I need moral support... some context; husband is a bit needy with his family - the neglected sibling, likes to blame me that we don't get invited along to things by his domineering mother / sister (I don't fall into line)..
Friday night my mum offered to babysit (happens rarely, she lives alone, my sister was visiting so was going to help mind our kids, our in laws never offer) I had a big week at work and some major stressful stuff lately so sad looking forward to a night out. Last time I had dinner out was in July.
It was MIL / SIL birthday at weekend also so I thought it would be nice to suggest to husband to invite them to local swanky restaurant. Friday didn't suit. Checked with my babysitters and they said they could do Saturday. Text this to husband who said ok, and that his other sister be there also and he that booking was for a pub grub style place for 5pm.
I was disappointed. I didn't want pub grub I had suggested the local swanky place and I knew his sister was visiting with her 5 year old and wondered who was babysitting the child.
Got home after work and asked who is babysitting your other sisters child and he replied oh she's coming too.
I was livid!! Why the heck would I get a babysitter to mind my 3 young children only to have dinner with a 5 year old at 5pm!! When I suggested that he book us a table elsewhere and we meet MIL and SIL after for a drink he said no way and weren't we going out for their birthday why would he do that??
I was so hurt and disappointed. In the end I stayed at home and got takeaway with kids and he went out for dinner. I haven't spoken to him since. He doesn't understand why I'm so angry and hurt all he can see is that the dinner was about his mother... AIBU??