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What age would you say my child was

218 replies

Therewerenosnowdaysinthenineties · 19/11/2024 20:40

From this?

Please be honest.

My dc has been ill since June and unable to attend school, I’ve been doing some work with her at home, however, she’s too ill
most of the time and my main focus is on getting her better. Her educational development is niggling away at me a little now though. She reads well, is eloquent in her speaking and her maths seems good. Her writing to me seems lower than it should be, will she catch up when better?

What age would you say my child was
OP posts:
vegaspotty · 19/11/2024 21:14

HNRTFT but I would guess about 5-6 .
My handwriting is illegible and I am 60 !
Just enjoy your child and stop comparing..they are all different!

blackpinkinyourarea · 19/11/2024 21:15

I would have said year 2.
Definitely not age 4/reception.....my summer born dd4 in reception is improving every week but still a long way off that level of writing, spelling and drawing!!

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:15

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:12

99% of 4 year olds can't spell?

Cite your source please.

Oh give over. Most 4 year olds cannot spell care or bear independently at this point in the school year. They are very unlikely to have learnt the phonics sounds for it yet. Some 4 year olds are still in nursery.
A child could produce that work by copying. But it was implied that it was independent work.

Fizzywizzy2 · 19/11/2024 21:16

I have a child in year 1 and her handwriting is worse, spelling is very hit and miss, so I'm going to guess anywhere between year 1 and year 3?

Fireworkwatcher · 19/11/2024 21:16

I wouldn’t be concerned at all OP - my youngest was writing like that way older than 6 and he is comfortably above average now at 14 . The best of luck to you both in getting her better .

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:16

Chan9eusername · 19/11/2024 21:12

A four year old who can spell bear and care?

Or can copy them off something. Not unusual. My Dc would have at 4 nearly 5.

Exactly this. Some real projecting going on on this thread. Some people getting very uptight because other posters are saying their child could write like this at 4. Some are refusing to believe it. Just because your children couldn't, that doesn't mean other peoples children can't.

TheBigSalami · 19/11/2024 21:17

I’d say about 4.

SunQueen24 · 19/11/2024 21:17

I’m surprised people saying reception or year 1. It’s clearer than my Yr1 DC and his teacher is thrilled with his writing.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:18

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:15

Oh give over. Most 4 year olds cannot spell care or bear independently at this point in the school year. They are very unlikely to have learnt the phonics sounds for it yet. Some 4 year olds are still in nursery.
A child could produce that work by copying. But it was implied that it was independent work.

I see you can't provide a source for your made-up statistic that 99% of 4 year olds can't spell.

Thought you wouldn't be able to. Because that statistic is rubbish.

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Chan9eusername · 19/11/2024 21:18

A 7/8 year old would be in year 3 and would be writing joined up.

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:18

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:18

I see you can't provide a source for your made-up statistic that 99% of 4 year olds can't spell.

Thought you wouldn't be able to. Because that statistic is rubbish.

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Edited

It's a turn of phrase. I could edit to say "most' if it makes you happy?

ShinyPebble32 · 19/11/2024 21:19

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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:19

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:18

It's a turn of phrase. I could edit to say "most' if it makes you happy?

Nice backpedalling! 😂

Whippetlovely · 19/11/2024 21:19

TeddyBeans · 19/11/2024 20:41

Very similar to my son who is year 2. His reading is beautiful but his writing is lack lustre. We are working on it a lot at home

Same my son is in year two, he writes letters backwards still but is very good at reading.

O6bftdff · 19/11/2024 21:20

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:16

Exactly this. Some real projecting going on on this thread. Some people getting very uptight because other posters are saying their child could write like this at 4. Some are refusing to believe it. Just because your children couldn't, that doesn't mean other peoples children can't.

I don’t have children so no skin in the game. But the huge majority of four year olds absolutely cannot write like this and cannot spell these words. Some protégés might, but it’s wrong to claim it’s usual.

AnonAnom940 · 19/11/2024 21:20

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:19

Nice backpedalling! 😂

I never back pedalled. You took something from what I wrote that was never there. You'd have found something to dig at no matter what I put.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/11/2024 21:21

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Oh cool the drama. She just wanted reassurance the writing is about where it should be.

Chilling my arse.

twohotwaterbottles · 19/11/2024 21:21

Interlaken · 19/11/2024 20:43

OMG that is so adorable. Gifts for mummy.
Cake; Bear; PJ Top and Pants. Someone loves their Mum… regardless of what age they are.

And that... is the perfect response. Please don't be anxious mum. In a few years when you read that your only reaction will be an overwhelming surge of love. Honest. I've been there 🥰

Tina159 · 19/11/2024 21:22

If you wanted a little activity for her to do that's not too strenuous I'd get her some of those wipeable books with a pen that practice letter formation. You can get them from amazon. It will be easier for her if she doesn't get the wrong way of forming letters too ingrained IMO.

At 6 and a little bit I wouldn't worry OP, but nearly 6 months of illness sounds awful - is she on the mend now? I hope so, poor little thing.

Saschka · 19/11/2024 21:22

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:16

Exactly this. Some real projecting going on on this thread. Some people getting very uptight because other posters are saying their child could write like this at 4. Some are refusing to believe it. Just because your children couldn't, that doesn't mean other peoples children can't.

We are saying the majority of children in Autumn term in Reception cannot spell those words independently. Which they can’t. EAR is a phase 3 phoneme usually taught in Y1, split digraphs also usually taught in Y1.

Of course there will be outliers, but that wasn’t what was asked.

BarbaraHoward · 19/11/2024 21:22

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I imagine the parent of a child so ill that they have been off school for 5 months will be anxious and concerned about many things, and that the writing is probably about a million items down the list from OP's primary concern.

I can't imagine trying to keep my sick child on track with their education like that. Hopefully the thread has reassured OP that all is well on the writing front.

Ceebs85 · 19/11/2024 21:23

I was going to say 6 before I saw your update. I brought up my concern about handwriting at my kid's recent parents evening and they reassured me that they focus more on the phonics/building blocks of the words and the actual writing/form of the letters just comes with time

Please don't worry 💕

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:23

O6bftdff · 19/11/2024 21:13

It is very unusual. Don’t be silly.

It really isn't.

StrongbutTired00 · 19/11/2024 21:23

I’d guess around age 6

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/11/2024 21:24

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/11/2024 21:21

Oh cool the drama. She just wanted reassurance the writing is about where it should be.

Chilling my arse.

I agree. CHILL @ShinyPebble32 Shock

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