

The thing is, people can drink and damage their liver, and the blood tests don’t always show as abnormal until pretty advanced liver disease sometimes. So blood tests can sometimes give false reassurance. Our poor livers work really hard breaking down toxins and metabolising everything in the body. But at some point they give up.

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 17:37

Grandmasswagbag · 26/11/2024 17:35

It did make me wonder how much the journalist was really drinking. And she mentioned she was in a band in her 20s and I wondered about drug taking too. I know one young lady with severe liver damage but she was drinking a bottle of vod per day.

Yeah, I think generally unless you're unlucky or drink really, really stupid amounts, most people won't show signs of liver disease as young as their thirties - it's generally something that hits you in your fifties or even older - like many lifestyle illnesses, really.

oakleaffy · 26/11/2024 17:38

Oldandcobwebby · 26/11/2024 13:12

I was employed in crematoria from 1992 until recently, so I would constantly see causes of death. When I started out, lung cancer was the big killer of "younger" people. It was truly shocking to see how this changed over the last 10-15 years to be alcohol related deaths.

An addiction specialist {Professor} said alcohol is far more dangerous than diamorphine {heroin}

Heroin {prescribed and pure and of known dose} is actually quite benign in its effects on the body.
Neuroadaption {addiction} occurs, but the catastrophic brain and liver damage doesn't happen.

If alcohol was to be discovered now, it would be 'class A' absolutely.

Ladamesansmerci · 26/11/2024 17:38

I drank like crazy at uni with multiple binge drinking sessions a week in my early 20's. I had a drink problem. I had significant mental health issues and would sit in my room alone missing lecturers and day drinking too.

Now I don't drink at all, unless I'm going out. I'm lucky and have just never liked the taste, and tbh I associate drink with some bad times in my life. I'd rather just have pepsi max as my nightly treat! Even going for a meal out I have soft drinks. We don't keep drink in the house (not due to me, I genuinely couldn't care less about drunk now I'm mentally well!).

I have 6mo baby and still haven't drank since having her. When I eventually drink again, it will just be occasions, like my birthday. Then I'll binge drink. But given I was only doing it maybe every 4 months even pre baby, I just don't think it matters all that much.

I do think it's easy to fall into a trap of having wine after a bad day. But, ultimately, people know the consequences, and if you make an informed choice to drink, that's fine!

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:40

snarkygal · 26/11/2024 17:08

Are we stacking problems in the modern age, though, compared to generations before with physical jobs? UPFs, sedentary jobs, booze, microplastics, pollution, takeaways. It does seem the rates of many cancers are going up and the ages of incidence coming down (but then also the curability of cancers also increasing which mitigates this somewhat).

I was a pretty heavy drinker, and I'd always get a really sore throat from drinking wine (not a smoker, so it wasn't to do with that). I was really worried I was leading myself down the throat cancer route.

Anyway, I quit aged 40 several years ago and never looked back. If I need a release now I'll have some magic mushrooms. Healthy and fun!

Yes I think there is all sorts we are exposed to these days that could be increasing cancer risk. I feel like not a day goes by when I don’t see some article about someone getting cancer in their thirties and forties, of a type usually associated with an older age. Alcohol happens to be one risk factor that we can potentially control.

Delatron · 26/11/2024 17:40

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:36

The thing is, people can drink and damage their liver, and the blood tests don’t always show as abnormal until pretty advanced liver disease sometimes. So blood tests can sometimes give false reassurance. Our poor livers work really hard breaking down toxins and metabolising everything in the body. But at some point they give up.

Yes I’m sure that’s true. However he’s also got to mid 70s with zero other health issues. How I don’t know. So even if liver issues show up in the next few years he’s done pretty well. It’s not like he’s in his 20s..

When I tell him to give up or have a day off he just refuses!

30percent · 26/11/2024 17:41

ForRealTurtle · 26/11/2024 17:32

@30percent because they drink more than they say.

I mean maybe but my dad/uncles drink a ridiculous amount of beer and have done for years and years with no health complaints. I do think maybe men's bodies handle it better (although their minds don't!) and beer is probably better for you then wine. Considering how strong wine is why is it constantly toted as a healthy Mediterranean drink?

Delatron · 26/11/2024 17:41

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:40

Yes I think there is all sorts we are exposed to these days that could be increasing cancer risk. I feel like not a day goes by when I don’t see some article about someone getting cancer in their thirties and forties, of a type usually associated with an older age. Alcohol happens to be one risk factor that we can potentially control.

Lots of experts think it’s the increase in UPFs - that’s what has risen dramatically over the last 20 years or so. Also something we can control.

Msmoonpie · 26/11/2024 17:42

I was under the impression binge drinking is more likely to cause liver problems than being an alcoholic.

That was our motto at university anyway. I don’t drink much now. I’d be dead if I was drinking as I did then.

OMGitsnotgood · 26/11/2024 17:43

Considering how strong wine is why is it constantly toted as a healthy Mediterranean drink?

