Leaving a child in a shop

[Davegrohlsbabymama]

AIBU to think that leaving your 9 year old child in a shop and going back to your car with your 2 month old baby without saying anything is wrong?

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OP, if you don't have kids, you have no dog in this race

Was the child being taken back for a refund?

I've allowed my youngest, who was 9 at the time, to browse alone in The Entertainer whilst I went into Next with my daughter, but it was a shopping complex with the shops in a long line and no roads between them, plus he knew exactly where I was and that he wasn't to leave that one shop that I knew he was in.

Unless they told them and were coming back for them I cases a problem with this. My 9 year old is perfectly capable of browsing in a shop for a bit whilst I'm outside or in another shop.

The 9 year old should have been told but otherwise fine.

Presumably if the 9 year old wasnt aware there was a miscommunication ie 9 uear old wasnt listening/didnt notice parent telling the to come along.

Now start from the beginning and tell us the whole story.

I can imagine a scenario where I could leave my four year old in a shop to pop to the car. (E.g., car parked a few feet away, and I could see the shop door from the car, she'd be fine waiting by the door for a moment while I grabbed something out of the car - she's pretty sensible for her age and I could have eyes on her the whole time). I can also imagine a scenario where it wouldn't be appropriate to leave a nine year old alone in a shop, in particular if they didn't know you'd left.

Quite! I wonder why I am even bothering to read it, let alone find out more. Some people………!

Thanks for that. I was guessing it was her child and her ex-partner but can see now it would be partner's ex (obvs a hateful cow 🙄) who utterly abandoned partner's child. Presumably the 9yo relayed the story, and if ex said she did tell child she was leaving and child didn't hear, well obviously she's lying and that didn't happen, she Just Left Them There.

What say you @Davegrohlsbabymama ?

Ok 9 year old goes into shop with mum and her 2 month old half brother. Mum leaves with baby and says nothing to 9 year old. 9 year old is crying because she doesn’t know where mum is.

And I do have a child of my own she is 25.

Why are there so many evil people on here?

Ok 9 year old goes into shop with mum and her 2 month old half brother. Mum leaves with baby and says nothing to 9 year old. 9 year old is crying because she doesn’t know where mum is.

Could you not just have said that in your first post? Why the need to be so cryptic?

Fewer 'evil people' than drama llamas who leave most of the relevant information out of the op then come back for the big drip feed tbh.

We’re not particularly evil, we just dislike cryptic posts. They’re irritating. Give all the relevant information at once, so people don’t have to pry it out, for goodness sake.

And you heard this from the 9yo?

My 9 year old walks to and from school and goes to the shop alone. Granted they are no more than 10 minute walks. But I don't see the problem here.

Just seen the update. I would assume mum thought child was following her. And maybe it would be good to start teaching the 9 year old some independence.

Because there are awful people on here. They are left alone at 5 and can take if themselves.

i Don’t actually care. Not my child. I just wondered if others found it weird to walk out of a shop and say nothing to your child. It doesn’t matter if I have children or not. I do and I would never have done that with mine. Does it really matter about what I have written before but so many think that is important and then attack.

You cared enough to start a thread with half the information missing

And again, was it the 9yo who told you "mum just left me" or have you heard out ex's side of the story?

Not evil...just very confused by your rather vague and obtuse posts!

None of it makes any sense OP, without absolute context! Start again, properly, use the '5 Ws' approach to retell the event:

1: Who (exactly who, not your vague approach!),

2: What happened (in detail!)

3: Where (set the scene so it's clear to anyone reading)

4: When (if relevant)

5: Why (why is this important to you...what's your link, if any, to the people involved or the situation).

Imagine you're a reporter and you are trying to get all the facts down clearly for people to understand.

It's not actually that hard...and yet you've managed to make it so very difficult to understand 🤷‍♀️

As you weren't there, can you be sure that's the true story? Maybe mum said to the 9 yr old we have got to go now but they weren't listening. Where did mum go? How long til they realised child wasn't with them? What happened next?
Still more details needed I think before judging as so far all sounds very bizarre.

If your not directly involved you dont actually know what happened. Was the child listening did the mum have a moment of baby brain. I work in a shop and the amount of people who get distracted and forget their child is with them momentarily is unbelievable but it happens just like people who accidentally leave their kids in cars it happens, people make mistakes.

Hmm you knew enough info to know that the children are half siblings, what difference does that make?