Holiday and friend.

[Speckyfourfries]

Planned a trip abroad next summer. Costing just under 1k each. My friend was very much up for this and helped choose dates and hotel etc. She couldn't afford to pay upfront so I have paid the full amount with the agreement she will pay me back a monthly amount, her first payment was due next week.
She has just text me to say she's really sorry but can't go now.
I would/will go alone but she's now thinking she doesn't have to pay me?
Aibu in still expecting the money?
I have no one else to go with but that's not the issue its the money, I've just looked and could get a partial refund for £460 for cancelling her share but should she still pay me what I've paid upfront for her ? Or do I get the partial refund and cut my losses :-(
I feel like such an idiot..

She absolutely should pay you for what you can’t get refunded.

She essentially borrowed money from you at the point of booking, this now has to be repaid.

Ouch. She should definitely pay you what you can’t get refunded if you decide to go without her. And don’t feel bad about asking her for it either, her actions shouldn’t leave you out of pocket.

Get the refund and she should pay you the rest. Unlikely she will though.

Yep she should pay what you can't get refunded

She absolutely should pay back. It's her decision not to go but she can't decide that you need to fork out the bill. When I had to pull out of a holiday one time, my friend sent me a breakdown straight away saying, OK I got this much back, so you still owe me X. It was no problem at all and I was happy to pay.

She should pay you what you dont get refunded.

Oh dear, this is an lesson into why you should never book with someone else unless they have paid something.

What refund do you get if you cancel all of it ? Many of the large holiday operators only charge £60-90 per person if it's cancelled more than 90 days in advance.

Ofcourse she has to pay you!

Sorry meant to say she thinks ill be able to get someone to replace her place and they can pay...

She needs to pay the balance after the refund.

Yes but what if you don't want to holiday with that person?

She needs to pay u

There will likely be an extra cost if you go alone. Prices are often based on 2 sharing

So she can pay and if she finds someone, they can square it between them.
I would text her now and say that you can get £460 back, meaning her share is now XYZ. Would she still like to cancel or would she prefer to find someone else to go in her place.
Put it right back to her.

Well
if you can then happy days. But it has to be someone you’d be happy to go on holiday with.

I hope she has a good reason for not coming?

She should cover the cost, yes, but I’d imagine she won’t want to.

I think you need to tell her she needs to find someone to replace her (if you want her to do that) who will need to pay you, or she needs to pay her remaining balance after you get a refund.

Has she said anything about owing you money?

Get the refund and she owes the rest! Cheek of her.

She needs to pay you; it’s likely she won’t do and this is the end of the friendship. I would still go without her and ask her for the balance.

I'd tell her that I wouldn't have booked the holiday to go with anyone else, so you will request a refund for her share, but as it won't be the full amount she will need to make up the difference.

Of course that’s what she’s hoping for so that she doesn’t have to pay but she needs to pay the money that can’t be refunded in case you don’t or can’t find a replacement holiday friend.

The title of your post is wrong ..
She's not your friend.
A friend would not do that , especially knowing you had paid for her
I doubt very much she will pay you a penny

I guess in her situation I would hope you could find someone else to go with but if you can't/don't want to then she should absolutely pay what you can't get refunded. You have probably lost a friend either way.

Of course she has to pay you back. What a CF.

Of course she has to pay, but don't be surprised if she doesn't.
Cancel and get what you can back.
Learn from this.
NEVER pay for anything in advance for someone.
It saves so much hassle.