To enjoy it when my husband goes out for the night?

[jinglejingles]

DH has gone out tonight with his friends. He doesn't really go out often.
Neither do I but I'd say I probably go out more often than him.
Both of us just busy with work, 2 young kids, life takes over !

But I just really enjoy having the house to myself. I feel like the evening is really calm and runs smoothly. I've cleaned up after dinner, hoovered, put the Christmas lights on and a nice candle. I'm just putting the kids to bed and looking forward to finding something rubbish to watch on tv. Perfect.

I do enjoy DHs company but some evenings I just wanna sit in quiet, scroll mindlessly and eat snacks

Mine works most evenings and I love it. Would love it more if I didn’t have a toddler though!

I enjoy it as long as the kids are ok.

DH went out this evening and I was hoping for some tv and a bit of work…. but both kids have been absolute horrors and have only just gone to sleep. I’m now shattered and in no mood for tv or work!

Oh I agree. I lived on my own for 5 years, and I may never get used to having no quiet space, or control over my home environment.

We are currently sharing with my generous kind in-laws while our house gets badly needed renovations, and sometimes I have to ask my husband to delay coming to bed just so I get a bit of time by myself.... as long as my son who also shares our room is asleep!!!
Enjoy your night OP.

YANBU. I love my husband. I love spending time with him but I love time in our house alone. He rarely goes out in the evenings now. When I used to work full time I would book a day off to just spend the day in the house alone and then would be a bit put out if husband or teenage kids ended up being home.

Dh retired this year and is ALWAYS here. He is going to UK for 4 nights on Wednesday and I am really looking forward to it. No stress about who is cooking, or why I am still working and I can gain full control of the TV. He does watch some shite! He used to travel a lot with work and it's been ages since I had the place to myself. I plan to get the girls round for drinks one night and otherwise have a lovely slob for a few days after over-Xmassing the apartment in his absence. I have stuff lined up on Amazon to come after he leaves :)

Sounds idyllic :) YANBU

I had this exact same thought this evening! DH was out, and it wasn’t planned in advance, so I got a lovely unexpected evening in to myself. I haven’t had the radio or TV on and have instead sat in blissful silence reading my book, scrolling, eating snacks, and enjoying a glass of wine in peace. Blissful!

Absolutely not unreasonable! I love an evening to myself ☺️ DH used to work away and I have to say, I loved it - didn't bother cooking a meal, just had cheese on toast or something, nice soak in the bath and watch tv in bed with snacks! Loved having the bed to myself too 😂 now he WFH and I only get the occasional night alone if he goes away. He's lovely and I do enjoy his company but I also just like being by myself sometimes!

DH goes out to a class one night a week. I watch trashy tv, at the moment Ambulance and Location, Location, Location.

This post has been great reading for me!
Been with my partner a few years and love him to bits, love all our time together. But he plays a sport every Thursday night and I always really look forward to my nights in alone. But if I ever mention this to my friends, they seem to give me a vibe that they think it’s unusual, and can (unintentionally!) make me feel bad for enjoying my alone nights so much. And it’s made me question myself before, wondering if it’s a problem that I enjoy this one night a week to myself so much. But this thread has made me realise I am very, very normal!

I love it. It also love it when he goes away with work. Nothing against my lovely husband but I find it so liberating to have the house to myself.

Yanbu, completely normal to enjoy your own space.

My husband works away 3 nights a week and I love it.

I can't imagine having him around all the time!!

We're happily married by the way....probably because of this!

Oh I am glad it’s not just me. I too love the one evening a week when DH goes out to his extremely dull hobby. In fact on the weeks he doesn’t go, I’m told I get quite grumpy!
I love having control of the thermostat and the tv remote. I set the heating 2 degrees warmer than he would like it, put something rubbish on TV likely Gilmore Girls or something, and stretch out over the whole sofa.

why do so many men assume that the Tv remote is theirs and theirs alone?

I feel bad now because typically I go out to play sport twice a week but since I had an operation I’ve not been able to do this…poor DH must be missing his couple of hours of solitude!

Sounds like bliss!

I bloody love it and encourage it. A night of peace is just bliss!!

My DH used to travel overseas for work. My favourite thing when he was away was watching a horror film after the kids were in bed and eating my dinner whilst doing so. The cat and I were very partial to sharing a steak or if I had eaten with the children we would share a bag of crisps.

I love that man but can’t be with him 24/7.

My DH has gone away for the weekend. DC and I are enjoying the peace and quiet!

I love it. Doesn't happen often. The absolute best is when he takes the kids to visit his parents for the weekend and I stay home alone. I get the house tidy Friday night then just properly relax. Doesn't happen often as I like visiting his family but sometimes he knows I need it.

Good to read this thread, I was beginning to worry in light of recent and many threads that no man was allowed out alone, if he was there was a list of rules and incessant calls and texts for updates or his DW would feel unloved/abandoned.
How dare he socialise now he has KIDS, he must never leave the house.

I love it too, same when he goes away for a night or 2 for work. Love the quiet once daughter has gone to bed

the remote control is mine!

Me too :)

I was the same but DH works away Mon-Fri most weeks at the moment so I like it when he's home 😂. He was supposed to be away with his mates this weekend, I was secretly glad it was called off due to the weather.