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Did anybody see the Panaroma about binge drinking last night?

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Orangelight23 · 26/11/2024 13:02

Real eye opener for me. Women in their 30s being diagnosed with liver disease. I must admit I have myself been drawn into wine culture and drinking wine to relax.

It's made me have a real think about my alcohol intake to be honest.

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coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 18:32

Delatron · 26/11/2024 18:31

Yep I just find it bizarre that there’s no international consensus amongst scientists for this.

14 is a good guide and I wouldn’t personally feel good drinking more than that. But the reality is that it’s a bit of an arbitrary number.

I wonder if it's a bit like "five bits of fruit and veg a day" - in that what the government recommends is what they think is realistic, rather than what's ideal.

Garlicpest · 26/11/2024 18:33

Treeper22 · 26/11/2024 14:56

Interestingly, 'only' between 10 - 25% of alcoholics develop liver cirrhosis which surprised me as I assumed it was inevitable in most if not all cases of those thar didnt quit.

Not that I'm trying to downplay as liver disease is only one negative effect of many due to drink.

Thanks for this. I'm a using alcoholic - have done rehab, AA, all my steps, a year teetotal, and now drink 'normally'. It's irrational of me, but it's what I wanted to achieve. Still have to watch my intake, obviously, and don't drink regularly. I've had loads of liver function tests, scans, the lot - and it's fine, thank goodness.

The human body has four enzymes that metabolise alcohol. These enzymes can cause organ damage if they go out of balance. Variable proportions of the enzymes are available to each person, according to their genes. Some people have very few of these enzymes (common in South Asians, for instance) while some have plenty of all four in a good balance (common in Germanic people). This is probably why ancient Asians sanitised their drinking water by brewing tea, while Europeans brewed beer instead.

There must be some test to establish your genetic alcohol tolerance but, in any case, you'll be more susceptible to getting ugly drunk and bad hangovers if you aren't built for booze. The obvious takeaway from this is STILL that it's best not to drink alcohol, or to drink very sparingly, but it's interesting that outcomes are not uniform because people are different.

Delatron · 26/11/2024 18:33

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 18:32

I wonder if it's a bit like "five bits of fruit and veg a day" - in that what the government recommends is what they think is realistic, rather than what's ideal.

Yeah good point. That may explain the Spanish units too!

ScrambledSmegs · 26/11/2024 18:38

Like many people I drank too much occasionally when younger but stopped when it became clear that it triggered my migraines and made them significantly worse. It's a weird silver lining to a horrible condition. I'm still interested in watching this show though, DCs are approaching the age where alcohol might become a problem, although I hope we've set them a good example.

I'm curious though. My DPs like a glass of wine with their dinner 2-3 times a week. The interesting thing is that they still use wine glasses they were given as wedding presents in the early 70's - honestly they're no bigger than today's sherry glasses. I wonder if the larger glasses sold as standard now have fuelled the binge drinking culture?

DaphnesCafe · 26/11/2024 18:41

SereneCapybara · 26/11/2024 17:54

Genine question: can 2 bottles of wine a week actually damage your health? I would have thought that is quite temperate drinking: two small glasses a night with one night a week off.

Tbh, I drink fairly close to that. One or two glasses (small ones - 125 ml) most nights. The occasional night off, Plus Dry Jan off and none when I feel ill - so probably about 2 months off in total per year, and 10 months of 1-2 glasses a night. Is that terrible? I am a bit overweight. But I never lose weight in Dry Jan, so I can't blame the wine for that.

Yes, two bottles of wine a week can damage your health. It’s more than your recommended weekly units.

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 18:43

ScrambledSmegs · 26/11/2024 18:38

Like many people I drank too much occasionally when younger but stopped when it became clear that it triggered my migraines and made them significantly worse. It's a weird silver lining to a horrible condition. I'm still interested in watching this show though, DCs are approaching the age where alcohol might become a problem, although I hope we've set them a good example.

I'm curious though. My DPs like a glass of wine with their dinner 2-3 times a week. The interesting thing is that they still use wine glasses they were given as wedding presents in the early 70's - honestly they're no bigger than today's sherry glasses. I wonder if the larger glasses sold as standard now have fuelled the binge drinking culture?

Probably - a bit like how plates are bigger these days too, and portions in fast food restaurants.

There's a guy on TikTok who compares sizes between US and UK branches of different fast food chains and it's fascinating. Our "small" is often the same as their child portion, for example, and their "large" can be almost twice the size of ours!

Ralphodelalio · 26/11/2024 18:43

I read the news story about the lady who investigated for it! I was really shocked.

I am 34 and in my northern Town (I mention this as idk if it makes a difference, there wasn’t much to do…) and as a teen and early 20s heavy drinking once you were 18 was very much the norm.

I wasn’t the out every weekend type but I did get involved.

The level of damage will definitely be dictated by your overall health and genetics but we do have a culture problem I’d say in this country. Pretty much adult celebratory event is geared around alcohol.

