To enjoy it when my husband goes out for the night?

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DH has gone out tonight with his friends. He doesn't really go out often.
Neither do I but I'd say I probably go out more often than him.
Both of us just busy with work, 2 young kids, life takes over !

But I just really enjoy having the house to myself. I feel like the evening is really calm and runs smoothly. I've cleaned up after dinner, hoovered, put the Christmas lights on and a nice candle. I'm just putting the kids to bed and looking forward to finding something rubbish to watch on tv. Perfect.

I do enjoy DHs company but some evenings I just wanna sit in quiet, scroll mindlessly and eat snacks

YANBU!

Yep same here but even better if all the kids are out as well 😆

YANBU.

I’m looking forward to the moment DD1 sleeps through the night and all the kids go to sleep and stay asleep with DH going out to watch the football.

Are you me?

Yanbu. I'm jealous!

No judgement here 😀

even pre child I loved this. One night a week my
oh meet up with mates straight from work. I’d sneak out of work early, go home and clean the (very small) house from top to bottom and then relax with wine and tv, heaven!

Sounds perfect. I love it when my DH goes out and I can have the tv remote to myself. Enjoy!

DP works late shifts twice a week and I always look forward to watching trashy TV without him 😂

DH doesn’t go out alone very often in the evening (2 or 3 times per year), and it’s only when the DC aren’t here (they are often away for sport). Most of our friends have DC younger than ours and the childless have really busy social lives, everyone is super busy, and we don’t have much spare cash. DH isn’t really one for going out at night unless it’s something very exciting, like a concert. But in general we prefer lunch and daytime outings.

The last time he went out (to help one of our friends do some DIY…DH adores DIY), I had planned to eat some baba ganoush with Lebanese bread and salad and watch a film, then do a face mask after a leisurely shower. I was on my way home from work and suddenly felt ill (nothing serious just the onset of a cold that seems to come out of nowhere, the achy bones, tiredness and fever) so spent the evening feeling a bit rough then falling asleep early. Never got my baba ganoush, but did catch up the film and it was great!

I have a job where I am surrounded by and interacting with people, and we live in a small flat, so usually I go out running and to the swimming pool for 30 minutes’ calm. I’m an extrovert so 2 or 3 quiet evenings per year is perfect!

I just really enjoy my own company! I'd love to just escape to a quiet little cottage somewhere for a week all alone...ahhhh.

Well, the kids are asleep and not due to see them again until at least 7am so I'll enjoy that for now
What to watch, that's the next question?!

The longer I stay married,(22 yrs.) the more I enjoy my alone time.

Uh, my DH never goes out! I'm jealous.

Sometimes he works a bit later and I try to have a mini night to myself but it just isn't the same. Enjoy!

Yanbu. Dh (married over 30 years) has always worked several nights per week - and works abroad for a 4 to 8 week stretch most years. Even when my children were little and therefore quite hard work, I always enjoyed the times without him. I've forever wished we could afford 2 houses/flats next door to each other 🙂.

I guess we are all different but I really enjoy my own company, and I don’t have half as much time on my own as I’d like.

Modern life’s busy, too busy, don’t feel bad about enjoying some down time.

YABU for using the precious time to hoover.
I think sometimes couples forget they don't have to do everything together. I think we probably did when younger but DH and I are old and retired and while we live in the same house we don't automatically do everything together.

My oldest is 22 and I’ve had one singular night in the house on my own since they were born. Yes i
am actually insane as a result.

YANBU. I love my weekly alone time when DH goes to play his game.

I know someone who posts about how they can’t cope if their husband leaves them for anything longer than 15 mins. That’s not a healthy relationship.

YA 100% NBU I love it when my husband goes out… he rarely does though so I take a lot of long hot baths in the evening to get away from him and the teens!!!

There is absolutely nothing better than having the house to yourself if you don’t get to often. Beats a night out 100% of the time!

ok 99% as I can count on one hands the amount of nights out that would beat it in my over 40 years on the planet!

none of that diminishes the love or the time spent with loved ones obviously but oh Jeezo time spent alone in your own environment doing your own thing is a thing of beauty!

DH and DD are both away (separately) not just for the evening, but the whole weekend. Do I win?!

I love being in charge of the remote for an evening and just pottering.
Love being with him but relish the alone time (30 years together)

Snap! I currently have my records playing so loudly the walls are vibrating and a very large baileys on ice in my hand.
Wish he'd go out more often tbh 😂

Definitely not unreasonable. I enjoy when hubbies away, me and my daughter are very chilled. My Christmas present last year was a night alone in a hotel, I had a fabulous time just me, crap tv and books

YANBU at all.

I love DH hugely, but he was away overnight recently and it was great. No one to please but myself, no one rotating and snoring at 1am (and 3am and 5am), no one interrupting me in the middle of whatever I was doing.

He had 8 hours without me today. I hope he appreciated it.

We deliberately choose to spend two evenings a week doing our own thing. I watch crappy TV, he works or listens to podcasts. We are lucky to each have our own space so we can do this. But it is crucial to our relationship to have time apart.

Indeed if one of us has the house to ourselves we celebrate freedom for a night. It keeps our relationship happy. You can't live in each other's pockets - and I adore spending time with my DH.