To be terrified of ww3

[Rubytuesday77]

i know worrying won’t make a blind bit of difference but I feel so uneasy and just plain scared. Things seem to be ramping up. Sorry to unburden, I know nobody has a crystal ball but I suppose im just wanting some reassurance I could be wrong itms.😳

NOT GOING TO HAPPEN

Your people are here OP: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5213109-should-we-be-worried-about-war

There have been various times once WW2 where we have been on the brink and it hasn't happened .

Get on with your life.

Eh. Either we're all going to die in a fiery nuclear apocalypse, or a fiery climate apocalypse. There's not point worrying about it either way. Just get on with life.

Just go for a lie down with a nice vodka and tonic (without the tonic) 😉

When I voice my concerns to dh he just says, “good bring it on.” No wonder I come on here. 😟

When I tell my husband I'm worried he says "There's no point in worrying - there's nothing you can do about it". To which I say "That's why I'm worrying! If I could do something about it, I wouldn't worry I'd just do it. It's the fact that I can't do anything that makes me worry." We'll never see eye-to-eye. 😔

Yes It doesn’t help at all does it. At one time he’d reassure me but he doesn’t anymore. It’s all right for him he isn’t the slightest bit worried. Not that he doesn’t think it might happen but he thinks it’s what the world needs.

Do you worry a lot?

Yes I do unfortunately

We had an aeroplane that sounded like it was going to crash into our town at 8am on the weekend, long nose dive noise. I actually felt quite at peace with it all and spent more time wondering who it was and whether they were trying to draw attention to the plight in Ukraine/Gaza. Although I suspect that's more being locked onto by a drone, which is a terrifying prospect. We should start with more laws on those.

Well your OH is been an arse.

What? Because he won't indulge unhealthy and unreasonable anxiety.

Wow.

I was trying to be nice to the OP

It won't happen.

Please no, not before I receive my Whole Fox xmas hoodie 🙏.

Just kidding. OP, you can calm down, there will be no such thing.

Reminds me of when people were saying covid wouldn't be an issue in the UK and "no way will we end up in lockdown"

Haven't you seen the other thread on this?

Wow. No. It's because instead of being a good partner and listening to OP's concerns, he says ww3 would be a good thing to happen.

He sounds delusional tbh.

Fishing for reassurance over something so futile is not a good look. Unhealthy in fact.

I'm not surprised her partner reacts this way tbh. Living with a partner with unreasonable levels of anxiety is emotionally draining.

My son is in the RAF and if things-go pear shaped he could be involved. Am I worried? No.
Why? Because o doubt things will escalate to that extent. There could be conflict but our daily lives will probably not change.

I have always been a worrier. As a child in the 1950s I would listen to adults and go away and worry. I worried about going to hell( Sunday school made a bad impression)
I worried as a schoolchild ( about atom bombs) and as a young adult ( relative in army in Northern Ireland)
I worried about my children's futures ,about gay friend during the AIDS crisis. Oh and the " mad cow" threat. The foot and mouth crisis ( family business directly affected) There are so many and it's more difficult when you feel helpless.
Reassurance that " it won't happen " didn't help. I lived with a relative who was severely disfigured by an incident in WW2 which made me think the worse can happen. It mostly didn't. Rolling news doesn't help. All I can suggest is limiting exposure to it. ( and I allow myself a few minutes of worrying and then try and distract myself with something useful ,like a boring task. Sorry you feel like this

You sound as tone deaf as the husband.

I've had anxiety over this from when I was younger. I had a relative in London who we visited and I overheard them talking about something going on at the time and it took me years to get over it. The fear then came back when russia invaded mainly because my child came back from school in tears because children told her we were going get bombed. Then I started to think it was all just scaremongering and settled my mind but today I pop over to the news sites and faced with the headings "we are in ww3" "war before Christmas" and more. I found myself talking to the screen saying please stop escalating. I know people will say get on with life. It's nothing we can control and I know that but I felt physically sick. I'm ill at the moment anyway and when my daughter came home from school my heart sank. I couldn't see her go through war and pain.

The husband has had enough of constantly having to reassure her. I would be the same, given that it sounds exhausting.