Ignorant sister.

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To sum it up I bend myself backwards to support my sister. She's currently living in temporary accommodation with my nephew and niece after loosing her rental, a nice temporary accommodation she's got her own little lodge, I've emotionally and physically supported her every step of the way, I feed her children, give her money, wash and dry her clothes, anything she needs I'm there, but she's also quite selfish, if you can't do something her attitude changes. Regardless we see and speak daily as our children go to the same school, but on Friday after school pick up for the entire weekend she falls of the end of the earth, I call and she ignores, I message no response, not a message to say she's a little busy nothing at all until the next Monday at school drop off, and I'm beginning to get a little frustrated with it and feel like she only initiates conversation with me when she needs something. She's well aware my life is quite isolating I have 2 neurodivergent children, no car I mostly just spent my time inside and I enjoy small conversations with people throughout the day to feel less alone, am I being unreasonable? I just constantly feel used and then dropped when I'm no longer needed.

I’d rather be sensitive than repeatedly asking cruel questions.
She probably didn’t reply because she was getting bombarded by horrible remarks by you. She clearly wanted help rather than defend herself about how many friends she’s got.

Just read the thread back, although if you don’t think what you said was cruel at the time it’s not like a few hours later is going to make much difference.

concentrate on your own life and making friends that will be there at the weekends. If you spend all your time and energy on someone who is not meeting you half way in a friendship - then, allow that to take a back seat and make more time for other people.

Or you don’t want to read the thread back? I’m really not super invested in this. I’m happy to step in when I think someone has been cruel to another on a post. But I’m not going to spend hour trying to teach a grown up how not to be mean. If you’ve got time to carry on, perhaps take your sage advice to the OP about getting a hobby.

To be honest I wouldn't be picking up the phone to someone I have spoken to for 5 days straight. I find social interaction draining, I especially struggle with calls and do watch the phone ring when I don't have the energy to talk. I would make more of an effort if I knew someone felt isolated but would likely suggest a scheduled face to face get together at the weekend rather than being available all weekend for phone calls. Maybe let her know how you feel and listen to what her reasons are for not answering. There may be an opportunity for a compromise.

Grow a backbone and start telling her no.