Feeling so stuck

[Beautifulfoool]

I'm feeling so stuck and paralysed. I know I am in the wrong relationship but feel really attached to him and struggling to leave as we have been together almost 10 years. He doesn't want kids, I've been on the fence but the more I see my friends having babies it's making me think that's what I want and that I'd have a lot of love to give. I'm just feeling really unhappy in my relationship, unmet needs and feeling unappreciated, I've started drinking too much and generally just feel miserable. He's also been emotionally abusive in the past. I need to get out of this rut and realise what's ahead of me long term if I stay. Just want some advice on how to get myself unstuck? Been going to counselling but my "homework" is to figure out what I need from her to help me leave and I'm stumped 😕

In what way are you stumped? Most people would leave a relationship that was making them miserable, especially if there were no children.

Yes I feel stumped as to what is keeping me here if that makes sense. It's like I'm so attached to this person I can't imagine leaving no matter what he does

Some things I can suggest.

Ask your counsellor to help challenge your thinking. To come up with solutions to your problems.

Gather some support around you. Tell family and friends that you want to leave and lean on them.

Research the reality of leaving for example your finances and housing.

Most of all bear in mind that in ten years, you'll be just as miserable but a decade older.