I don't think I've ever seen wine toted as a healthy Mediterranean drink? I know the Mediterranean diet is always said to be healthy, and wine tends to be part of that but they generally only have one glass, whereas here we'll tend to have at least half a bottle

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 17:44

30percent · 26/11/2024 17:41

I mean maybe but my dad/uncles drink a ridiculous amount of beer and have done for years and years with no health complaints. I do think maybe men's bodies handle it better (although their minds don't!) and beer is probably better for you then wine. Considering how strong wine is why is it constantly toted as a healthy Mediterranean drink?

Mediterranean culture is wine with food - drunk slowly with a good meal. Not the UK culture which is wine on the sofa with a bag of crisps or Malteasers lol.

Edizzler25 · 26/11/2024 17:44

Read Catherine grays “unexpected joy of being sober”. I read it in 2018 in my late twenties and that was a revolution for me. Really well written, a real page turner.

im in my early 30s now, two children and I can’t be bothered to drink anymore (why make myself even more tired?)

Dreamingofgoldfinchlane · 26/11/2024 17:44

MightySnail · 26/11/2024 13:32

I wonder what percentage of 30-something 'social drinkers' this actually happens to though. About half the people I know drink to this extent, and none of them have had liver issues (yet). Even if it makes up a high proportion of younger adult deaths it must be relatively rare?

How would they know if they had liver damage or not unless they're getting regular tests?

Orangelight23 · 26/11/2024 17:44

Really interesting responses on the thread. I have downloaded Drink Aware and have set some goals for drinks free days and amount of units etc. I am realistic though and I know a lot of that will go out of the window over Christmas. I think the key for me though is to get out of the habit of drinking too much regularly rather than worry about special occasions.

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SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:45

Delatron · 26/11/2024 17:41

Lots of experts think it’s the increase in UPFs - that’s what has risen dramatically over the last 20 years or so. Also something we can control.

True, processed food probably has a part to play. I do wonder about the effects of the Angel Delight and Smash that I was fed as a child in the seventies!

NerrSnerr · 26/11/2024 17:46

I'm from a family of drinkers, many have sadly died. What I have found with all of them is that they were all fine, not drinking every night and able to take a week off etc, until one day it wasn't fine and the alcohol took over. For my mum it was divorced that triggered it. For my sister it was just a gradual increase in consumption.

I quit a couple of years ago. Just didn't want to risk it as obviously the alcoholic genes are strong in my family. It's a horrible way to die and wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Allfur · 26/11/2024 17:46

Delatron · 26/11/2024 17:41

Lots of experts think it’s the increase in UPFs - that’s what has risen dramatically over the last 20 years or so. Also something we can control.

Obesity is indeed still a bigger problem than alcohol related diseases, in terms of the strain on the nhs

Edizzler25 · 26/11/2024 17:47

Allfur · 26/11/2024 17:46

Obesity is indeed still a bigger problem than alcohol related diseases, in terms of the strain on the nhs

And most alcohol is high in calories…

PassingStranger · 26/11/2024 17:47

Didimum · 26/11/2024 15:09

Yes, I have read before that Gen Z are not big drinkers actually. I do think 30s-40s are the bigger drinkers (though not as big at 50-70s ...). But I still think 2-3 bottles of wine a week is considered functional alcoholic – at least in my social groups and colleagues.

I am definitely partial to a glass of wine to relax – most definitely – but 2-3 full bottles a week ... that's like 18 glasses. Where do people fit it in? Clearly I don't go out enough ....

How do they afford it too?
What is it with people and drink it's horrible?

Nobody needs to keep drinking alcohol.

Delatron · 26/11/2024 17:48

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 17:45

True, processed food probably has a part to play. I do wonder about the effects of the Angel Delight and Smash that I was fed as a child in the seventies!

I know! My Mum was a terrible cook so I was basically brought up on findus
crispy pancakes, Smash etc. At least we know the dangers now.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 26/11/2024 17:48

NastySting · 26/11/2024 13:19

We are here for a good time, not a long time!
You could watch a documentary on just about anything and come to the conclusion it will kill you, there was a thread on here not long ago about wood burners being a scourge on society giving everyone in the vicinity lung cancer. Same with candles apparently.

We've had threads in s&b about powder foundation giving you cancer, some people apparently feel like they are dying if they get within ten feet of someone wearing perfume or going into a house with plug in air fresheners.
The fact we are alive means we are going to die at some point! I don't want to live avoiding anything I enjoy just to extend my life (or not) by a few years.
Obviously I don't drink myself to oblivion (very often) but I am definitely not giving it up!

Agreed with you. I did my binge drinking in my teens, 20s and 30s and when I got to 40 though I still got occasionally drunk I had and still have very good best friends who don’t drink to excess (but still like a drink). I’m relieved to be honest that I’m not expected to drink until I got drunk as other friends had me do (we all did it). These were friends who could “handle their drink”. They couldn’t.

When an older (by about 10 years) ex colleague of mine would joke about getting so drunk, she broke her glasses, lost things or did and said stupid things all when drunk, I vowed I wouldn’t be like her.

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