Apparently gen z drink a lot less than millennials did in our teens and 20s ? Thank god!

Jmaho · 26/11/2024 18:44

I used to drink a lot in my teens and twenties. Far too much. I barely drink now I'm into my 40's as it just makes me feel rough. I do have other vices though.
In my circle of friends, family and colleagues I would say that most of them drink above the recommended amount every week. Its seen as normal. No one bats an eyelid
I do know two women in my year at school who have died from alcohol related illnesses in the last 10 years though.
Having said that my in laws are alcoholics and in their 70's. I've known them for about 28 years and they have both drunk up to two bottles of wine every night amongst other things every single night and they are still going. It's been like this for far longer than 28 years. They do have health problems but not liver strangely!

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 18:46

A family member was an alcoholic who drowned. At his autopsy his liver was remarkably normal! It’s no guarantee of liver disease but increases your risk.

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 18:48

Ralphodelalio · 26/11/2024 18:43

I read the news story about the lady who investigated for it! I was really shocked.

I am 34 and in my northern Town (I mention this as idk if it makes a difference, there wasn’t much to do…) and as a teen and early 20s heavy drinking once you were 18 was very much the norm.

I wasn’t the out every weekend type but I did get involved.

The level of damage will definitely be dictated by your overall health and genetics but we do have a culture problem I’d say in this country. Pretty much adult celebratory event is geared around alcohol.

Apparently gen z drink a lot less than millennials did in our teens and 20s ? Thank god!

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Young people still drink lots . I have two young adult DC and they and their friends drink at most social gatherings.

WendyWagon · 26/11/2024 18:48

Just adding there is a very active thread in alcohol support. Started in 2020.

FWIW in the last two years I've lost two friends and my younger brother to alcohol related deaths. 54, 60 & 62.

I gave up drinking three years ago. I was on the brink of losing my family. I was a social drinker, a happy drunk until I wasn't. It is a poison hence why it's 'cut' with water. A sobering thought.

Ralphodelalio · 26/11/2024 18:50

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 18:48

Young people still drink lots . I have two young adult DC and they and their friends drink at most social gatherings.

This is interesting thank you. Just what I’ve seen in news articles! Nothing to base it on yet as DSC are 13 & 14!

Ralphodelalio · 26/11/2024 18:51

WendyWagon · 26/11/2024 18:48

Just adding there is a very active thread in alcohol support. Started in 2020.

FWIW in the last two years I've lost two friends and my younger brother to alcohol related deaths. 54, 60 & 62.

I gave up drinking three years ago. I was on the brink of losing my family. I was a social drinker, a happy drunk until I wasn't. It is a poison hence why it's 'cut' with water. A sobering thought.

Huge well done to you. From seeing family members struggle I’ve seen how hard it is

StMarie4me · 26/11/2024 18:54

NastySting · 26/11/2024 13:19

We are here for a good time, not a long time!
You could watch a documentary on just about anything and come to the conclusion it will kill you, there was a thread on here not long ago about wood burners being a scourge on society giving everyone in the vicinity lung cancer. Same with candles apparently.

We've had threads in s&b about powder foundation giving you cancer, some people apparently feel like they are dying if they get within ten feet of someone wearing perfume or going into a house with plug in air fresheners.
The fact we are alive means we are going to die at some point! I don't want to live avoiding anything I enjoy just to extend my life (or not) by a few years.
Obviously I don't drink myself to oblivion (very often) but I am definitely not giving it up!

That's fine.
But do you have children who may be devastated if your good time deprives them of a parent when they are still young?

TowerBallroom · 26/11/2024 18:54

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 16:32

I barely drink anymore - I didn't stop for health reasons, but because I always felt tired and sluggish the next day and I just found it wasn't worth it anymore.

But my mental health improved drastically afterwards - I sleep better, my skin is better, I have more energy and I eat better too. I never realised how bad alcohol made me feel until I stopped it.

However when I've said that on here in the past, I've been called a whole range of things from boring, to uptight, to dull, to antisocial - alcohol is so ingrained in our culture as being a normal way to relax or socialise that (IMO) it's hardly surprising that so many people suffer from ill-health as they get older. I also think that if alcohol was invented now, there's no way it would ever be legalised - it's basically poison, though again, that's not a popular view here.

I also wonder how many people saying they're "healthy" and have nothing wrong actually know that for sure? Early stage liver disease doesn't have any symptoms and I very much doubt that most people in the UK see a doctor regularly for things like blood tests or kidney function tests.

So true
I recently went to an NHS hospital appointment
They took my history
Zero alcohol and proceeded to ask ME if I had an issue with alcohol
Bizarre thinking
I don't do Heroin either, does that make me a Heroin addict😂
Too old and tired to drink these days

StMarie4me · 26/11/2024 18:57

@Lanzarotelady it's not pearl clutching. How rude and disrespectful to children whose lives have been wrecked by parental consumption of alcohol.

