Leaving a child in a shop

[Davegrohlsbabymama]

AIBU to think that leaving your 9 year old child in a shop and going back to your car with your 2 month old baby without saying anything is wrong?

Context might help people decide.

It's entirely different when the adult in charge just disappears (if that's the case) , especially if they rely on said adult to get home .

Things change in 30 years.

In all the primary schools I've taught in recently, y5 are encouraged to walk home by themselves. That's 9 or 10. They might even pass the shop and go in it.

Ah yes, that would be different I agree @BlueSilverCats

Was that what happened op?

Why is it wrong? A 9 year old can be alone in a shop for a few minutes. A 9 year old can go to the shop alone if it's fairly close to home.

What's the drama?

It's weird not to tell the child. I wouldn't leave my husband in the shop and leave without telling him unless it was really necessary! (He is allowed to shop independently!)

Not very nice of the mother not tell the 9 year old that she was leaving the shop if that's what happened.

I missed a trick here. Push the kids into Smyths, walk down to the coffee shop in The Range.

No it’s fine.

If the mum has forgot her purse or bags, then it’s simple to just nip back and grab them.
There’s no harm in the 9yo waiting in the shop for her.

As in leaving the 9yo at door while running out to get the baby? Depending on the circumstance I'd probably be comfortable doing that with my 6yo .

9 year olds can go to the shops on their own.

9 is fine. They can walk home from school alone by now. YABU

Ffs another stupid opening post with literally no context! What is wrong with some people when they start threads?? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

I used to let my now teenagers stay on the toy aisle in Asda, when they were that age, while I did the shopping but at least they know where I was. I never thought it was a terrible thing to do but even though it was only about 5 years ago I'm not sure I would do it now.
I don't know in OPs case as not enough details.

I see your name often pop up with this sort of sense - it's so silly isn't it. MORE INFO OP

What's changed? Apart from traffic?

Awareness of pedophiles. The Internet fueling their crimes.

Do you live in an area with a high stabbing rate?

With Christmas coming up, isn't it a bit dangerous to leave a child in a toy aisle/shop?

I mean, I'd love a bit of peace and quiet but mine would come out with a Santa list as long as his arm!

It's courtesy to tell anyone you're with if you're going to pop out if the store when they expect you to still be in there. Possibly a bit different these days if you both have phones and the leaving person sends a message to let other person know where they are. Don't think age matters.

All depends on context. Of course an average 9yo can be a shop alone, however it's not cool to disappear on someone - no matter how old they are - without letting them know where you're going.

9? I was walking 2 miles a day across 2 busy roads age 9.

All of this times have changed, no they haven'r really apart from there is more traffic on the roads. In terms of a 9 yr old being capable of being in a shop, they absolutely should be able to. My 10 year old SEN child is capable of doing that.

If your child isn't, then that's on the parenting, not the child.

My own 9 year old is capable of shopping on their own, putting the kettle on, making a simple dinner, crossing a quieter road and going to his friends on his own. (amonthst lots of other things)

Depends.

Not saying anything to an adult but telling your nine year old and then leaving them in the local corner shop while you grab your purse from the car a few yards away in the car park for ninety seconds - fine.

Leaving your nine year old in a massive IKEA without telling them or anyone else while you go and spend half an hour breastfeeding in your car at the other end of a multi-storey car park - completely wrong.

Frankly leaving anyone of any age without telling them is pretty crap.

such an annoying post. What do you mean they were left?

Abandoned with no communication whilst the adult went home - not ok
Left looking around the shop/minding the trolley for 2 minutes and told what was happening - completely fine