To not attempt potty training with 3yo again?

[Blueowlnight]

We tried to potty train our (then) 2yr8mo old over summer. She got poos very quickly, but had multiple wee accidents a day, would always dribble wee before going to the potty, and sometimes would sit in wet knickers without telling anyone. We persisted for 3 months, tried rewards, lots of praise, really tried to keep pressure off, let her choose the knickers, tried to tell her to try (she is incredibly head strong though, so this never worked). Even
our childminder said she’s never seen it take so long. Her fluid intake is rubbish (again, tried so many things), which might affect it. Otherwise, we and her childminder all sort of thought she just didn’t care enough about it. In the end I asked her if she wanted to wear knickers and she said no and we went back to nappies at 2yr 11mo

that was 2mo ago and I can’t face it again until she shows she wants to. She still poos in her potty but shows no interest in wees. There’s a lot of shade being thrown at “lazy parents” not training by reception age, so I’m so stressed she’s not going to get it in time.

AIBU to have not persisted?

Have a break over winter, try again in Spring.

No idea why u carried on when she wasn’t getting it, u just made it that she thinks weeing in her knickers is fine, normally if they don’t get it in a few days stop and try again in a few weeks, not 3 months of not getting it and carrying on.

Wow, another super unhelpful response.

I'd hold off 'til Spring.
My twins were 3 years 2 months when I started loo training them and it was the right time for them.