Would you bring Dh food back from the restaurant on your birthday?

[Almostthattimeoftheyearagain]

It’s my birthday this week, I have a young Dd and the plan is to have a nice day with her. It’s things she enjoys doing, but I like doing them with her too…we’ll visit santa, go to a Christmas village, maybe a film and then pizza (we’ll be doing more of this kind of things at weekends too with Dh)
Dh will be working all day until 6, it’s dark and cold by then and Dd will get tired, plus i’m not fussed about going out in the evening.
Dd and I will have the dinner out a bit earlier and be back by 6. Would you bring Dh some food from the restaurant back for his dinner? Feel a bit mean not doing so and him having a toastie or something for dinner, but also on a budget before christmas and it’s a fair bit extra to bring a pizza back, plus Dh hasnt planned making any dinner or getting a takeaway for my birthday, I’ve organised it all, although I know he’ll get a cake a small presents off dd

Why not get a takeaway all together in the evening? Surely that would be nicer than you and DD eating early and bringing him a pizza?

I don't think I'd ever bring DP food back from a restaurant if he wasn't there, or expect him to do vice versa. We can both sort out our own meals.

But I wouldn't go out for my "birthday meal" without him either, that seems fairly odd. Being a stickler for celebrating on the actual birthday date and the actual birthday date only is ridiculous behaviour for an adult.

Why don’t you talk to your husband, discuss the different options and pick whatever suits you best?

Where he’s ‘gone wrong’ is by making fuck all effort to plan anything and not even bothering with a present for the OP.

Of course she should have a lovely day with her daughter and as an adult man, he can sort his own dinner out.

Except this is untrue. He’s organising a cake, balloons and a present. How is that doing fuck all?!