Shoezembagsforever · 26/11/2024 18:58

NastySting · 26/11/2024 13:19

We are here for a good time, not a long time!
You could watch a documentary on just about anything and come to the conclusion it will kill you, there was a thread on here not long ago about wood burners being a scourge on society giving everyone in the vicinity lung cancer. Same with candles apparently.

We've had threads in s&b about powder foundation giving you cancer, some people apparently feel like they are dying if they get within ten feet of someone wearing perfume or going into a house with plug in air fresheners.
The fact we are alive means we are going to die at some point! I don't want to live avoiding anything I enjoy just to extend my life (or not) by a few years.
Obviously I don't drink myself to oblivion (very often) but I am definitely not giving it up!

Absolutely this!!

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 18:59

TurkeyDinosaurs2 · 26/11/2024 17:59

I'm always a bit on the fence with things like this.

Surely you're very unlikely to get liver disease in your thirties unless you're extremely unlucky or you drink excessive amounts.
A couple of bottles a week isn't excessive amounts. 4-5 bottles a week is. People who crack open a bottle of something as soon as they wake up, walk down the street sipping a can.

They key is keeping within the limits, and you'll most likely be fine.
Stuff like this makes out that any drop of wine is likely to result in your hideous death in a matter of months. It's scaremongering.

Anyone with any common sense and a decent IQ knows that the limit is 14 units, not 0 units.
So keep within that!

People who crack open a bottle of something as soon as they wake up, walk down the street sipping a can.

This is in essence the UK’s problem. People think an ‘alcoholic’ is a bloke on a park bench drinking cans of strong cider. Not realising that middle aged woman with their wine o clocks are risking their health too.

Stuff like this makes out that any drop of wine is likely to result in your hideous death in a matter of months.

Please show me who has said this here.

coffeesaveslives · 26/11/2024 19:02

StMarie4me · 26/11/2024 18:54

That's fine.
But do you have children who may be devastated if your good time deprives them of a parent when they are still young?

I think it's quite telling that those of us with personal experience of alcoholism are generally the ones saying how damaging it can be.

DelicateSoundOfEchos · 26/11/2024 19:04

As with everything, it's all about balance. I don't drink much, an odd one here and there. And I exercise lots. But I love sweets and butter and eat too much of them both.

There's little point in being pious about alcohol consumption in isolation.

greengreyblue · 26/11/2024 19:04

Ralphodelalio · 26/11/2024 18:50

This is interesting thank you. Just what I’ve seen in news articles! Nothing to base it on yet as DSC are 13 & 14!

If they go to uni, the social life is still heavily based around drinking.

AquaPeer · 26/11/2024 19:05

I thought it was widely known that there was no scientific or medical evidence behind the 14 units, just that it was more of a pick a number- as you say, other countries chose other numbers

ive reduced my drinking a lot over the last free years and the biggest thing for me was swapping wine and beer/ cider for cocktails. Using drink aware it’s easier to see how much fewer units you consume drinking spirits rather than wine which is generally consumed in much bigger quantities.
even on a big night out with friends 3 cocktails (like martini or negroni) will do me just fine- max 6 units. The fear of hard spirits is quite unfounded imo.

it’s also widely known that alcohol is primarily a problem for the mumsnet generation and younger people have hugely reduced, the way we reduced smoking from our parents generation. In that respect the navel glazing about British culture is outdated.

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 19:06

I can recognise fellow doctors in this thread by the nature of their posts. When you have seen someone die in their forties, vomiting torrential floods of blood from oesophageal varices, it does change your view on drinking a bit.

Shoezembagsforever · 26/11/2024 19:06

I'm a habitual drinker of very weak (10.5% alcohol) wine. I have a mild hangover each day but can shrug it off.

I have a group of extrovert friends that "only drink at weekends", but by that I mean drinking from about 9pm on a Friday until about 4am, repeat on Saturday etc.

They literally don't "appear" until about Wednesday of the following week.

I'm not sure which is worse. We're all in our 50s with good jobs.

SharpieMark · 26/11/2024 19:07

AquaPeer · 26/11/2024 19:05

I thought it was widely known that there was no scientific or medical evidence behind the 14 units, just that it was more of a pick a number- as you say, other countries chose other numbers

ive reduced my drinking a lot over the last free years and the biggest thing for me was swapping wine and beer/ cider for cocktails. Using drink aware it’s easier to see how much fewer units you consume drinking spirits rather than wine which is generally consumed in much bigger quantities.
even on a big night out with friends 3 cocktails (like martini or negroni) will do me just fine- max 6 units. The fear of hard spirits is quite unfounded imo.

it’s also widely known that alcohol is primarily a problem for the mumsnet generation and younger people have hugely reduced, the way we reduced smoking from our parents generation. In that respect the navel glazing about British culture is outdated.

I read this a lot. But from my experience of having kids at university, the drinking culture there does not seem that different now to when I went to university in the 90s. I guess the stats must be true overall though.

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