Should DD20 BF of offered to get her takeaway or AIBU

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Not sure if I am being unreasonable here
DD20 bf and his sister got themselves takeaway tonight and her bf didn’t offer to get her anything (just to add DD has paid for him before) they are going out to his family house and I told her if she’s hungry to let them know there.
AIBU that maybe her bf should have offered since she’s paid for him before or AIBU in my thinking?

You've sent your 15 year old daughter out to get food and personally deliver it to your 20 year old adult daughter who's at her boyfriends house with him and his family?

Wtf

Oh dear. I misread it. That's exactly what the OP meant😁

I misread it too!

I read it the same but another poster pointed out the OP meant she'd sent her DD 15 (quid)

Rude

I just saw that and it makes a lot more sense!

OH!!!!! I thought she sent their 15 year old

I meant we sent our dd £15

But leaping to the assumption that the OP's daughter is both a liar and a drug user isn't?

🤣

This thread is making me laugh. I think she sent the 15 year old to buy the drugs.

Obviously that's what happend. Any other interpretation is just wrong

That is an excellent idea!

Aaah, the ones that should be in there. I still laugh at some of them, not least my namesake. I think the Balons thread was my favourite but that was some 10 years ago or more. Still makes me laugh today😂😂

We definitely need a MN Thread Replies Hall of Fame...

So why tell her if she’s hungry to tell his parents

I hope your dd doesn’t go hungry OP but she really needs to think for herself, like remembering money if she’s going out and speaking up for herself.
Shes 20 !

TBF my adult kids would tap me up for money for a takeaway if the were skint.

Why are you babying this grown adult?

It's not babying to help your adult kids out sometimes.It's okay to be nice to your kids even when they are all grown up.

Assume OP wanted her older DD to of a takeaway so gave money to to the younger one to get it for her?

Agree it's unfair for the BF to of a takeaway and not of let his GF of some.

There is no younger DD. The Op sent her DD 15 quid. Presumably by bank transfer although at this stage I have no idea where the takeaway was consumed.

Of course it's nice to be nice to your kids whatever their age but in this situation, it's definitely babying:

Presumably DD20 is working and no doubt most of what money she gets from that will be disposable income so why would she have zero money when going out on a Saturday evening (not just physically in her purse but in her bank account) to the point that you have to send her £20?

If she knew she had no money and would be hungry. what was her plan for feeding herself? Was it just an assumption that boyfriend or mum would pay?

Why is she messaging her mum instead of speaking up for herself with her boyfriend and his sister if she's not happy with them?

Why was your immediate response that BF's parents should feed her and then that you would send money?

Different if she was 12 going to a mates house after school, but she's not, she's a grown adult.

I don't think he's rude not to have offered. If your DD has no money, why assume the boyfriend or his sister has spare money?
If she can't afford she doesn't get or you give her but don't expect her boyfriend to fund her

If roles were reversed and your DD was expected to buy the BF we'd all be saying he should have his own money 🤷🏻‍♀️

No, they sent their daughter £15 to her bank.

Woah that escalated quickly 🤣

She is 20 and should be perfectly capable of deciding for herself how she feels about this and reacting accordingly.

Our DS girlfriend (19) is around here every weekend, works full-time with minimal outgoings yet we buy her takeaway every weekend with ours and there's never an offer of her buying her own or giving us our money back. It's easily an extra £10/15 a week. We just spoke about it today and it'll be stopping. Entitlement at its best.

Tbh i think she's played you OP it was very easy for her to get £15 out of you.
She's 20 if she's no money to pay her own way she needs to look at budgeting better id feel cross if i had a 20 year old son and his gf forever turned up with no money expecting him to offer to pay her way, this isn't the 50's she's not his responsibility.

If in times before she's paid as its been her hosting she needs to speak up and say its your turn as i paid last time, not ask you for money. She's an adult