So hard having a baby

[InOverMyHead88]

I know I'm unreasonable. Everyone told me having a baby is hard. But dear god, I was not prepared for it. I'm sleep deprived, depressed, bored, and overwhelmed all at the same time. Baby is 12 weeks which I was told is this magical time when baby gets easier. She must be having a growth spurt though because she's suddenly not sleeping and feeding ALL the time. I feel like a dairy cow.

Boss at my old job told a woman who announced her pregnancy that her life is over and she'll never sleep again. I thought he was such a dick (and he was otherwise a really nice guy) for saying that. But I see it now. He was right.

My baby is gorgeous but how do people do this? Maybe I’m not cut out for this. My poor baby.

It doesn't help I have no one other than DH. No family. And friends are all childless and in work, so they just want to meet in the evenings which I can't do. I've met nice mums at mum coffee groups and they're nice but they all have their own lives, don't think I'm making any friends there.

Don't believe everything they say; out of my group of 8 baby mums I don't know one like that. All struggled in different ways.

@InOverMyHead88 how are you getting on now?

I will just say it is hard and an absolute shock to the system, but everything is temporary. The good, the bad, the ugly, it all passes for something else.

Get your husband to take the baby in the morning to allow you to have 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep, you will feel like a new woman.

Oh wow I had forgotten i posted here. God 12 weeks was such an unbelievably low point. I had always expected the newborn stage to be HARD but when I got to 12 weeks and it was actually getting harder, I hit such a mental wall.

@PickledElectricity We're almost 5 months now and happy to report we are finally doing better 😊 still sleep deprived but not quite as bad and I think I am taking things more in my stride. I care less about what people think. Accepted my life has changed and I'm not superwoman.

My baby is SO CUTE right now too. He's got proper fat rolls and is giggling and I love him so much, it's incredible how much they change.

The adjustment is hellish but women are dismissed when they talk of it.

You’ll get through this, promise. 6-12 weeks is so so rough, this is when baby really ‘wakes’ up and shows you that you’re merely a slave 😆

A couple more months and your baby will accept that they’re here to stay, things sometimes suck (like no milk NOWNOWNOW) and start being a bit more reasonable. They also develop a personality so you can relate and not just feel like you’re caring for a screaming tyrannical alien. I promise you, just get through this.