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Who was in the wrong - bakery or me?

291 replies

Doijb · 26/11/2024 11:56

I take my kids to a bakery after swimming. Most of the time they choose sausage rolls or similar. There is a tiny table with two chairs. I plop one of my kids on my lap and we eat our treat. I prefer this as otherwise the flakes would go everywhere.

Anyway, after going every week to this place for a year one of the staff members tells me we’re not really a sit down food place. I inquire about the chairs and she said it’s more for people who wait.

I just found this odd. My kids are brilliantly behaved and I make sure not loud. My oldest will wipe down the table with a serviette.

Who is being weird?

OP posts:
SpiggingBelgium · 27/11/2024 11:03

If someone told me I had been sitting in an area not meant for customers every week for year, I would be embarrassed, not trying to make out the bakery were in the wrong and/or weird for pointing it out to me.

Why would you be embarrassed though? Surely it’s entirely the fault of the bakery that this has been going on every week for a year? They could have picked any one of the previous 51 weeks to tell her.

They are a business and allowed to have their own policies.

Of course they are - but it shouldn’t be a guessing game. If you have a policy, why not share it instead of letting someone break it for a year?

taxguru · 27/11/2024 11:37

whatcanthematterbe81 · 26/11/2024 20:22

If it's warmed there's VAT on it whether it's in or out. Not sure if hers is warm or not tho

If anything is eaten ON the premises, hot or cold, then it's standard rated for VAT as it becomes a supply of catering, not a supply of food.

If something is cooked/baked to order in order to eat hot, it's standard rated for VAT, whether eaten in or out.

If something "has to be cooked/baked" but once cooked is not kept artificially warm by putting under a heat lamp or in a warm cabinet, then it's zero rated if eaten off the premises, regardless of how "hot" it is when served.

So your bread, roast chicken, pies, etc., will be zero rated IF eaten off the premises AND if they were cooked because they had to be cooked - i.e. no one would want an uncooked load of bread or an uncooked pie, A cooked roast chicken is slightly different as, of course, people do buy uncooked chickens, but then intention comes into it, i.e. you can still buy a cooked chicken and not eat it straight away - you can take it home and eat it once it's cooled. So a cooked roast chicken will be zero rated as long as it's not eaten on the premises etc.

Who said tax doesn't have to be taxing!

whatcanthematterbe81 · 27/11/2024 11:39

@taxguru I know.

SuperfluousHen · 27/11/2024 11:46

helpfulperson · 26/11/2024 12:10

If there were multiple tables and chairs I would think that, but just one I probably wouldn't

I imagine they've had a visit from either head office or food safety/licensing and been told to stop people using it to eat at.

Yes, they’ve let it go in the past because it’s just once a week but there’s either been a complaint, or head office, or council have had a word so they’re letting OP know now.

nobody’s been weird or done anything wrong.

*typo

mewkins · 27/11/2024 11:52

monkfruitmartini · 27/11/2024 09:14

I'm not sticking the boot in. Talk about hyperbole, yourself!

The OP herself brought up the mess of flakes:

There is a tiny table with two chairs. I plop one of my kids on my lap and we eat our treat. I prefer this as otherwise the flakes would go everywhere.

If someone told me I had been sitting in an area not meant for customers every week for year, I would be embarrassed, not trying to make out the bakery were in the wrong and/or weird for pointing it out to me. They are a business and allowed to have their own policies.

I wouldn't be at all embarrassed. I'd wonder why the hell no one had mentioned it for the last year. They could have even added a sign if they didn't want to address it directly. So bizarre.

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 27/11/2024 12:44

SpiggingBelgium · 26/11/2024 23:57

I don’t know how I can explain this to you any more simply.

Why are you still telling OP she shouldn’t do something she has never said she has any intention of doing again?!

And let me put it simply for you. I’m not suggesting OP WAS going to do anything. It’s a statement of a fact and not loaded, so I’m not sure why you are getting defensive on her behalf. She’s been told not to do something, therefore it follows that she should not do something.
If the speed limit is 30, you should not exceed 30. That is not me accusing anyone of intending to speed. It’s just a fact.

SpiggingBelgium · 27/11/2024 16:47

But why do you keep repeating it when there has been no suggestion that the OP will have otherwise?

Ochrer · 27/11/2024 20:54

pictoosh · 27/11/2024 08:54

So much hyperbole.

"Showering a bakery floor with you and your offspring's sausage roll flakes"
Showering? Are you sure?
Offspring? Do you mean the OP's children?

"getting on MN all indignant"
She only asked...there is no indignance to be found in her posts. People can ask MN whatever they like. It is a chat forum.

Tell you what I think is pretty shit. Getting on MN to embellish non-events so you can be rude and stick the boot in to a stranger.

That about covers it!

Ochrer · 27/11/2024 20:57

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 27/11/2024 12:44

And let me put it simply for you. I’m not suggesting OP WAS going to do anything. It’s a statement of a fact and not loaded, so I’m not sure why you are getting defensive on her behalf. She’s been told not to do something, therefore it follows that she should not do something.
If the speed limit is 30, you should not exceed 30. That is not me accusing anyone of intending to speed. It’s just a fact.

I get pastry crumbs everywhere when I exceed 30mph.

Toptops · 27/11/2024 21:35

If I saw a table and chairs in this situation, I'd sit there.
If they are for a specific group, there should be a label on the table.

ilovesushi · 28/11/2024 18:17

I think this whole thread encapsulates is why I avoid places that are not 100% crystal clear in how they operate. I don't want to spend money on food, then settle down to eat with two small kids in tow only to be told I've got it wrong, the table in the place serving food was not actually for the people buying food, and have the embarrassment and hassle of rounding everyone up and moving along with my half eaten sausage role.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 29/11/2024 13:40

helpfulperson · 26/11/2024 12:10

If there were multiple tables and chairs I would think that, but just one I probably wouldn't

I imagine they've had a visit from either head office or food safety/licensing and been told to stop people using it to eat at.

Or HMRC; they are breaking the VAT rules.

Emmz1510 · 30/11/2024 22:39

That’s a little unfair- pretty sure the OP would have noticed if someone elderly or disabled was waiting and needed a seat…

vickylou78 · 30/11/2024 22:58

Doijb · 26/11/2024 17:51

Of course I’m not going to sit there now. I will take my kids to the chain bakery down the street where you are allowed to eat in.

Your allowed to eat in at the 'chain bakery' as they charge VAT on their products for the privilege of eating in. (That's why they now ask you are you taking away or eating in). The bakery won't be charging you the VAT

Teenie22 · 30/11/2024 23:19

I would too. Otherwise there would just be chairs for waiting and no table!

TicklishMintDuck · 01/12/2024 09:44

Doijb · 26/11/2024 12:22

I’m not a rude arsehole. Obviously I would get one of the kids out of their seats if a disabled person or
elderly person came in. Never happened though.

Edited

It’s a weird thread, so now you’ve got your answer I wouldn’t be arguing with someone who took the time to explain it to you.

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